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6/6/2018 mpa thy Ga p : T he E Ma sc ulinity a nd the Co ura g e to Cha ng e AUDRE Y E RVI N, PH.D. BRE NDAN BARCA, B.A. WWW.E RVINCOUNSE L ING.COM Gro und Rule s Re spe c t/ Mindfulne ss of Othe r s L a ng ua g e

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T he E mpa thy Ga p: Ma sc ulinity a nd the Co ura g e to Cha ng e

AUDRE Y E RVI N, PH.D. BRE NDAN BARCA, B.A.

WWW.E RVINCOUNSE L ING.COM

Gro und Rule s

 Re spe c t/ Mindfulne ss of Othe r s 

L a ng ua g e

 Se lf- R e fle c tion 

T ry to b e a wa re o f yo ur pe rso na l re a c tio ns

 Know Your L imits and Boundarie s 

Only d isc lo se wha t is o ka y fo r yo u

 Sitting with T

  • ugh E

motions  Ho w do yo u kno w whe n yo u a re fe e ling de fe nsive ?  It’ s no t the e mo tio na l re spo nse b ut wha t yo u d o with it tha t ma tte rs

Gro und Rule s

 He a te d Ar g uing is Not the Inte nt 

L iste n to o the rs pe rspe c tive s & ide a s e ve n if yo u disa g re e

 Don’t Shut Some one Down 

(a nd b e a wa re whe n yo u fe e l shut do wn)

 Amne sty 

T he rig ht to “sc re w up” in a n a tte mpt to unde rsta nd yo urse lf, yo ur c lie nts, yo ur re a c tio ns a nd the la rg e r wo rld

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Gro und Rule s

Be Ope n to Giving a nd Re c e iving Corre c tive F e e dba c k

Pe rsona l Awa re ne ss

I a m sha ring to o muc h o r to o little ?  T he rig ht to “le t it be .”

Pro g ra m De sc riptio n

  • F

ilmma ke r T ho ma s K e ith e xa mine s ho w Ame ric a n c ulture b o mb a rds yo ung me n with se xist a nd misog ynistic me ssa g e s.

  • I

n T he E mpathy Gap, he lo o ks mo re c lo se ly a t the wa ys the se me ssa g e s short-c irc uit me n's a bility to e mpathize with wo me n a nd re spe c t the m a s e q ua ls.

  • T

he film e xplo re s so me ke y me ssa g e s a b o ut ma nho o d tha t b o ys a b so rb fro m the c ulture -- tha t the y sho uld ac quir e ma te r ial we alth, me e t c onflic t with aggr e ssion, ha r de n the mse lve s, suppr e ss all human e motion e xc e pt ange r , and vie w wome n prima rily a s se xua l obje c ts.

Ob je c tive s

 Disc uss the doc ume ntary T

he E mpathy Gap: Masc ulinity and the Cour age to Change

 Asse ss the implic ations of masc uline soc ialization in the Unite d State s  E xplain how male ge nde r role norms e nc ourage boys and me n to partic ipate in inte rpe rsonal and intrape rsonal de valuation  De sc ribe the psyc hologic al c onse que nc e s of male ge nde r role c onflic t  De ve lop an ac tion plan to c ompe te ntly work with boys and me n

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Outline

 5:00 Introduc tions & Obje c tive s  5:15 Ge nde r Soc ia liza tion a nd the Psyc holog ic a l Conse que nc e s  5:45-7:00 F ilm  7:00 Bre a k  7:15 Re a c tions to F ilm  7:30 Ac tion Pla n to F a c ilita te E mpa thy whe n Working with Boys a nd Me n  7:45 Wra p Up a nd Se ssion F e e dba c k

Ba sic T e rms

Bio lo g ic a l Se x/ Se x Assig ne d At Birth Ge nde r is So c ia lly Co nstruc te d

Bio lo g ic a l Se x/ Se x Assig ne d At Birth

 Ba se d o n c hro mo so me s  Ana to my (T

e ste s, Ova rie s)

American Psychological Association. (2015). Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Transgender and Gender Nonconforming People.

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Ge nde r I de ntity

 A pe rso n’ s de e ply‐fe lt, inhe re nt

se nse o f b e ing ma sc uline , fe minine

  • r a n a lte rna tive g e nde r (e .g .,

g e nde rq ue e r, g e nde r no nc o nfo rming , g e nde r ne utra l) tha t ma y o r ma y no t c o rre spo nd to a pe rso n’ s se x a ssig ne d a t b irth.

