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WHY YOU ALWAYS ..............? LEARNING EACH OTHERS PERSONALITY DYNAMICS FOR BETTER COMMUNICATION IN YOUR MARRIAGE UNDERSTANDING YOU WIRED THAT WAY! POPULAR SANGUINE LETS DO IT THE FUN WAY. POWERFUL CHOLERIC LETS


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WHY YOU ALWAYS…..............?

LEARNING EACH OTHERS PERSONALITY DYNAMICS FOR BETTER COMMUNICATION IN YOUR MARRIAGE – UNDERSTANDING YOU “WIRED THAT WAY!” POPULAR SANGUINE – “LET’S DO IT THE FUN WAY.” POWERFUL CHOLERIC – “LET’S DO IT MY WAY.” PERFECT MELANCHOLY – “LET’S DO IT THE RIGHT WAY.” PEACEFUL PHLEGMATIC – “LET’S DO IT THE EASY WAY.”

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YOU ARE FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE!

Psalm 139:14King James Version (KJV)

14 I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works;

and that my soul knoweth right well. The Lord has designed each of us very specifically and individually. We’re blessed that He has given us insight into one another by giving us perfectly assigned personality traits. No one trait is better than or less than the other, but all are vitally important in how we function in every area of our lives, including our marriages. You’re fearfully and wonderfully made, now let’s see how you’re wired

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POPULAR SANGUINE

  • Place in the Team: Creative person
  • Emotional Needs: Attention, acceptance “as is”, affection, approval
  • Best at:
  • Making initial contact with people
  • Creating enthusiasm and excitement
  • Encouraging and uplifting others
  • Ensuring the group has fun
  • Is Apt to Be: Too easily distracted and forgetful
  • Presentation Style: Humorous and with a light touch
  • Warning:
  • Can come on off happy or cute
  • Not considered serious or believable
  • Don’t let them handle money

Realize they need fun and adventure!

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POWERFUL CHOLERIC

  • Place in the Team: Leadership person
  • Emotional Needs: Loyalty, sense of control, appreciation, accomplishment
  • Best at:
  • Motivating people to action
  • Controlling the plans and productivity
  • Giving quick and clear instructions
  • Making sure the group sees the immediate gain
  • Is Apt to be: Too impulsive and intimidating
  • Presentation Style: Authoritative and convincing
  • Warning:
  • May come on too overpowering
  • Seems to look down on others
  • Often intimidates less confident people

Realize they need action and excitement!

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PEACEFUL PHLEGMATIC

  • Place in the Team: Support Person
  • Emotional Needs: Peace and quiet, feeling of worth, lack of stress, respect
  • Best At:
  • Making sure the group is relaxed and comfortable
  • Always finding a middle ground
  • Staying calm and functional amidst chaos
  • Not overreacting to a negative situation
  • Is Apt to be: Too undisciplined and indecisive
  • Presentation Style: Believable
  • Warning:
  • May come across as too low-key, dull or lazy
  • Appears too unenthusiastic and unconvinced
  • Don’t count on them for motivation

Realize they need rest and some quiet time!

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PERFECT MELANCHOLY

  • Place in the Team: Detail person
  • Emotional Needs: Sensitivity, support when down, space, silence
  • Best at:
  • Planning ad explaining the details
  • Keeping the financial records straight
  • Being sensitive to the needs of others
  • Making sure the group sees the long-range goal
  • Is Apt to Be: Too easily distracted and critical
  • Presentation Style: Accurate and sincere
  • Warning:
  • Might come across too intellectual and remote
  • May make others feel less intelligent
  • Can get lost in the details

Realize they need order and understanding!

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PERSONALITY TEMPERAMENTS

Popular Sanguine Powerful Choleric Peaceful Phlegmatic Perfect Melancholy

Basic Desire: Have Attention Affection Approval Acceptance Controls By: Charm Basic Desire: Have Control Emotional Needs: Loyalty Sense of Control Appreciation Credit for Work Controls By: Threat of Anger Basic Desire: Have Peace Emotional Needs: Peace and Quiet Feeling of Worth Lack of Stress Respect Controls By: Procrastination Basic Desires: Have Perfection Emotional Needs: Sensitivity Support Space Silence Controls By: Threat of Moods

PLAY

Witty, Easygoing, Goal Oriented

WORK

Decisive, Organized, Goal Oriented

LEAD

Extroverted, Optimistic, Outspoken

ANALYZE

Introverted, Pessimistic, Soft spoken

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ARE YOU LIVING IN YOUR STRENGTHS OR WEAKNESSES?

Each personality type has strengths and weaknesses of that personality. Review the back page of your evaluation and let’s examine the strengths and weaknesses and them discuss with one another whether you identify with any of those traits for YOURSELF!

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NATURAL PERSONALITY BLENDS – PB&J

THESE BLENDS NATURALLY HAVE A TENDENCY TO GO TOGETHER (THAT DOES NOT MEAN THEY ARE PERFECT) MAY COMPETE FOR LEADERSHIP.

