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Those words can hurt

www.bzaf.org.au Presenters: Michelle Murray and Ali Halkic

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Contents:

• Who is Bully Zero
• Our role as parents
• Statistics
• What is bullying and what isn’t
• The importance of the Bystander
• Social media and gaming
• Stranger danger
• Strategies to help our children
• Where to go for help

Bully Zero Australia Foundation

Launched March 16, 2013 Our Vision is: A world free from all forms of bullying. We are endorsed by the Office of the eSafety Commissioner to deliver cyber safety programs to schools Nationally. We are a partner and the preferred provider for workplace bullying prevention programs by WorkSafe Victoria.

How did it all start?

Victim of threatening SMS text and Facebook messages Received over 300 text messages including: “I’m going to hit you & trust me, the boys at your school who you think you’re so cool with…hate you. Don’t be surprised if you get hit sometime soon.” Shane Gerada pleaded guilty to stalking charges & received 200 hours of community work (2010) Victims of Crime Assistance Tribunal (VCAT) ruled Allem’s death was the result of an act of violence

Allem em Halkic 17 17 08/09/1991 – 05/02/2009

Ali Halkic

Victorian Law

• Crimes Amendment (bullying) 2011 -

S21A of the Stalking provisions now in effect.

• Strengthens existing Crimes Act 1958 -

covers bullying & cyber

• bullying behaviours.
• Outcome - means police powers in

relation to prosecution for stalking

• & bullying conduct, allows steps to be

taken to prevent serious

• bullying through the use of intervention
• rders.

Federal Legislation

Crimes legislation amendment (telecommunications

• ffences & other measures) Act (No. 2) 2004.

474.17 Using a carriage service to menace, harass

• r cause offence.

(1) Guilty of an offence if: (a) Person uses a carriage service; (b) Does so in a way (whether by method of use

• r the content of a communication, or both) that

reasonable persons would regard as being, in all circumstances: Menacing, harassing or offending. Penalty: Imprisonment - 3 years.

Bullying - Fact cts

Statistics

• One in 4 students are affected by bullying.
• Bullied children 3 times more likely to show depressive

symptoms.

• Children who are bullied are up to 9 times more likely to

have suicidal thoughts.

• Girls are more likely than boys to be victims of both cyber

and traditional bullying.

• 17% of multiplayer gamers experience in-game bullying

>200,000 young Australians.

• In Australia an average of 8 people will take their own life

before midnight and more than 180 will attempt it.

• Suicide is the leading cause of death amongst our young.

Bullying - Definition

Bullying is when an individual or group uses its power & strength to repeatedly, deliberately & intentionally use words or actions against another or a group that hurts, threatens, excludes, harasses, humiliates verbally, physically, psychologically or electronically making the victim feel oppressed, traumatized & powerless.

Bullying is not….

• Disliking someone.
• Bad moods.
• Accidental physical harm.
• Being “Bossy”.
• Telling a joke about someone once.
• Arguments.
• Not playing with someone or choosing

different people or groups to play with.

Types of Bullying

BULL ULLY Tar arge get BY BYST STAND ANDER ER

Who’s Involved?

Bystander Phenomenon

Darley & Latane Experiment (1968) found:

• When 2 people involved - 85% assisted.
• 3 involved - 62% assisted.
• 6 involved - 31% assisted.

The greater the number of bystanders – less likely for intervention.

SOURCE – http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/images/uploads /Latane-BystanderApathy.pdf Kitty Genovese Winston Mosely

Lieutenant – General David Morrison Australian Of The Year 2016

“The Standard You Walk Past Is The Standard You Accept.”

Don’t be a Bystander! Be an Up-stander!

• Step in!
• Say something!
• Do Something!

How mobile communication has changed.

Cyberbullying

Sending abusive texts, stalking, making threats, abusive emails, posting unkind messages or inappropriate images on sites, imitating & deliberately excluding

• thers online.

