How Do I Become Resilient? 2019 IAMMA CONFERENCE BOB KIELY APRIL 12, 2019
Outline: Definition Setting Context Judgement Managing Emotions – Negative and Positive Self Awareness Importance of Supportive Relationships Action Steps – Building Resilience
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Definition: Emotional Resilience “How slowly or quickly you recover from adversity.” Davidson “ Resilient individuals bounce back from stressful experiences quickly and efficiently, just as resilient metals bend but do not break. ” Barbara Fredrickson “ The capability to understand and adaptively deal with one ’ s own emotions and behaviors and those of others especially in demanding situations over protracted periods of time. ” Fred Harburg
Not all storms come to disrupt your life. Some come to clear your path.
BASICS OF EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE Consistent employment of good judgment in the midst of sustained and intense stress. Negative emotions narrow focus to immediate danger Positive emotions make more expansive Coping that generates positive affect during stressful circumstances Positive appraisal Problem-focused coping Infusion of ordinary events with positive meaning Barbara Fredrickson
BASICS OF EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE Consistent employment of good judgment in the midst of sustained and intense stress. Negative emotions narrow focus to immediate danger Positive emotions make more expansive Coping that generates positive affect during stressful circumstances Positive appraisal Problem-focused coping Infusion of ordinary events with positive meaning Barbara Fredrickson
Measures of Judgment Act Boil Down To Essence Collect All Relevant Available Data David E. Morrison, M.D.
PSYCHOLOGICAL RESPONSES TO STRESS FEEL : DISORGANIZED — FRUSTRATED ANGRY — FEARFUL HELPLESS DEPRESSION ⎯ APATHETIC IRRITABLE UNABLE TO CONCENTRATE INDECISIVE WITHDRAWN David E. Morrison, M.D.
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BASICS OF EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE Consistent employment of good judgment in the midst of sustained and intense stress. Negative emotions narrow focus to immediate danger Positive emotions make more expansive Coping that generates positive affect during stressful circumstances Positive appraisal Problem-focused coping Infusion of ordinary events with positive meaning Barbara Fredrickson
INNATE AFFECTS From Tomkins Interest terest — exc excitem ement ent 1. 1. Enjoy joyme ment — joy joy 2. 2. Surp rpri rise se — sta tartle rtle 3. 3. Distres ress — angu nguish ish 4. 4. Fear ar — terror terror 5. 5. Anger ger — rag rage 6. 6. Shame hame — humil iliat iatio ion 7. 7. Con ontem tempt pt 8. 8. Disgust gust 9. 9.
“ Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster.” Nietzsche
WORKING WITH EMOTIONS 1. Get Curious About Emotions 2. Put feelings in perspective Emotional responses are normal They inform us about ourselves and our environment 3. Be aware of feelings Use them as data Work to understand them Know your own feelings David E. Morrison, M.D.
IDEAS THAT KEEP ANGER ALIVE Justification Of The Anger Righteousness Revenge Anger Is Destructive It Is All Powerful David E. Morrison, M.D.
The Why of Self Awareness Your acti tions determ rmin ine how people le se see you The Council The Media The LEADER Leadership Team
BASICS OF EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE Consistent employment of good judgment in the midst of sustained and intense stress. Negative emotions narrow focus to immediate danger Positive emotions make more expansive Coping that generates positive affect during stressful circumstances Positive appraisal Problem-focused coping Infusion of ordinary events with positive meaning Barbara Fredrickson
MAXIMIZE POSITIVE EMOTIONS Perceive It Name It Understand Meaning Address your Mood Be Grateful Put Positive Meaning Into Ordinary Events David E. Morrison, M.D.
BASICS OF EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE Consistent employment of good judgment in the midst of sustained and intense stress. Negative emotions narrow focus to immediate danger Positive emotions make more expansive Coping that generates positive affect during stressful circumstances Positive appraisal Problem-focused coping Infusion of ordinary events with positive meaning Barbara Fredrickson
“This will not be my Legacy” Finding Full Purpose in Life I Can Influence my Surroundings & Outcomes (Sphere of Influence) I can Learn and Grow From Both Positive and Negative Life Experiences (Shame is the Learning Affect!) Humor & Emphasis on Positive Emotions
How can you help? P layful A cceptance C urious E mpathy
QUESTIONS? rrkiely@comcast.net
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