SUPPORTING CREATIVE PRODUCTIVITY OF MOTHERS Individual Barriers Societal Barriers PARTNERSHIP ➤ Guilt Gendered Construct of ➤ Creativity = Eminence ➤ Perfectionism & Self-Criticism Rigid Gender Roles FAMILIES ➤ ➤ Lack of Confidence Limited Access & Devaluation ➤ ➤ Difficulty Integrating Identity of Creative Contributions A Psychoeducational Approach ➤ Isolation & Loneliness to Fostering More Connection, Familial Barriers Caring and Compassion in Family Systems ➤ Lack support of partner/spouse ➤ Multiple demands on time ➤ Rarely “a Room of One’s Own” Julie de Azevedo Hanks, PhD, LCSW Wasatch Family Therapy (C) 2016 Julie Hanks, LLC DOMINATOR - PARTNERSHIP CONTINUUM Dominator Model Partnership Model Top-Down Authoritarian Control More Democratic Organization Hierarchies of Domination Hierarchies of Actualization Organized by Ranking Organized by Linking High Degree Institutionalized Violence Non-Violent/Peaceful Solutions CULTURAL TRANSFORMATION THEORY Masculine & Feminine Males/Masculine Highly Valued Equally Valued Riane Eisler Caring & Non-Violence Valued by Men and Devaluation of Caring & “Soft” Values Women (C) 2016 Julie Hanks, LLC
DOMINATION IS “PRIDE” / RANKING PARTNERSHIP IS “ZION” ➤ 2 Nephi 28:24-26 ➤ 4 Nephi 1:15 ➤ no contention in the land because of the love of God which did dwell in the hearts of the people.” ➤ lifted up in pride ➤ 4 Nephi 1:16 ➤ no envyings, nor strifes, nor tumults, nor whoredoms, nor lyings, nor murders, nor any manner of ➤ wearing of costly apparel lasciviousness ➤ they did have their goods and their substance no more common ➤ there could not be a happier people ➤ Mosiah 27:4 ➤ divided into classes, build up churches unto themselves to get gain ➤ every man should esteem his neighbor as himself ➤ Mormon 8:28 ➤ Alma 1:30 ➤ they did not send away any who were naked, hungry, athirst, or sick ➤ lifted up in the pride of their hearts ➤ did not set their hearts upon richest ➤ leaders of churches and teachers shall rise in the pride of their hearts ➤ therefore they were liberal to all, old/young, bond/free, both male/female, whether out or in church or in the church ➤ 3 Nephi 6:15 ➤ no respect to persons as to those who stood in need. ➤ D&C 121:41 ➤ puffing them up with pride ➤ No power or influence can or ought to be maintained by virtue of the priesthood, only by persuasion, by ➤ tempting them to seek for power, and authority, and riches long-suffering, by gentleness and meekness, and by love unfeigned.” 6 DEFINING “THE FAMILY” THE LADDER ➤ Family Proclamation - ideal, marriage between man & women, Dominator Families multiply and replenish ➤ Hierarchies of domination with male ➤ Reality “in charge” ➤ Less than half of American children lived with a married ➤ Authoritarian parenting style, high demand, low responsiveness, fear & heterosexual couple (Livingston, 2014) force ➤ Only 16% of households consist of a married male and ➤ Members’ needs and value are ranked female raising their own biological children (Krogstad, 2014). ➤ Emotional and physical violence used to resolve conflict ➤ Boys/masculine strength valued “Family” is broadly defined as a group of people living in the same ➤ Nurturing others is devalued and is only “women’s work” household who self identify as a family.
