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A Shared Responsibility

Working Together to Promote Positive Mental Health

Nov 17,2015 Michelle Cassidy Mental Health Lead

Learning about You!

A case of the….

Ya buts………..

What are your hopes and dreams for your child?

“ How can we prepare kids for the

tests of life

rather than a

life of tests?”

Linda Lantieri

Our Task as Parents and Educators

To prepare our children/students to be:  Ready for the post secondary and employment world Positive contributors to society Healthy and Thriving

What do we mean when we talk about mental health?

Holistic Approach

How can we together promote mental health for all?

What do we need to do to promote mental health?

Reduce Stigma Develop understanding Create safe environments Teach social emotional skills This is the SAME for school and home.

Our Students

“I feel like people won’t value me if I don’t do well at school”

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“I usually hide my feelings of anxiety and sadness”

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“I feel like people I am expected to be perfect ”

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Your Brain on Anxiety

Dangers of Perfectionism (Unbalanced Achievement Orientation)

• Students demonstrating perfectionism are at

high risk for mental health challenges

• Anxiety
• Depression
• Suicidality in relation to perceived failure

When to be Concerned

How to know if your child is struggling with stress, anxiety, or perfectionism

F requency I ntensity D uration D evelopment

When should I worry?

High anxiety Hesitancy to move outside of the comfort zone Anxiety based procrastination Hyper-competitiveness “All or Nothing” Thinking Dysregulated affect: high distress for perceived “failures”

Why Does this Happen?

The Power of the Brain

• Designed to keep our body in balance
• Our body craves homeostasis
• The brain supports adaptive functioning
• It is hardwired to protect us

A Helpful Brain Model

• Dr. Daniel Siegel

Why is this important?

Flight, Fight,

• r

Freeze

Changing the Brain

We need our brain to have the alarm system, we wouldn’t want to turn if off BUT higher level cortical functions help us moderate it

• Plasticity allows us to strengthen how the

brain regulates

• Pruning gets rid of circuits we don’t use

The Significance of the Brain in Academic Achievement

HEALTHIER BRAIN INCREASES ACHIEVEMENT

The Significance of Safe Space

To learn students need to feel safe. When students don’t feel safe, the fight or flight center of the brain, the amygdala, fires and incapacitates the hippocampus, the new-learning center of the brain. Students then become survivors vs. learners (Nussbaum, 2012).

The Power of Relationships YOU MAKE A DIFFERENCE!

Cultivating relationships which promote mental health

We all have a primal need to

The Myth of SELF ELF Regulation

https://youtu.be/Wz1pnFBLZM4

How can we help?

Support your child to integrate self care

….teach me HOW to calm down don’t just TELL me to…

Understanding the Triad

S.O.S STOP….OBSERVE….SHIFT

MIND Thoughts/Feelings Behaviors BRAIN/BODY Physiology

Exercise

You are sitting in your room at night reading. You hear a noise/knocking at the window….. Your first thought is…..

Exercise

What was your thought? i.e. animal, branch, person/burglar What did you say to yourself? i.e. “ no big deal” (branch) “oh no, I’ve got to get out of here” (burglar) What feeling did your thoughts lead you to have? i.e. fear/dread (burglar) How would that feeling influence your actions? i.e. run/hide/shake/tremble

Shifting the Triad: Modifying thoughts

Thoughts/Feelings

Taming the Mind

Cognitive reframing Interrupt the negative pattern Retrain the pattern Car analogy—automatic to manual

Shifting the Triad: Modifying Thoughts

Anxiety: overestimate the threat, underestimate ability to cope Trying to judge perceived threats using a more rational scale Decrease perception of threat Increase capacity to cope

Cognitive Reframing

Adapted from: D. Bilsker, M. Gilbert, D. Worling & E. J. Garland

Situation Thoughts Thinking Error Realistic Thoughts

All or Nothing Thinking Overgeneralization Disqualifying the positive Jumping to conclusions

What proof do I have? Would most people agree with this thought? If not, what would be a more realistic thought? What would I say to a friend in a similar situation?

