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Tracie Berry-McGhee, M.Ed., LPC International Women & Girl Empowerment Speaker Founder of SistaKeeper, I Define ME Movement

Twitter: SoulflowerSista /FB/IG: SistaKeeperSTL

WHO am I???

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WHO am I???

Who Are You?

Social Emotional Learning (In a Digital World) Objectives

Defining Resiliency Understanding Social Emotional Learning Discover ways to foster emotional awareness through Poetry Explore the benefits of gender-specific programming Utilizing SEL Circles, Restorative Justice techniques What are the benefits and outcomes of SEL Get the tools to develop a SEL Digital environment

Defining Resiliency?

• Bounce Back
• Overcoming

adversity

• Inner-strength
• Trauma

Resiliency

What is SEL?

• Social and emotional learning

(SEL) is the process through which children and adults understand and manage emotions, set and achieve positive goals, feel and show empathy for others, establish and maintain positive relationships, and make responsible decisions. (CASEL)

What does (SEL) Digital Gender- Specific Circles Offer?

• Listen rather than tell, thus establishing norms of

positivity in the space

• Set the tone to increase their emotional literacy

choices and then allow them to establish what words will be used

• Ask open-ended questions
• Express empathy through reflective listening by using

a method of clarifying communication

• Reiterate what was stated
• Utilize the LOVE principle

LOVE PRINCIPLE

Listen Observe Validate Empower

LISTEN (Create a Safe Keeper Space)

• Listen with your ears, eyes and heart!

Show them you are with them throughout this healing process.

Listen

• Enter their world.

Enter

• Set the rules, set the tone and lead by

example!

Set

OBSERVE (Connectedness)

• Observe the nonverbal forms of communication, be

aware of facial expressions, body language, and the manner they respond to each other. Observe who sits next to who, who is the leader, the follower. Their attitudes towards each other can offer a huge tell- tale or red flags regarding what’s going on with individuals within the circle

• Observe our trauma responses –Fight, Flight or Free

and how they identify with it.

Validate (Hope)

• Acknowledge their names,

their voices, their thoughts and ask meaningful questions that reflect their feelings Affirmations, goals & dreams Educate & Empower

• Challenge them to be in touch with self, with

school/each other, home and community toempower them to realize their potential, purpose and mission in life!

• Empower them to pick up their journals,

write out their feelings and express what it feels like to define who they are!

• Simply allow them to walk out into the world

empowered to Define their Digital world inside and out!

• Self-awareness
• Self-management
• Social Awareness
• Relationship skills
• Responsible decision-

making

5 Core Competencies of SEL SELF Awareness…

understanding one’s own strengths and limitations.

Self-Awareness

Starts with a mind-shift to see your self in a positive light daily! Our girls are hearing too many negative words at home, school and in the media to define themselves. This increases relational aggression due to informational

• verload!

81% of the girls will suffer from emotional & mental

tantrums.

Self- Awareness~ Being able to define your feelings

• We must see

positive reflections

• f ourselves in the

mirror, radio, television, social media, books and games!

I DEFINE ME PLEDGE Affirmation Cards

I Define ME Pledge! Self-Management

ability to manage stress and be self-motivated.

BREATHE

Breathe!!!

Sit comfortably or lie down. Place one hand on your stomach and one hand on your chest. Breathe in slowly through your nose. Feel your stomach expand as you inhale. If you are breathing from the stomach, the hand on your chest shouldn’t move. Focus on filling up your lower lungs with air. Slowly exhale, releasing all the air out through your mouth. Use your hand to feel your stomach fall as you exhale. Practice breathing four to six breaths per minute Repeat this up to 10 times.

Benefits of Mindfulness Meditation

Increases your levels of resiliency Decreases your levels of stress Increase a sense of calm and mental balance Connects us with a sense of self, as we connect with others Affirm & Define your Vision for the day!!!!

Social Awareness

being open and understanding of the perspectives of others.

allows them to cope when things don’t go as planned to self-regulate, control those impulses to respond negatively, pause and reflect! Journaling or incorporating Let it Go and Let it flow!

Self-Management

I Define ME Journal

Relationship Skills

ability to communicate effectively, resolve conflicts constructively, resist negative social pressures and seek help when needed.

Negativity Social Media

What are the Benefits of Positive Media?

• Positive use of the media, the use of literature

and media to assist girls in overcoming emotional turmoil related to real life problems.

• to build self esteem, self- awareness and body

image.

• Decrease negative written communication,

promoting creative content that has a message.

Responsible Decision-Making

the ability to make ethical choices about personal behavior.

Define Your Voice Outcomes of SEL

• Improved attitudes about self and others,
• Increased pro-social behavior,
• Lower levels of problem behaviors and

emotional distress, and

• Improved academic performance (Catalano

et al., 2002; Greenberg et al., 2003; Zins et al., 2004).

Gender-Specific Spaces

*Mentor- led circles/groups of ten or less, diverse and held in a comfortable emotional safe space *Establish specific rules/boundaries (Love Principle) *Begin circles with manifesto/pledge/Affirmations *Online University (Safe Space) *Interactive/ Self- pacing Activities *Increasing Emotional Intelligence

Keeper Kit

• Journal
• Lanyard
• Tshirt
• Body Butter
• Keeper Bear

Digital World-Distance learning Tools must allow for:

• Sense of Safety
• Connectedness
• Hope

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Q&A

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• Are you interested in PD?
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• Dr. Maya Angelou