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PEEK A BOO I SEE YOU

How do you support the parent-child bond within the African- American family in crisis?

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2016 PARENT CHILD HOME ANNUAL CONFERENCE

Presenters: Pamela S. Williams & Marcella Taylor

Science shows that children who do well despite serious hardship have had at least one stable and committed relationship with a supportive adult. These relationships buffer children from developmental disruption and help them develop “resilience,” or the set of skills needed to respond to adversity and thrive

Harvard Center for the Developing Child - Supportive Relationships and Active Skill-Building Strengthen the Foundations of Resilience: Working Paper No. 13 2

The science behind the theories

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Building Adult Capacities to Improve Child Outcomes

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EC: Emotional Contagion

We take on the moods and attitudes of those around us.

• Emotions are contagious
• Can be spread consciously
• r unconsciously
• Can be positive or

negative

• Both verbal and nonverbal

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Attribution

How individuals interpret events and how this relates to their thinking and behavior.

Heider (1958)

• Internal and external attributions

are used to explain behavior

• Internal - personality/character trait

(fixed)

• External - situations explain

behavior (temporary)

• Beware the fundamental attribution

error

• Consider culture and context

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The Power of Childhood Memories

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Childhood Memories…

What are some of yours?

“We tend to idealize childhood as a carefree time, but youth alone offers no shield against the emotional hurts and traumas many children face”

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My Life News

Memo emory ry #1 #1: :

Memo emory ry #2 #2:

Memo emory ry #3 #3: :

ACES: Adverse Childhood Experiences

• Adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) are

stressful or traumatic experiences, including abuse, neglect and a range of household dysfunction such as witnessing domestic violence, or growing up with substance abuse, mental illness, parental discord, or crime in the home.

• When children are exposed to chronic stressful

events, neurodevelopment can be disrupted. Disruption in early development of the nervous system may impede a child’s ability to cope with negative or disruptive emotions and contribute to emotional and cognitive impairment.

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Childhood Memories…

• Checking in with yourself and others
• Being aware of reactions
• Involves describing perceptions, considering
• ther angles, and asking questions
• Influenced by internal and external factors
• “Things aren’t always what they appear.”

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Perception Checking

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Supporting the Bond through Communication

The interactive influences of

genes and experience shape the developing brain. Scientists now know a major ingredient in this developmental process is the “serve and return” relationship between children and their parents and other caregivers in the family or community.

Harvard Center for the Developing Child - Inbrief | the science of early childhood development

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Verbal Communication:

The foundation of early literacy is parent-child verbal interaction.

• Words used to identify and

communicate emotions

• Communicates intensity
• Can better help us distinguish

between and monitor emotions

• Helps children connect a word

to what they are feeling

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Verbal interaction involves “serve and return.”

Emotional Vocabulary

Nonverbal Communication

• Emotions and feelings that are expressed

through behaviors, facial expressions, posture

• Both more authentic and more vague
• Can substitute for verbal expressions
• Can support or negate what is actually being said
• “Leaks out in ways that expose our underlying

thoughts or feelings.”

• Seven facial expressions recognized across

cultures

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Active Listening

• Listening in flexible ways
• Use verbal and nonverbal messages
• Remove as many barriers as

possible

• Consider culture as cultural/family

norms may dictate different behaviors

• Can enhance informational,

empathetic and critical listening Active listening is a good way to improve your communication with your child. It lets your child know you are interested in what she has to say and want to hear

• more. When you are actively

listening, you give your full attention to your child.

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention

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Supporting the Bond through Rituals & Routines

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Routines for young children helps them feel safe and stable in an unstable situation.

Routines build Resilience

Thriving communities depend on the successful development of the people who live in them, and building the foundations of successful development in childhood requires responsive relationships and supportive environments.

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Reading Together

When parents and children read together, the routine includes more than simply conveying the information in the book. It may involve cuddling up in a rocking chair before bed with a favorite story, pointing to pictures, taking turns in sounding out familiar phrases, and adding personal touches to the end of a story. In this way, story time is couched in an emotionally positive event and book reading is viewed by the child as an enjoyable, rewarding experience that extends to beliefs about reading in the school environment.