Self Compassion Not about judging ourselves positively, but a way of relating to

• urselves kindly, embracing
• urselves lovingly flaws and all

Impact of Self Compassion on Self Regulation

• Particular impact on willpower
• Donuts and Dieters: resultant increase in

ability to self regulate (Adams &Leary, 2007)

• The power of self compassion/forgiveness is

demonstrated to prevent relapse :

Alcohol Quitting smoking (more effective than the patch) Gambling Procrastination

Self Compassion Script

• 1. Notice your feelings (self doubt, criticism etc.)
• 2. Acknowledge common humanity (all people

struggle/give in sometimes, it is just part of change)

• 3. Replace with encouragement over criticism

(what would you say to your best friend)

Optimism

A True Optimist

The Power of Optimism

• Aim for Realistic Optimism
• Explanatory style:

Questions to change your “explanation”

• Was this out of my control, or did I cause it?
• What parts of the situation can I change?
• Is this something that affects all aspects of my life
• r just a part?
• How long will this really be a problem for?

Changing our Response: Modifying Physiology

Sensation/Physiology Manage distress states, relaxation, deep breathing

Strategies: Take up Smoking

Just kidding! Why this works:

• Taking a break physically from place/environment

which generates stress

• Deep breathing

Let’s practice… 4, 7, 8 Breathing

Mindfulness

• A seated meditation may be easiest OR a

body scan Seated Body Scan

• MARC.ucla (Mindfulness Awareness Resource

Centre) meditation recordings iTunes U Guided Mindfulness (free audio guided meditations)

Mindfulness Pause

• Creates space between stimulus and response
• Avoids reactivity

e.g. blanking out during a test instead of panicking or reacting with anxiety, Mindful pause, deep breathing Calms the brains reaction and allows re engagement from a calmer space

“When I’m mad, and I get into a fight with my brother or anyone in my family, I go up to my room, and I start breathing, doing mindfulness, and it calms me down a little so things get back to normal.” Jacopo Grade 4

Family Mealtimes

• 1. Schedule them if you have to
• 2. No technology, including answering the

phone

• 3. Structure the conversation, must be positive
• 4. Play soothing dinner music, have each family

member create a playlist and rotate them

• 5. Devote one meal month to each family

member (choice of meal, pick the positive conversation starter, and 1 affirmation)**identity development

Your role in supporting your child

• Practice stress reduction with your child
• Celebrate all aspects of your child—character,

personality, school, work etc.

• Deliver messages of self compassion
• Get help if you feel their/your stress level is

impacting you in ways you cannot manage

If the day ever came when we were able to accept ourselves and our children exactly as we are and they are, then, I believe we would have come to an understanding of what "good parenting" means. Fred Rogers

Final Strategy: Focus on YOU!!

• Managing your own mental health is key

Practice Self Compassion for you!!!

• Open Loop system: relationships with others

support emotional regulation

• Mirror neurons
• Emotions are contagious….for better or for

worse

Are you ready to change the lens?

The Power of Positive Psychology

The 21 day Challenge

Daily:

• 1. Write down 3 new things you were grateful

for that day

• 2. Journal one positive experience
• 3. Exercise
• 4. Meditation
• 5. One random act of kindness

Resources

Websites: Parents for Children's Mental Health Anxiety BC Anxiety BC Parent Toolkit Mind Your Mind Books:

• Building Emotional Intelligence (Linda Lantieri)
• Flourish (Dr. Seligman)
• The Mindful Child (Susan Kaiser Greenland)
• Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain (Daniel Siegal)
• The Highly Sensitive Child: Helping Our Children Thrive When the World

Overwhelms Them (Elaine Aron)

• Keys to Parenting Your Anxious Child, (Dr. Katharina Manassis)
• Worried No More, Second Edition: Help and Hope for Anxious Children (Aureen

Wagner)

• Freeing Your Child From Anxiety, (Tamar Chansky)
• Helping Your Anxious Child (Ronald M. Rapee)

Questions?