MINOAN CRETE 3650-1400 BCE THE FIELD Partnership Families ➤ Led by hierarchies of actualization ➤ Democratic structures ➤ Organized by linking ➤ Needs of all family members equal ➤ Prioritize caring for others ➤ Non-violent solutions ➤ “Masculine” & “feminine” contributions are valued ➤ Diversity is seen as a strength MINOAN SNAKE GODESS http://arthistoryresources.net/snakegoddess/minoanwomen.html MINOAN MAIDEN WITH PRAYER BEADS TOREADOR FRESCO, KNOSSOS 1400 BCE http://arthistoryresources.net/greek-art-archaeology-2016/minoan-bull-jumping.html http://www.veniceclayartists.com/minoan-art-pottery/
MINOAN PRIEST-KING (RESTORED FRESCO) ADDITIONAL THEORIES & CONCEPTS ➤ Systems Theory (Interdisciplinary study of Relationships, interconnections, interdependence ➤ Family Systems Theory (Individuals cannot be understood in isolation from one another, but rather relationships, family as it’s own unit) ➤ Cybernetics (study of pattern, science of organization, communication, recursive feedback, circularity) ➤ Self-Reflexivity (Referring to or discussing itself or its own creation; self-referential) ➤ Complexity (the state of having many parts and being difficult to understand or find an answer to) https://www.britannica.com/media/full/171379/1105 “ PARTNERSHIP MODEL OF “ As a microcosm of society, the family can act as FAMILY a crucible for the creation of partnership. It seems the most obvious place to start, with the ORGANIZATION people we love most and are closest to.” (Montouri & Conti, 1993, p. 126) 8 C’s of Partnership Families(PMFO) TM
ACTUALIZATION HIERARCHY - DEFINED 1) COOPERATIVE ADULT LEADERSHIP ➤ The term “self-actualization,” people who are actively creating meaning and are fully engaged in the use of talents, ➤ Actualization capacities, and the development of their potentialities hierarchy (Maslow, 1973). ➤ Actualization is the realization of our highest human potential ➤ Equal partnership to inspire, support, and empower others and ourselves ( Eisler, marriage 2008a) ➤ Authoritative ➤ Family members’ values and needs do not need to be ranked in order of importance or power, but decisions are made with the parenting style welfare of all in mind ➤ Moses 1:39 For behold, this is my work and my glory—to bring to pass the immortality and eternal life of man. EQUAL PARTNERSHIP MARRIAGE - RESEARCH EQUAL PARTNERSHIP MARRIAGE ➤ Less negative interaction & more positive interaction (Gray- ➤ ”Marriage requires a full partnership where wives and Little, Baucom, & Hamby, 1996) husbands work side by side to meet the needs of the family.” ➤ More likely to work together in parenting (Hughes, Gordon ➤ “ A marriage of equal partners is also one in which the partners & Gaertner, 2004) help one another in their stewardships , indeed, are “obligated to ➤ Better physical intimacy (Brezsnyak, & Whisman, 2004) help one another as equal partners.” This partnership extends to housework and childcare. President Packer has said, “There is no task, however menial, connected with the care of babies, the nurturing of children, or with the maintenance of the home that is not [the husband’s] equal obligation.” (Husdon & Miller, 2013, April)
EQUAL PARTNERSHIP MARRIAGE - CASE EXAMPLE AUTHORITATIVE PARENTING - RESEARCH ➤ Janice (33), singer, AS, & Shawn (33), entrepreneur, child-free ➤ Authoritative parenting balances clear, high parental demands with emotional responsiveness and recognition ➤ Janice: Shawn’s emotional and mental health are more important than of child’s autonomy is a consistent predictors of competence the amount of a paycheck, so although the business start-up was a from childhood through adolescence. (Darling, N., and slight decrease in income, I fully supported his decision to undertake the Steinberg, L., 1993) opportunity. ➤ Between authoritative, authoritarian, indulgent, uninvolved ➤ Janice: Shawn has been very supportive of my endeavors to share my styles, authoritative parenting style had best behavioral singing talent through community choral opportunities, and I have outcomes in children (Luyckx, K., Tildesley, E. A., Soenens, recently decided to start a solo career. Shawn frequently inquires about B., Andrews, J. A., Hampson, S. E., Peterson, M., & Duriez, the progress of my singing business, and is genuinely thrilled for me B., 2011) when I tell him about new opportunities. SECURE ATTACHMENT - DEFINITION 2) CONNECTION ORIENTATION ➤ Behavioral motivation system seeks close emotional attachment with caregiver for survival. ➤ Building secure ➤ Components of secure attachment: attachments 1. Proximity maintenance : the desire to be near attachment figures, to maintain physical closeness. ➤ Relationship focus 3. Secure base : the role the caregiver or attachment figure plays, and (process) from which the child can explore the larger world ➤ Recognize 4. Safe haven: the return to the caregiver for a kiss or hug (when that same toddler feels scared or threatened, she will return to the caregiver interconnection with for comfort). larger systems 5. Separation distress: the emotional upset exhibited by young children when they are separated from their parent or caregiver.\(Bowlby, 1988)
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