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Reading routines may support the development of early literacy skills

Reading together develops Parent-Child Verbal Interaction

• Of Thee I Sing: A Letter to My Daughters,

Barack Obama

• Lola at the Library, Lola Loves Stories, Lola

Reads to Leo - Ann McQuinn

• Ingrown Tyrone, Toyla L Thompson
• Loud Lips Lucy, Toyla L Thompson
• Whose Toes Are Those?, Jabari Asim

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Some books featuring African-American Children

• The Snowy Day, Ezra Jack Keats
• Peter’s Chair, Ezra Jack Keats
• Whistle for Willie, Ezra Jack Keats
• Please, Baby, Please, Spike Lee and Tanya Lewis

Lee

• I Like Myself!, Karen Beaumont
• We All Went on Safari, Laurie Krebs and Julia

Cairns

Books that support…

Perception Checking Emotional Vocabulary

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“The beast, the beast! I’m filled with fear. Who is the beast? Who can it be? I see no beast. I just see me.” In Keith Baker’s book, Who Is the Beast?, animals are terrified by rumors

• f a vicious beast roaming the jungle.

The tiger uses a process similar to perception checking to challenge the belief that he is the scary monster. In doing so, he and the other animals realize they share similarities. The bear in My Many Colored Days by Dr. Seuss feels sad. Word choice such as “slow” and “low” communicate the intensity of the bear’s emotion. The picture also conveys his feelings through nonverbal communication as we see the angle of his eyebrows along with his posture.

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Books that support…

Emotional Cognition Attribution

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In The Bad Mood!, Badger’s bad mood is spreading to his

• friends. Once he recognizes what he’s done, he decides

to have a good mood party instead to make his friends feel better. Internal attribution- “She’s just bad or curious.” External attribution - “She’s sleepy or tired.”

Books that support…

Nonverbal Communication

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Peter deals with feelings of frustration and unhappiness that his belongings are being changed to suit his baby sister.

Playing Together

Play is essential to development because it contributes to the cognitive, physical, social, and emotional well-being of children and

• youth. Play also offers an ideal
• pportunity for parents to engage

fully with their children.

Pediatrics Vol. 119 No. 1 January 1, 2007

• pp. 182 -191

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Playing together stimulates verbal interaction, language development, expand vocabulary, and reinforce phonemic awareness.

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Playing together develops Parent-Child Interaction

• Simon Says
• Mother May I
• Freeze Tag
• Imaginary Play
• Peek a boo
• Board games
• Puzzles
• Blocks
• Cards

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Some games Playing together is a powerful and fun way to increase parent-child interaction, build a child’s language and literacy skills, and prepare a child to be a successful student.

Playing with Puzzles helps develop Executive Function

"It's something that's very common in trauma: difficulty in regulating emotions and behavior," she explains. "That's why a lot of these kids get in trouble with the classroom.“

Child psychologist Hilit Kletter, of Stanford University's School of Medicine Emotional skills -- they learn patience and are rewarded when they complete the puzzle Cognitive skills -- as they solve the problems of a puzzle Physical skills -- from holding puzzle pieces and turning them until they fit

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Puzzles help:

Simple things parents can do to Strengthen the Bond

• Break Isolation by going to:
• Park
• Museums (check for free days)
• Create or continue:
• Meal time discussions
• Mealtime rituals
• Bedtime rituals
• Bath time rituals

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Use everyday items

• Paper plates
• Tissue rolls
• Paper towel rolls
• Paper bags
• Construction paper

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Inexpensive crafts that encourages Creativity

Website Resources

http://www.education.com http://alphamom.com http://www.repeatcrafterme.com http://dollarstorecrafts.com http://www.enchantedlearning.com http://www.education.com http://www.dltk-kids.com https://www.pinterest.com http://www.busybeekidscrafts.com

Other things parents can do that …Boosts the Parent-Child Bond

• Go to the Dollar Store for:
• Crayons
• Puzzles
• Paper
• Download the Vroom App:

(http://www.joinvroom.org/) Daily activities for have children under 5

• Get a Library card – most

libraries are a part of a state wide loaning – you only need to issued one card and can use throughout the state

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Questions

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Contact Information

Marcella Taylor

Atlantic Street Center Resource Development Assistant marcellat@atlanticstreet.org www.atlanticstreet.org

Pamela Williams, M.S.

Parent-Child Home Program Washington State Lead pam@thrivewa.org pwilliams@parent-child.org

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