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8/24/2020 "BONDI NG" AND T HE I MPORT ANCE OF I N-PE RSON VI SI T S: CONSI DE RAT I ONS I N A VI RT UAL WORL D JE NNIF E R SAPIA PH.D.|AUGUST24, 2020 1 OUR VI RT UAL NE W WORL D 2 DOE S PHYSI CAL
JE NNIF E R SAPIA PH.D.|AUGUST24, 2020
Bo tto m L ine Up F ro nt SOME T HI NGS WORK WE L LVI RT UAL L Y PARE NT I NG PARE NT I NG I SN'T I SN'T ONE ONE OF OF T HE M T HE M
NOT HI NG BE AT S PHYSI CAL CONT ACT T HE RE I S NO SUBST I T UT E F OR F ACET O F ACE , I N PE RSON I NT E RACT I ON
AGE Pre -sc ho o l a g e a lte rs the sub sta nc e a nd q ua lity
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Ofte n use d inte rc ha ng e a b ly b ut no t the sa me Pa re nts bond with c hildre n T he fe e ling o f c lo se ne ss tha t a mo the r/ c a re g ive r fe e ls to wa rd he r b a b y is c a lle d “bonding” Childre n attach to pa re nts Ho w yo u b uild a re la tio nship o ve r time tha t he lps a c hild fe e l se c ure , lo ve d, a nd e q uippe d to fa c e the wo rld A pr
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Po sitive c a re g iving e na b le s a c hild to trust, fe e l
c lo se to o the rs, a nd c a re a b o ut o the r's fe e ling s.
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A re c ipro c a l pro c e ss in whic h a n e mo tio na l c o nne c tio n de ve lo ps b e twe e n a n infa nt a nd the ir prima ry c a re ta ke r (mo st o fte n the mo the r) A re c ipro c a l pro c e ss in whic h a n e mo tio na l c o nne c tio n de ve lo ps b e twe e n a n infa nt a nd the ir prima ry c a re ta ke r (mo st o fte n the mo the r) Atta c hme nt influe nc e s the infa nt’ s physic a l, c o g nitive , a nd psyc ho lo g ic a l de ve lo pme nt a nd b e c o me s the b a sis fo r the de ve lo pme nt o f b a sic trust (o r mistrust) Atta c hme nt influe nc e s the infa nt’ s physic a l, c o g nitive , a nd psyc ho lo g ic a l de ve lo pme nt a nd b e c o me s the b a sis fo r the de ve lo pme nt o f b a sic trust (o r mistrust) Child use s the prima ry c a re g ive r a s a se c ure b a se fro m whic h to e xplo re the wo rld, a nd whe n ne c e ssa ry, a s a so urc e o f sa fe ty a nd c o mfo rt Child use s the prima ry c a re g ive r a s a se c ure b a se fro m whic h to e xplo re the wo rld, a nd whe n ne c e ssa ry, a s a so urc e o f sa fe ty a nd c o mfo rt
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Atta c hme nt a ffe c ts b ra in de ve lo pme nt a nd sha pe s ho w the c hild will re la te to the wo rld, le a rn, a nd fo rm re la tio nships thro ug ho ut life Atta c hme nt a ffe c ts b ra in de ve lo pme nt a nd sha pe s ho w the c hild will re la te to the wo rld, le a rn, a nd fo rm re la tio nships thro ug ho ut life He a lthy, se c ure a tta c hme nt o c c urs whe n the infa nt e xpe rie nc e s a prima ry c a re ta ke r a s c o nsiste ntly pro viding e mo tio na l e sse ntia ls suc h a s lo ve , to uc h, pla yful inte ra c tio n, c o mfo rt, e mo tio na l re g ula tio n, a nd me e ting
He a lthy, se c ure a tta c hme nt o c c urs whe n the infa nt e xpe rie nc e s a prima ry c a re ta ke r a s c o nsiste ntly pro viding e mo tio na l e sse ntia ls suc h a s lo ve , to uc h, pla yful inte ra c tio n, c o mfo rt, e mo tio na l re g ula tio n, a nd me e ting
T HAT 'S WHY WE WANT T O ST RE NGT HE N AND PRE SE RVE PARE NT
L D RE L AT I ONSHI PS
CARE GI VE R BE HAVI ORS ASSOCI AT E D WI T H SE CURE AT T ACHME NT
