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How Do I Become Resilient? 2019 IAMMA CONFERENCE BOB KIELY APRIL 12, 2019 Outline: Definition Setting Context Judgement Managing Emotions Negative and Positive Self Awareness Importance of Supportive Relationships Action Steps
2019 IAMMA CONFERENCE BOB KIELY APRIL 12, 2019
Definition Setting Context Judgement Managing Emotions – Negative and Positive Self Awareness Importance of Supportive Relationships Action Steps – Building Resilience
“Nearly $200K spent to support Amtrak stop without city council approval”
“How slowly or quickly you recover from adversity.”
Davidson
“Resilient individuals bounce back from stressful experiences quickly and efficiently, just as resilient metals bend but do not break.”
Barbara Fredrickson
“The capability to understand and adaptively deal with one’s own emotions and behaviors and those of others especially in demanding situations over protracted periods of time.”
Fred Harburg
Not all storms come to disrupt your life. Some come to clear your path.
Consistent employment of good judgment in the midst of sustained and intense stress. Negative emotions narrow focus to immediate danger Positive emotions make more expansive Coping that generates positive affect during stressful circumstances
Positive appraisal Problem-focused coping Infusion of ordinary events with positive meaning
Barbara Fredrickson
Consistent employment of good judgment in the midst
Negative emotions narrow focus to immediate danger Positive emotions make more expansive Coping that generates positive affect during stressful circumstances
Positive appraisal Problem-focused coping Infusion of ordinary events with positive meaning
Barbara Fredrickson
Measures of Judgment
Collect All Relevant Available Data Boil Down To Essence
Act
David E. Morrison, M.D.
FEEL:
DISORGANIZED — FRUSTRATED ANGRY — FEARFUL HELPLESS
DEPRESSION
⎯ APATHETIC
IRRITABLE UNABLE TO CONCENTRATE
INDECISIVE
WITHDRAWN
David E. Morrison, M.D.
Consistent employment of good judgment in the midst of sustained and intense stress. Negative emotions narrow focus to immediate danger Positive emotions make more expansive Coping that generates positive affect during stressful circumstances
Positive appraisal Problem-focused coping Infusion of ordinary events with positive meaning
Barbara Fredrickson
From Tomkins 1. 1.
Interest terest—exc excitem ement ent
2. 2.
Enjoy joyme ment—joy joy
3. 3.
Surp rpri rise se—sta tartle rtle
4. 4.
Distres ress—angu nguish ish
5. 5.
Fear ar—terror terror
6. 6.
Anger ger—rag rage
7. 7.
Shame hame—humil iliat iatio ion
8. 8.
Con
tempt pt
9. 9.
Disgust gust
“Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster.”
Nietzsche
WORKING WITH EMOTIONS
1. Get Curious About Emotions 2. Put feelings in perspective
Emotional responses are normal They inform us about ourselves and our environment
3. Be aware of feelings
Use them as data Work to understand them Know your own feelings
David E. Morrison, M.D.
Justification Of The Anger Righteousness Revenge Anger Is Destructive It Is All Powerful
David E. Morrison, M.D.
The Why of Self Awareness
Your acti tions determ rmin ine how people le se see you
The Council Leadership Team
The Media
The LEADER
Consistent employment of good judgment in the midst of sustained and intense stress. Negative emotions narrow focus to immediate danger Positive emotions make more expansive Coping that generates positive affect during stressful circumstances
Positive appraisal Problem-focused coping Infusion of ordinary events with positive meaning
Barbara Fredrickson
Perceive It Name It Understand Meaning Address your Mood Be Grateful Put Positive Meaning Into Ordinary Events
David E. Morrison, M.D.
Consistent employment of good judgment in the midst of sustained and intense stress. Negative emotions narrow focus to immediate danger Positive emotions make more expansive Coping that generates positive affect during stressful
circumstances Positive appraisal Problem-focused coping Infusion of ordinary events with positive meaning
Barbara Fredrickson
Finding Full Purpose in Life I Can Influence my Surroundings & Outcomes (Sphere of Influence) I can Learn and Grow From Both Positive and Negative Life Experiences (Shame is the Learning Affect!) Humor & Emphasis on Positive Emotions
Playful Acceptance Curious Empathy
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