  • POPULAR SANGUINE/POWERFUL CHOLERIC
  • PERFECT MELANCHOLY/PEACEFUL PHLEGMATIC
  • POWERFUL CHOLERIC/PERFECT MELANCHOLY
  • PEACEFUL PHLEGMATIC/POPULAR SANGUINE
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OPPOSING PERSONALITY BLENDS – OPPOSITES ATTRACT

ENSURE YOU BOTH ARE SENSITIVE TO ONE ANOTHERS DIFFERENCES AND HOW YOU FUNCTION. DON’T ATTEMPT TO OVERPOWER WITH YOUR PERSONALITY.

  • POWERFUL CHOLERIC/PERFECT MELANCHOLY
  • POPULAR SANGUINE/PERFECT MELANCHOLY
  • POWERFUL CHOLERIC/PEACEFUL PHLEGMATIC
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HOW EACH PERSONALITY TEMPERAMENT FUNCTIONS IN THE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP

A strong marriage honestly examines its assets and liabilities and then makes a plan of action to either become better together or function in the same ole same

  • le.

Let’s examine how each temperament has a tendency to see marriage. Do any

  • f these resonate with you?
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POPULAR SANGUINE – THE “FUN” MARRIAGE

ASSETS SPONTANEOUS EXCITING ENTHUSIASTIC KEEP MARRIAGE FRESH FLEXIBLE COMPROMISING FORGIVING PLAY WITH CHILDREN CREATIVE SEX LIABILITIES LACK OF PLANS AND GOALS UNSTABLE FLIRTATIOUS MESSY NO ONE LISTENS RELATIONSHIP REMAINS SUPERFICIAL FALL TO PUT DOWN ROOTS BLURRED GENERATIONAL BOUNDARIES FINANCIAL MATTERS LACK BUDGETING, ACCOUNTING AND RETIREMENT PLANNING

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POWERFUL CHOLERIC – THE ”ACTIVE” MARRIAGE

ASSETS LIABILITIES GOAL ORIENTED STRUGGLE FOR CONTROL CLEAR BOUNDARIES OVERCOMMITTED AND LATE HIGH ACCOMPLISHMENTS NOT TIME FOR RELATIONSHIP RESPECT EACH OTHER TWO CAREERS PULLING ON MARRIAGE HIGH ENERGY MARRIAGE A LOW PRIORITY CHAMPIONING CAUSES BLURRING OF PERSONAL & PROFESSIONAL BOUNDARIES FIRM PARENTS SHOUTING CONTESTS QUICK SEX FEAR OF SHARING

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PEACEFUL PHLEGMATIC – THE “RELAXED” MARRIAGE

ASSETS LIABILITIES STABLE LOW ACCOMPLISHMENTS AGREEABLE LACK OF PLANNING CONTENT KIDS CAN TAKE OVER LOW PRESSURE DULL SATISFIED CONTROL IS PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE MODEST LACK OF COMMUNICATION LACK OF DIRECTION LOSS OF INDIVIDUAL IDENTITY PATIENT WITH CHILDREN BLURRED GENERATIONAL BOUNDARIES SPECIAL-EVENT SEX FEAR OF CONFLICT

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PERFECT MELANCHOLY – THE “ORGANIZED” MARRIAGE

ASSETS LIABILITIES NEAT HOME CRITICAL LONG-RANGE PLANS DANGER OF MID-LIFE CRISIS FINANCIAL ORDER DEPRESSED AND BROODING PUNCTUAL KEEP RECORD OF WRONGS VALUE EDUCATION REINFORCE EACH OTHER’S NEGATIVITY REMEMBER IMPORTANT DATES STUCK IN ROUTINES COMMITTED TO EACH OTHER MAY BE UNFAITHFUL LOVING AND PROTECTIVE WITH CHILDREN REPEAT MALADAPTIVE BEHAVIORS ROMANTIC SEX HIGH EXPECTATIONS PLACE HEAVY BURDEN ON RELATIONSHIPS

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YOU’RE JUST WIRED THAT WAY!!!

IF YOU KNOW HOW YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE ARE WIRED THEN YOU BOTH CAN BEGIN TO COMMUNICATE WITH ONE ANOTHER IN WAYS THAT ARE MORE EFFECTIVE AND IN A MANNER IN WHICH YOU’LL BE HEARD. THIS DOESN’T JUST APPLY TO MARRIAGE. YOU’LL NOW BE ABLE TO DETERMINE THE PERSONALITY TEMPERAMENT OF YOUR CHILDREN AND MANY FRIENDS AND FAMILY MEMBERS. DON’T YOU LOVE THAT THE LORD LOVES US SO MUCH AND DESIRES FOR US TO BE RELATIONAL, THAT HE GIVES US BEAUTIFUL INSIGHT INTO EXACTLY HOW TO TOUCH THE HEART OF ONE ANOTHER AND COMMUNICATE IN A WAY THAT SPECIFICALLY SPEAKS TO OUR SPOUSES DISTINCT PERSONALITY. YOU’RE FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE BY DESIGN….....YOU’RE WIRED THAT WAY!

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WIRED THAT WAY

A comprehensive guide to understanding and maximizing your personality type Authors: Marita Littauer with insights from Florence Littauer Based on the teachings of: Marita Littauer & Florence Littauer