A guide for those interested in mentoring or being mentored Ice - - PowerPoint PPT Presentation

A guide for those interested in mentoring or being mentored

 Ice breaker  Presentation  Refreshment break & time to quickly review

the CBC Mentoring Handbook

 Q&A Session  Where to now …..  Close

 Would you like to share briefly what

experience you might have had of mentoring?

 Would you like to share if you have any other

experience that you might think is relevant to this topic?

 Homer’s ‘The Odyssey’ contained the story of

King Odysseus leaving to fight in the Trojan War leaving his son, Telemachus to the care

• f his old friend named Mentor

 Mentor was not coach or tutor nor was

Telemachus made an apprentice of Mentor

 Mentor used his knowledge of the character

& priorities of the father, Odysseus to shape and guide the help he gave Telemachus

 Examples of mentoring relationships in the

Bible

• Jethro and Moses
• Moses and Joshua
• David and Jonathon
• Paul and Timothy
• Samuel and Saul
• Barnabus with Paul and John Mark
• Jesus and His 12 disciples
• …………. and maybe the 12 to the 72

 What is Christian mentoring all about?

• identifying and promoting the work of God’s Spirit

in the lives of others

• enabling one another to access God’s resources

for mutual growth and strength in spirituality, service and ministry

• using relationships that are unique, intentional &

empowering

 Mentoring is different from coaching,

counselling, spiritual direction, discipling, befriending, pastoral care or apprenticeship although there are similarities

 Asking open & sometimes searching questions  Being an effective & discerning listener  Not answering your own questions  Resisting giving your own experiences  Providing options for the mentee to consider  Encouraging the mentee to set the pace  Praying for the mentee  Holding the mentee to account  Not being judegmental  Every mentor to be mentored!

 Managing expectations

• Discussing what you expect from the relationship
• Review every 6-12 months
• Be ready to call a halt if it not working or has run

its course

 Setting boundaries

• Avoid mixed gender relationships
• Developing a contract to govern the relationship
• Address practical issues
• Reassure one another over confidentiality, etc

 Misunderstanding of the purpose and pattern of

the relationship

 Lack of willingness to seek third-party help

when the need arises, e.g. counselling

 Abusive or otherwise inappropriate behaviour  Co-dependency  Leaks  Loss of momentum  Mismatch of expectations  Taking advantage of the mentor

 Implementation Strategy for Mentoring in CBC

• Organic growth and development
• No certification or approval process for mentors
• Building on existing relationships, e.g. prayer triplets

 Role of the Mentoring Co-ordinator

• Training & advice
• Register of those having attended training session(s)
• Brokerage
• Register of mentoring relationships in CBC
• Communications and promotion