 Ba se d o n so c ia lly c o nstruc te d &

c ultura lly spe c ific e xpe c ta tio ns

American Psychological Association. (2015). Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Transgender and Gender Nonconforming People.

Ge nde r So c ia liza tio n

 T

he pro c e ss o f le a rning the no rms, rule s a nd e xpe c ta tio ns a b o ut wha t it me a ns to b e a g irl o r b o y (o r o the r g e nd e rs)

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Ge nde r a s Diffe re nc e : Na ming the Myth!

One se t o f c ha ra c te ristic s, a b ilitie s, a nd inte re sts b e lo ng to o ne g e nde r a nd a no the r se t b e lo ng s to the “o ppo site ” g e nde r

T he Assumption: Gro up A a nd B do no t ha ve

the sa me c ha ra c te ristic s in c o mmo n a nd this is biolog ic a l in na ture

Ge nde r a s Diffe re nc e F e ma le

Ca ring

Nurturing

E mpa the tic

E mo tio na l

Pa ssive

L ike s pre tty dre sse s

L

  • ve s sto rie s, da nc ing , a nd

se wing

Ma le

Stro ng

Do mina nt

Asse rtive

Hype rse xua l

L ike s to b uild thing s

Are pro vide rs

L ike s fo o tb a ll, c a rs, a nd wre stling

So Wha t a re the Ac tua l Diffe re nc e s Be twe e n Ma le s a nd F e ma le s?

(As Do c ume nte d T hro ug h Re se a rc h)

 No Diffe re nc e :

I nte llig e nc e

Me mo ry

Co g nitive style s

Cre a tivity

T e mpe ra me nt

E mpa thy

Nurtura nc e

Altruism

Mo ra lity

Asse rtive ne ss

Se xua l re spo nsive ne ss 

L arge Diffe re nc e s:

 He ig ht  T

hro wing dista nc e

 F

a c ia l e xpre ssive ne ss

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Ge nde r So c ia liza tio n: T he E mo tio na l Co nse q ue nc e s

 Pa ssive o r nurturing  Ca re ta ke r  T

a ke n a dva nta g e o f

 L

  • w se lf-e ste e m

 Miss o ppo rtunitie s  Mo re like ly to suffe r

fro m de pre ssio n a nd e a ting diso rde rs

 Be a “sturdy o a k”-do n’ t

sho w e mo tio ns

 Be the b re a dwinne r  Suc c e ss, po we r, a nd

c o mpe titio n

 Re stric tive e mo tio na lity  Re stric tive a ffe c tio na te

b e ha vio r b e twe e n me n

 De va lue the fe minine

Anger is the only emotion “okay” for men and the only emotion NOT okay for women

Females Males

Miso g yny & Oppre ssio n: Co mmo n Me dia T he me s

 Girls a re se xual obje c ts to

b e use d

 De huma nize d, e xo tic ,

a nima listic

 F

e ma le E mpo we rme nt: Po we r=Se xua liza tio n  A g irls worth is re la te d to he r appe aranc e

 Yo u must b e thin & se xy

(b ut no t a who re )

 Se xua liza tio n o f yo ung g irls

  • T

he infantilization o f wo ma n

  • Girls ne e d to b e ta ke n c a re o f (a nd

sho wn who is the b o ss)

  • Me n a re b re a dwinne rs; g irls do

do me stic wo rk

  • Be ing a re a l ma n me a ns
  • bje c tifying wome n a nd e ng a g ing

in se xual c onque st

  • Re al me n don’t c ry
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Ma le So c ia liza tio n: Pa tria rc hy a nd Oppre ssio n

 Ge nde r so c ia liza tio n a nd

pa tria rc ha l no rms e mpha size ra pe c ulture , ine q ua lity, sha ming &

  • b je c tific a tio n o f wo me n.

 Pe o ple o f a ll g e nde rs

inte rna lize “the rule s” a nd a c t the m o ut.

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T he F ilm

Re a c tio ns to the F ilm?

Wha t struc k yo u a b o ut the film?

Ho w do e s g e nde r so c ia liza tio n impa c t yo ung b o ys e xpe rie nc e s?

Wha t a re the psyc ho lo g ic a l implic a tio ns?

Wha t a re stra te g ie s to e mpo we r b o ys a nd me n?

Wha t a re the implic a tio ns fo r wo rking with b o ys a nd me n in c o unse ling ?

Wha t a re the implic a tio ns fo r inte rve ning o n syste mic le ve ls?

Creating An Action Plan to Work with Boys and Men

 What do you need to do to foster empathy in boys and men? You Institutional Affiliations Stop Doing Start Doing Do Differently

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