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Welcome to our Parent Workshop Developing Emotional Resilience in Children Plan for evening: 1900 Introductions 1905 Keynote presentation by Dr. Aaron Vallance, CAMHS 1940 Break 1945 Panel discussion 2015 Close Managing Anger Dr.

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Welcome to our Parent Workshop ‘Developing Emotional Resilience in Children’

Plan for evening: 1900 Introductions 1905 Keynote presentation by Dr. Aaron Vallance, CAMHS 1940 Break 1945 Panel discussion 2015 Close

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Managing Anger

Dr. Aaron Vallance

Consultant in Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, Surrey And Borders Partnership NHS Trust

Hon. Clinical Senior Lecturer, Imperial College London

Dad to Joe (ex-St Michaels) and Ben (4H)

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What gets YOU Angry?

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Anger is…

Normal
Common
Dependent on context/meaning of a situation.
May relate to other things going on.

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Emotional

Anger / frustration

Cognitive

“How dare you do/say that!” “It’s all ruined!” “So unfair!” “This is a big deal!”

Physiological

Muscle tension Restless Heart races Nausea / butterflies Clammy Difficulty breathing

Behavioural

Shout / argue Say something you don’t mean Leave Slam / Throw Hit out

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4 / 10 anger thermomete r

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8 / 10

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10 / 10

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Angry mind Wise mind

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Step 1: Acknowledge the feelings

Hmm..

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Step 1: Acknowledge the feelings

Hmm.. I can see you’re angry,

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Step 1: Acknowledge the feelings

Hmm.. I can see you’re angry, X must be really annoying you.

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Step 1: Acknowledge the feelings

Active listening – calmly
Name the feeling - descriptively
Connect with them, showing you understand

why they’re angry – non-judgementally / slowly

But if temperature is too hot, now’s not the time

to get drawn into the detail.

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Step 1 (if it’s you who’s angry): Acknowledge it!

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Step 2 (if things are too hot): Time Out

Somewhere:

To be alone
That’s calm & quiet
Distractions are okay

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10 / 10 anger thermomete r

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8 / 10

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Step 3: Strategies to reduce anger

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Breathing Exercises

slow deep breaths, counting..

Visualization

may incorporate

breathing exercise e.g. balloon, waves

Muscle Tension & Relaxation

work from head to

toe, tensing muscles then release

Mindfulness

bringing attention to the

present.

acknowledging any worries, but

gently move on to the senses.

guided mindfulness activities

(e.g. Headspace app).

Distraction

Step 3: Strategies to reduce anger

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Mindfulness exercise: “The Visitor”

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Step 4: Managing angry thoughts

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Step 4: Managing angry thoughts

People may have similar thoughts popping up

each time they’re angry, linked to wider tendencies in their patterns of thinking:

– Taking things too personally. – Overly focussing on the negative, ignoring the positive. – Expecting too much from themselves or others. – Black-and-white thinking.

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Step 4: Managing angry thoughts

Try to challenge negative thoughts with

something more balanced. E.g.

– “That email appeared hostile, but did they really mean it as such.” [not take things too personally] – “The passenger spent ages talking to the driver, but maybe they had a good reason. And so what if we’re late anyway.” [don’t expect too much from

thers / so what anyway]

– “My child ignored my instruction, but only because they were too busy clearing the table.”[ignoring the positive]

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Problem-solving

– listing solutions – pros & cons – who can help?

Anger related to defiant behaviour

– It’s only once anger has subsided, that would be best time to discuss the rule/instruction, and ensure it’s carried out.

Step 4: Managing angry thoughts

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Step 4: Managing angry thoughts What’s underneath the anger?..

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Managing anger when being bullied

Bullying can be:

– physical, verbal, or isolating. – in person or online.

Very understandable to be angry!
Tell parents and staff, so they can intervene.
When it occurs, best if child:

– Ignores/walks off. – If confident, responds unfazed…

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7

KjW1OIjuw

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Quality time is important!

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And so are the basics!..

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Summary

Acknowledge the feelings

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Be kind to yourself too: no-one’s perfect!

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Thank you!

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BREAK (5 mins) Please take a moment to write an anonymous question for the panel.

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PANEL DISCUSSION

Dr. Aaron Vallance, Consultant in Child

and Adolescent Psychiatry, CAMHS

Dr. Claire Whitefield, Consultant Child

and Adolescent Psychotherapist, CAMHS

James Bawn, Deputy Headteacher