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T H E P O W E R O F

E M O T I O N A L I N T E L L I G E N C E C H E RY L

Cheryl Meredith

Mark Heintzman

T O D AY Õ S O U T C O M E S

¥ What is Emotional

Intelligence?

¥ Why is EQ so

Powerful?

¥ Strategies to

Unleash EQÕs Power in Our Leadership Then Job arose and tore his robe and shaved his head, and he fell to the ground and worshiped. He said, ÒNaked I came from my motherÕs womb, And naked I shall return there. The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away. Blessed be the name of the LORD.Ó Job 1:20,21

¥ÒBehold you desire truth in my

innermost being and in my hidden part you will make me know wisdom.Ó Psalms 51:6

¥ ÒWatch over your heart with all diligence for

from it flows the springs of life.Ó Prov. 4:23

¥ Knowing what is

happening inside you and managing it positively

¥ Awareness of what is

happening with people around you and engaging with positive effect I N T E N T I O N I M PA C T

E M O T I O N A L I N T E L L I G E N C E

T H E G A P

¥ Aware of your emotional state and why you

feel that way

¥ Ability to manage your emotions towards a

positive impact

¥ Aware of otherÕs emotional state ¥ Able to engage towards a positive

impact

I N T E N T I O N I M PA C T

If you were this worker, what impact might his response have had on your workplace? If you were this worker, what impact might the pastorÕs response have had on you personally?

A S A L E A D E R

¥ Pair up with someone

new

¥ Share a time your

IMPACT was different than your INTENT, describing the situation

¥ How might Emotional

Intelligence have played a role in what happened?

T H E B R A I N

Thinking Function Feeling Function

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P R E F R O N TA L C O RT E X

IQ Working Memory Analyze Information Veto Emotional Impulse

I T Õ S Y O U R B O S S

O U R M I N D A N D D A N G E R

C O M P L E X T H O U G H T

¥ Decision Making ¥ Strategizing ¥ Prioritizing ¥ Big Picture Thinking ¥ Future Consequences

F E E L I N G F U N C T I O N

¥ The Amygdala

¥ Detects Threats ¥ Fight Flight or Freeze ¥ Stores Emotional Memories ¥ Right Now Thinking ¥ Responds

L I M B I C S Y S T E M

¥ Does not differentiate between ¥ Real or Imagined Threat ¥ Physical and Social or Emotional Threat ¥ Emotional Hijack

Emotional Hijack

¥ Amygdala

Detects Threat

¥ Release

Chemicals into the Body

¥ Chemicals Reduce

Complex Thought

¥ Reactionary

Behavior ce ght

¥Physical

Danger

¥Memory ¥Retelling ¥Perception

¥NOT FEELING

¥Respected ¥Safe ¥I Belong ¥Valued ¥Competent

F I G H T O R F L I G H T T H I N K I N G

¥ Overreacting ¥ Defensive ¥ Aloof/Shut Down ¥ Black /White Thinking ¥ Missing Big Picture/

Hyper Focusing

¥ Not Listening ¥ Blaming ¥ Protective/Victim ¥ Accusing/Attacking

¥ acceptance

respect be liked

¥ be understood

be needed be valued

¥ be in control

be right be treated fairly

¥ attention

comfort freedom

¥ peacefulness

balance consistency

¥ order

variety love

¥ predictability safety

included

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M Y T R I G G E R S

¥ Pair up with

someone new

¥ Tell a story of when

you realized you were being triggered

¥ What was the source

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G R O W I N G I N

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EMOTIONS ATTACH TO YOUR CELLS

G R AT I T U D E

¥ Releases chemicals

into your body that change your brain creating a sense of well-being and expand your ability to create options

F E A R A N D G R AT I T U D E

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I N S C R I P T U R E :

L E A D I N G W I T H E Q

B E O P E N B U I L D T R U S T

G I V E D I R E C T A N D C O N S T R U C T I V E F E E D B A C K

G E T M A D O N P U R P O S E

S H O W Y O U C A R E

L E A D I N G W I T H E Q

¥ Be Open ¥ Build Trust ¥ Give Direct and Constructive Feedback ¥ Get Mad on Purpose ¥ Show you care

M A N A G I N G Y O U R A M Y G D A L A

¥ What Triggers You? ¥ What Do You Do? ¥ Residue or Impact ¥ CHOOSE A NEW

BEHAVIOR

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A C T I O N P L A N

¥ Main Take Aways ¥ One area to grow in ¥ Identify two areas of

triggers

¥ What can be a new

way of responding?

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