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Nonviolent Communication

COMPASSIONATE LEADERSHIP IN ACTION

Why Nonviolent Communication?

 We are culturally habituated to focus our attention on judgement, blame and diagnosis of

self and others, especially when in CONFLICT.

 A simple, profound and learnable process that trains us to focus on the powerful human

needs that are the motivation for everything we do and say.

 Respect  Understanding  Safety

 When we focus our awareness on our own and others’ needs, it facilitates deep

understanding of self and others.

 Communicating from this place opens up possibilities for flexible and creative solutions to

even the most entrenched conflicts.

NVC Assumptions

 All human beings have the capacity for compassion & only resort to violence

• r behavior that harms others when they don’t recognize more effective

strategies for meeting needs.

 All human behavior stems from attempts to meet universal human needs &

that these needs are never in conflict.

 Conflict arises when strategies for meeting needs clash.  If people can identify their needs, the needs of others, & the feelings that

surround these needs, harmony can be achieved.

A Conflict Resolution Process

 self-empathy (defined as a deep & compassionate awareness of one’s own

inner experience)

 empathy (defined as listening to another with deep compassion), and  honest self-expression (defined as expressing oneself authentically in a way

that is likely to inspire compassion in others) Based on three aspects of communication:

The Tree of Life: Options for Connection

“I use the term Nonviolent Communication™ as Gandhi used it – to refer to our natural state of compassion when violence has subsided from

• ur heart. While we may not

believe we are ‘violent’, our words and thoughts often lead to pain for others and

• urselves.”
• Dr Marshall Rosenberg

The Process

“At the root of every tantrum and power struggle are unmet needs.”

• Dr Marshall Rosenberg

What You Do

 State concrete actions you observe in yourself or the other person.  State the feeling that the observation is triggering in you. Or, guess what

the other person is feeling, and ask.

 State the need that is the cause of that feeling. Or, guess the need that

caused the feeling in the other person, and ask.

 Make a concrete request for action to meet the need just identified.

Yes, there’s an APP for that.

The Uses of NVC

 Self empowerment  Understanding others  Conflict resolution  Stress reduction  Bridging cultural differences  Harmonious relationships

NVC as Spiritual Practice

 Central purpose to connect with oneself, other human beings, and the divine.  Once we connect with needs of others in open-hearted way, our common

humanity is fundamental point of connection. Even if we don’t agree, we can understand and acknowledge their hearts’ longing.

 Jesus Christ reveals not only true God but true humanity. He shows us what our

created existence was meant to be – a human being for and with others because self-giving love marks his entire life. God is for us as a savior and with us as fellow sufferer. Thus we live out the human interconnectedness for which we were created.

 “Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.” – Romans 12:15;  “Bear one another’s burdens, and in this way, you will fulfill the Law of Christ.” –

Galations 6:2

Resources

NVC in Action

 Exercises