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Appreciative Living

Tony Silbert & Jackie Kelm

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Learning Objectives:

• 1. Learn how to use AI in day-to-day life.
• 2. Discover what healing conversations

are and how to have one.

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Agenda

• The AIA Model for applying AI daily
• Life demonstration using the AIA model
• The healing conversation process
• Having a healing conversation

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To Learn More…

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Worthiness & Capability Trust & Safety Love & Belonging Life & Death

Root Stories

He drives me crazy.

• I like where

I work.

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I hate cleaning.

• Daily Meaning Experiences

I’m happy that happened.

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Worthiness & Capability Trust & Safety Love & Belonging Life & Death

Root Stories Daily Meaning Experiences

Healing Conversations

AIA Model

He drives me crazy.

• I like where

I work.

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I hate cleaning.

• I’m happy

that happened.

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Appreciate What Is Imagine The Ideal

Positive Core

AIA Model Act From Inspiration Healing Conversation Model Clarify Your Intention Get Curious

Healing Conversation

Have the Conversation

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Th The AIA Model

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Think of something you would like to change or improve in your life that is causing you negative emotion.

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Now write a word that describes how it currently makes you FEEL. e.g. overwhelmed, tired, worried, stressed, etc.

Don’t panic! This is a BRIDGE exercise to AI

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• 1. How confident are you, that you can

change this?

• 2. How inspired are you to take action

right now?

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ZERO

CONFIDENCE OR MOTIVATION

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CONFIDENCE OR MOTIVATION

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CONFIDENCE OR MOTIVATION

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Appreciate What Is Imagine The Ideal

Positive Core

Act From Inspiration

AI AIA A Model

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Appreciate What Is Imagine The Ideal

Positive Core

Act From Inspiration

AI AIA A Model

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• 1. APPRECIATING WHAT IS
• Looking for the good
• HARD to do! Negativity Bias
• Brain thinks you will die

Goal: Feel Better

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EXERCISE: APPRECIATING WHAT IS

• 1. List as many good things as you can

about yourself: strengths, positive qualities, successes, accomplishments...

• 2. List as many good things as you can

about the situation. What you might learn from it, what you’re grateful for, resources…

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Appreciate What Is Imagine The Ideal

Positive Core

Act From Inspiration

AI AIA A Model

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• 2. IMAGINE THE IDEAL
• Focus on you
• Clarify what you want
• Imagine it

Goal: Picture What You Want

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EXERCISE 1: DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT

Reflect back on the word that described how your problem made you feel, and write down a new word that describes how you really want to feel instead. Examples:

• Overwhelmed à In-Control
• Tired à Energized
• Worried à Secure
• Stressed-out à Serene

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EXERCISE 2: PICTURE WHAT YOU WANT

• Everything stays the same other than you.

(Annoying people, bad weather, mishaps, etc.)

• You are feeling this new ideal way. (In-

control… energized… secure… serene…)

• Picture yourself in the future feeling this ideal

way, and notice what YOU are thinking, doing, and saying that is creating this good feeling.

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Appreciate What Is Act From Inspiration Imagine The Ideal

Positive Core

AI AIA A Model

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• 3. ACT FROM INSPIRATION

What is one thing you feel inspired to do, no matter how small, to move towards your ideal? Goal: Take inspired action.

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Appreciate What Is Imagine The Ideal

Positive Core

Act From Inspiration

AI AIA A Model

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TOTAL CONFIDENCE OR MOTIVATION SOME CONFIDENCE OR MOTIVATION

• 1. How confident are you, that you can

change this?

• 2. How inspired are you to take action right

now?

ZERO

CONFIDENCE OR MOTIVATION

TOTAL

CONFIDENCE OR MOTIVATION

SOME

CONFIDENCE OR MOTIVATION

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Jackie Kelm

704.799.0975 Jkelm@AppreciativeLiving.com www.AppreciativeLiving.com

Tony Silbert

401.787.2655 tsilbert@healingconversationsnow.com Twitter: @HealingNow tsilbert@spartinaconsulting.com Twitter: SpartinaLLC and @TonySilbert

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