WHY YOU ALWAYS ..............? LEARNING EACH OTHERS PERSONALITY - - PowerPoint PPT Presentation
WHY YOU ALWAYS ..............? LEARNING EACH OTHERS PERSONALITY DYNAMICS FOR BETTER COMMUNICATION IN YOUR MARRIAGE UNDERSTANDING YOU WIRED THAT WAY! POPULAR SANGUINE LETS DO IT THE FUN WAY. POWERFUL CHOLERIC LETS
LEARNING EACH OTHERS PERSONALITY DYNAMICS FOR BETTER COMMUNICATION IN YOUR MARRIAGE – UNDERSTANDING YOU “WIRED THAT WAY!” POPULAR SANGUINE – “LET’S DO IT THE FUN WAY.” POWERFUL CHOLERIC – “LET’S DO IT MY WAY.” PERFECT MELANCHOLY – “LET’S DO IT THE RIGHT WAY.” PEACEFUL PHLEGMATIC – “LET’S DO IT THE EASY WAY.”
Psalm 139:14King James Version (KJV)
14 I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works;
and that my soul knoweth right well. The Lord has designed each of us very specifically and individually. We’re blessed that He has given us insight into one another by giving us perfectly assigned personality traits. No one trait is better than or less than the other, but all are vitally important in how we function in every area of our lives, including our marriages. You’re fearfully and wonderfully made, now let’s see how you’re wired
Realize they need fun and adventure!
Realize they need action and excitement!
Realize they need rest and some quiet time!
Realize they need order and understanding!
Basic Desire: Have Attention Affection Approval Acceptance Controls By: Charm Basic Desire: Have Control Emotional Needs: Loyalty Sense of Control Appreciation Credit for Work Controls By: Threat of Anger Basic Desire: Have Peace Emotional Needs: Peace and Quiet Feeling of Worth Lack of Stress Respect Controls By: Procrastination Basic Desires: Have Perfection Emotional Needs: Sensitivity Support Space Silence Controls By: Threat of Moods
PLAY
Witty, Easygoing, Goal Oriented
WORK
Decisive, Organized, Goal Oriented
LEAD
Extroverted, Optimistic, Outspoken
ANALYZE
Introverted, Pessimistic, Soft spoken
Each personality type has strengths and weaknesses of that personality. Review the back page of your evaluation and let’s examine the strengths and weaknesses and them discuss with one another whether you identify with any of those traits for YOURSELF!
ASSETS SPONTANEOUS EXCITING ENTHUSIASTIC KEEP MARRIAGE FRESH FLEXIBLE COMPROMISING FORGIVING PLAY WITH CHILDREN CREATIVE SEX LIABILITIES LACK OF PLANS AND GOALS UNSTABLE FLIRTATIOUS MESSY NO ONE LISTENS RELATIONSHIP REMAINS SUPERFICIAL FALL TO PUT DOWN ROOTS BLURRED GENERATIONAL BOUNDARIES FINANCIAL MATTERS LACK BUDGETING, ACCOUNTING AND RETIREMENT PLANNING
ASSETS LIABILITIES GOAL ORIENTED STRUGGLE FOR CONTROL CLEAR BOUNDARIES OVERCOMMITTED AND LATE HIGH ACCOMPLISHMENTS NOT TIME FOR RELATIONSHIP RESPECT EACH OTHER TWO CAREERS PULLING ON MARRIAGE HIGH ENERGY MARRIAGE A LOW PRIORITY CHAMPIONING CAUSES BLURRING OF PERSONAL & PROFESSIONAL BOUNDARIES FIRM PARENTS SHOUTING CONTESTS QUICK SEX FEAR OF SHARING
ASSETS LIABILITIES STABLE LOW ACCOMPLISHMENTS AGREEABLE LACK OF PLANNING CONTENT KIDS CAN TAKE OVER LOW PRESSURE DULL SATISFIED CONTROL IS PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE MODEST LACK OF COMMUNICATION LACK OF DIRECTION LOSS OF INDIVIDUAL IDENTITY PATIENT WITH CHILDREN BLURRED GENERATIONAL BOUNDARIES SPECIAL-EVENT SEX FEAR OF CONFLICT
ASSETS LIABILITIES NEAT HOME CRITICAL LONG-RANGE PLANS DANGER OF MID-LIFE CRISIS FINANCIAL ORDER DEPRESSED AND BROODING PUNCTUAL KEEP RECORD OF WRONGS VALUE EDUCATION REINFORCE EACH OTHER’S NEGATIVITY REMEMBER IMPORTANT DATES STUCK IN ROUTINES COMMITTED TO EACH OTHER MAY BE UNFAITHFUL LOVING AND PROTECTIVE WITH CHILDREN REPEAT MALADAPTIVE BEHAVIORS ROMANTIC SEX HIGH EXPECTATIONS PLACE HEAVY BURDEN ON RELATIONSHIPS