A guide for those interested in mentoring or being mentored Ice - PowerPoint PPT Presentation

A guide for those interested in mentoring or being mentored

 Ice breaker  Presentation  Refreshment break & time to quickly review the CBC Mentoring Handbook  Q&A Session  Where to now …..  Close

 Would you like to share briefly what experience you might have had of mentoring?  Would you like to share if you have any other experience that you might think is relevant to this topic?

 Homer’s ‘The Odyssey’ contained the story of King Odysseus leaving to fight in the Trojan War leaving his son, Telemachus to the care of his old friend named Mentor  Mentor was not coach or tutor nor was Telemachus made an apprentice of Mentor  Mentor used his knowledge of the character & priorities of the father, Odysseus to shape and guide the help he gave Telemachus

 Examples of mentoring relationships in the Bible  Jethro and Moses  Moses and Joshua  David and Jonathon  Paul and Timothy  Samuel and Saul  Barnabus with Paul and John Mark  Jesus and His 12 disciples  …………. and maybe the 12 to the 72

 What is Christian mentoring all about?  identifying and promoting the work of God’s Spirit in the lives of others  enabling one another to access God’s resources for mutual growth and strength in spirituality, service and ministry  using relationships that are unique, intentional & empowering  Mentoring is different from coaching, counselling, spiritual direction, discipling, befriending, pastoral care or apprenticeship although there are similarities

 Asking open & sometimes searching questions  Being an effective & discerning listener  Not answering your own questions  Resisting giving your own experiences  Providing options for the mentee to consider  Encouraging the mentee to set the pace  Praying for the mentee  Holding the mentee to account  Not being judegmental  Every mentor to be mentored!

 Managing expectations  Discussing what you expect from the relationship  Review every 6-12 months  Be ready to call a halt if it not working or has run its course  Setting boundaries  Avoid mixed gender relationships  Developing a contract to govern the relationship  Address practical issues  Reassure one another over confidentiality, etc

 Misunderstanding of the purpose and pattern of the relationship  Lack of willingness to seek third-party help when the need arises, e.g. counselling  Abusive or otherwise inappropriate behaviour  Co-dependency  Leaks  Loss of momentum  Mismatch of expectations  Taking advantage of the mentor

 Implementation Strategy for Mentoring in CBC  Organic growth and development  No certification or approval process for mentors  Building on existing relationships, e.g. prayer triplets  Role of the Mentoring Co-ordinator  Training & advice  Register of those having attended training session(s)  Brokerage  Register of mentoring relationships in CBC  Communications and promotion