Cyberbullying v Bull llying

Social Media Statistics

• Average Australian owns 3 devices – laptops 75%,

smartphones 70%, tablets 55%

• 93% use Facebook and we spend 8.5 hours per week
• 95% young Australians use the internet
• Average Australian has 297 friends, contacts and followers
• Social media used at home 93%
• We social network in the morning 45% and last thing

before we go to bed 41%

• 68% of internet users have social media profiles
• 79% access internet daily

Social Media Can Be Dangerous

• You wouldn’t leave it to your child to teach

themselves how to swim, ride a bike or cross the road?

• You also wouldn’t ban them from

swimming, riding a bike or playing in the park?

• As parents we must ensure our children

are making good choices on line.

Games and Apps - age recommendations

Online games

Stranger - Danger

Grooming and Paedophilia

• 99% - men.
• 90% - females seduced.
• 40% - under 24.
• 40% - over 48.
• If we create the opportunity dangers

will increase.

• Risks come from contact with

people you don’t know and from accessing inappropriate sites or content.

What to tell your child?

• Keep personal information private.
• Keep copies - abusive texts, emails, messages

i.e., include date, time & URL (take screenshots).

• Don’t reply - this will encourage the bully.
• Don’t get involved on someone’s behalf.
• Report it to a trusted adult and social media site.

Report cyberbullying.

Internet is a public place

We Are All Publishers

• Think before you post!
• Once you’ve pressed ‘Send’

you can’t get that back!

• Everything you post is stored -

even if deleted.

• Your messages are saved by

phone companies even after deletion.

• Messenger and Facebook

messages are stored on servers.

• Every device has its own IP

address.

Secure internet

• 1. Have parent only passwords.
• 2. Activate security settings on

devices.

• 3. Turn on Safe Search on

Google for every device.

• 4. Internet provider services.
• 5. Install new router.
• 6. Smart phone protection.

Privacy Settings

Parental controls can keep children safe on many screens.

• Block sexually explicit sites
• Set screen time limits
• Block in-app purchases
• Block numbers and SMS
• Allow or block websites
• Restrict chat features
• Allow parental monitoring

2016 Norton Parent Survey

• 74% parents didn’t know what their children were doing
• nline.
• 41% never checked children's online activities.
• 50% never logged into their child’s (under 16) computer.
• 44% never discussed privacy settings.
• 41% never discussed cyberbullying.
• 35% never discussed online ‘stranger danger’.
• 1 in 5 parents were contacted by school about social

media posts made by their child.

As a parent….

• Learn the language of the internet.
• Avoid banning your child from devices.
• Get devices out of the bedroom.
• Set clear boundaries & time limits at home.

Learn to say ‘NO’.

• Road test games.
• Ensure they’re visible & can be monitored.
• Inform your child that no matter what, they

can come to you for help.

Encourage your children to:

• Be critical thinkers
• Have empathy for others
• Respect themselves and

those around them

• Be resilient
• Take responsibility for

their actions.

Helping kids stop bullying

• Let your child know that bullying

is unacceptable and that there will be serious consequences at home, school, and in the community if it continues.

• Try to understand the reasons

behind your child's behaviour. In some cases, kids bully because they have trouble managing strong emotions like anger, frustration, or insecurity.

• Bullying is NOT harmless.
• Bullying IS learned, harmful and controllable.
• Bullying CAN BE stopped or prevented.

Bullying basics

Where to gain help?

• Role model/s, coach, teacher or

mentor.

• Student welfare coordinator,

classroom teacher, Deputy/Principal.

• ISP Internet Service Provider
• Police - 000.
• AFP - 13 12 37.
• Office of the eSafety

Commissioner 1800 880 176.

• Kids Helpline 1300 55 1800
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• RISC (Responding to

Issues of Suicide in Cooloola)

• Lifeline (part of

UnitingCare Community) 07 5480 3400

• Artius

1300 278 487

• Headspace

07 5409 4900

Head Office: (03) 9094 3718 Twitter - @BullyZeroOz Facebook – Bully Zero www.bzaf.org.au

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