AT T UNE D: SE NSI T I VE T O CHI L D SI GNAL S AND ANT I CI PAT I ON OF NE E DS AT T UNE D: SE NSI T I VE T O CHI L D SI GNAL S AND ANT I CI PAT I ON OF NE E DS RE SPONSI VE : RE ACT QUI CK L Y AND POSI T I VE L Y T O CHI L D'S NE E DS RE SPONSI VE : RE ACT QUI CK L Y AND POSI T I VE L Y T O CHI L D'S NE E DS CL E AR, CONSI ST E NT , DE VE L OPME NT AL L Y APPROPRI AT E E XPE CT AT I ONS AND SUPE RVI SI ON CL E AR, CONSI ST E NT , DE VE L OPME NT AL L Y APPROPRI AT E E XPE CT AT I ONS AND SUPE RVI SI ON WARM, POSI T I VE , RE SPONSI VE VE RBAL AND PHYSI CAL I NT E RACT I ON WARM, POSI T I VE , RE SPONSI VE VE RBAL AND PHYSI CAL I NT E RACT I ON RE L I ABI L I T Y-PHYSI CAL AND E MOT I ONAL RE L I ABI L I T Y-PHYSI CAL AND E MOT I ONAL
E CHNOL OGY, PE RSONAL CHARACT E RI ST I CS, CU L T U RAL CONSI DE RAT I ONS
NI CAT I ON AND QU AL I T Y OF RE L AT I ONSHI P SU F F E RS SOME PE OPL E DON'T HAVE ACCE SS T O OR ARE JU ST NOT CU T OU T F OR VI RT U AL VI SI T S
GHT I MPACT ABI L I T Y T O ADDRE SS T HE SE CHANGE S ONCE VI SI T S RE SU ME PARE NT S MI SSI NG OU T ON K E Y DE VE L OPME NT AL MI L E ST ONE S/ I MPORT ANT L I F E E VE NT S
HE SE OPPORT U NI T I E S ARE MI SSE D WHE N NO F ACE T O F ACE CONT ACT
T S PROGRE SSI ON AND DE VE L OPME NT OF RE L AT I ONSHI P-MAY SE E RE GRE SSI ON CL E AR, CONSI ST E NT , DE VE L OPME NT AL L Y APPROPRI AT E E XPE CT AT I ONS AND SU PE RVI SI ON
ACK OF PROGRE SS" OR "DE T E RI ORAT I ON I N RE L AT I ONSHI P" RE U NI F I CAT I ON E F F ORT S BASE D I N PART ON F RE QU E NCY AND QU AL I T Y OF VI SI T S
DISRUPT PARE NT CHIL D RE L AT IONSHIP ADJUST ME NT / RISK F OR ME NT AL HE AL T H ISSUE S
CHANGE S-MORE CONF USION-MORE DISRUPT ION
T he se c hildre n ha ve e xpe rie nc e d a dve rsity a nd tra uma , le a ving the m mo re vulne ra b le to the c ha ng e s a nd iso la tio n tha t c o me with so c ia l dista nc ing : sc ho o l c lo sing s, la c k o f da ily c o nta c t with suppo rt ne two rk, the ra py a nd o the r fa mily se rvic e s disruptio n
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a nd c hildre n inte ra c t with o ne a no the r physic a lly, e mo tio na lly, & so c ia lly T he q ue stio n sho uldn't b e , "I s the re a n a tta c hme nt b e twe e n this pa re nt a nd this c hild? " T he q ue stio n sho uld b e "Wha t is the QUAL I T Y o f the a tta c hme nt b e twe e n this pa re nt a nd this c hild? "
An e va lua to r pa ys c lo se a tte ntio n to c e rta in c ha ra c te ristic s/ dyna mic s b e twe e n the pa re nt a nd the c hild:
F re q ue nc y a nd na ture o f to uc hing a s a n inde x o f c o mfo rt le ve l
g uida nc e se e king b e ha vio r b y the c hild
e ng a g e the c hild e ffe c tive ly a nd to re spo nd to the c hild’ s e xpre sse d sig na ls o r ne e ds in a n a ppro pria te ma nne r
c o nta c t a nd smile a t e a c h o the r
sig ns o f upse t if a se pa ra tio n
e xplo re the e nviro nme nt while the pa re nt is in the sa me ro o m.
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L D AT T ACHMENT RE L AT I ONSHI P PARE NT 'S RE SPONSI VNE SS T O CHI L D AND NE E DS NONVE RBAL L ANGUAGE AND WHAT I S COMMUNI CAT E D CHI L D'S SE E K I NG OF COMF ORT OR SUPPORT
AL L OWS F OR I DE NT I F I CAT I ON OF ST RE NGT HS AND WE AK NE SSE S PROVI DE S F OUNDAT I ON F OR PE RMANE NCY CASE PL AN WHAT PARE NT S NE E D T O WORK ON T O I MPROVE PARE NT I NG SK I L L S AND UL T I MAT E L Y RE UNI F Y WI T H CHI L D GI VE S PARE NT S A CHANCE T O BRI DGE T HAT GAP E MAIL : JE NNIF E R@ JE NNIF E RSAPIA.NE T