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Safe Zone & LGBTQ+ Ally Training

Provided by Prism of Saint Leo University Presenter: Chris Friend (uses he/him/his pronouns) Student Panelist: Joseph Perrotta (uses he/him/his pronouns)

• Housekeeping

Groundwork

Restrooms

Two Planned Breaks

Restrooms are easier to point to than write about. Exit room, cross the building, turn left, then left again.

Cell Phones

Silence, Please

We want to hear from you, not from your technology. Please mute any and all devices you have on you that are prone to go “bing!” Remember to mute laptops and any wearables.

Movement

Comfort + Courtesy

We understand that a three-hour session can be physically taxing, especially for those unaccustomed to sitting all day. Please feel free to move about if needed, but please do so quietly so as not to disturb

• thers.

Contracts

Completely Voluntary

At the end of this training session, you’ll have the

• pportunity to sign our lgbtq+ Ally Contract,

indicating that you are willing to serve as a point of contact for the lgbtq+ community at Saint Leo. Signing the contract is completely optional.

• Quick housekeeping to ensure

today’s event runs smoothly, and to make sure we know who’s with us.

Today’s Agenda (in Brief)

Groundwork

15 minutes

Introductions & Groundwork

Establishing rapport

55 minutes

Terminology & Identity

Building knowledge

55 minutes

Empathy & Disclosure

Building awareness

55 minutes

Scenarios & Opportunities

Building skills The meat and potatoes. Here, we’ll discuss various ways people see themselves and how we can best talk about those variables. Here’s where you come in. We’ll look at what an LGBTQ+ Ally might hear from students, and we’ll talk about ways to react with kindness and support. Putting it to the test. First, you’ll have a chance to address any pesky or awkward questions that may have come up during

• training. Then, we’ll practice

what we learn today.

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Discussion Expectations

The Vegas Rule…Modified Ask Questions About Whatever, Whenever The Aretha Franklin Rule Be Brave

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Our Focus on Core Values

Groundwork

We value all individuals’ unique talents, respect their dignity, and strive to foster their commitment to excellence in our work. Our community’s strength depends on the unity and diversity of our people, on the free exchange of ideas, and on learning, living, and working harmoniously. We foster a spirit of belonging, unity, and interdependence based on mutual trust and respect to create socially responsible environments that challenge all of us to listen, to learn, to change, and to serve.

Respect Community

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Participant Outcomes

Groundwork

Improve your understanding of (and feel more comfortable with) the concepts of sexual orientation, gender identity, and gender expression Better empathize with the challenges that lgbtq+ people face

Knowledge Awareness

Identify ways to create safe, affirming, and inclusive spaces for lgbtq+ people at Saint Leo

Skills

Introductions

Your name The pronouns you use Your department or major Something you want to learn Name of a famous lgbtq+ person

Part

• Terminology & Identity

Building Knowledge

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Gender Boxes

Terminology & Identity

Activity for groups of ~4 people

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[Background image omitted in online distribution due to rights limitations.]

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The Umbrella

Acronyms that refer to an amorphous community of people who do not identify as mainstream in terms of their biology, affinity, or sexuality can get crazy. Toronto wins the contest, thanks to their recognition of LGBTTIQQ2SA people.

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Sex Assigned at Birth

Gender & Sexuality Continua

Female

A person with ovaries, XX chromosomes, and the associated hormones and genitals 1 in ~2 births

Intersex

Some variation in chromosomes, hormones, gonads, or genitals that is not exclusively male or female 1 in ~1,500 births Outdated Term: Hermaphrodite

Male

This classification of people occurs at birth and is based on physical, biological evidence. It can be confirmed through dna analysis.

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Gender Identity

Gender & Sexuality Continua

Woman Non-binary, Genderqueer, Two-Spirit, Bi-Gender, Third Gender

Outdated Terms: Tranny, Transexual, Transvestite

Man

A person’s deeply held sense or psychological knowledge of their

• gender. One’s own gender identity is not determined by others.

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• Transgender

Gender & Sexuality Continua

What does it mean?

Sex assigned at birth does not align with gender identity

Often, but not always, leads to medical, social, legal transitions

What is it not?

Acting or performance

Drag is a temporary performance. Children playing dress-up act and pretend. Cross-dressing, too, is an

• utward physical performance.

Cisgender

A person whose assigned sex and gender identity align.

How is it used?

As an adjective

Say things like, “Morgan is transgender,” or, “Morgan is a transgender person. Do not say, “Morgan is a transgender,” or, “Morgan is transgendered.”

• Feminine

Masculine

Gender Expression

Gender & Sexuality Continua

Qualities traditionally associated with women, especially delicacy and prettiness

Androgynous

Some combination of qualities traditionally associated with each of the binary genders Qualities traditionally associated with men, especially strength and aggressiveness The way a person communicates gender through behavior, clothing, hair, voice, body characteristics and mannerisms. It includes self-perception and social perception.

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Sexual Orientation

Gender & Sexuality Continua

A person’s self-perceived identity in relation to the gender(s) that person is physically attracted to. Examples include: heterosexual/ straight, homosexual/gay, lesbian, bisexual, queer, pansexual, etc.

Attracted to Men Attracted to Multiple (or “Both”) Genders Attracted to Women

Asexual

Not Sexually Attracted to Others

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Romantic Orientation

Gender & Sexuality Continua

A person’s self-perceived identity in relation to the gender(s) that person is romantically (not sexually) attracted to.

Attracted to Men Attracted to Multiple (or “Both”) Genders Attracted to Women

Aromantic

Not Romantically Attracted to Others

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The Gender Unicorn

Clarifying the complexity we often assume or overlook

Intersectionality

List 5 of your identities (such as race, religion, gender, size, age, military status, upbringing, memberships) Mark with + if you think about it regularly Mark with – if you think of it infrequently Questions for Discussion: Does your identity influence (intentionally or not) your assumptions about or interactions with other people? Which of your identities influence how

• thers treat or understand you?

Does one of your identities come into conflict with another identity you hold?

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Stretch Break (≤10 min)

Terminology & Identity

Part

• Empathy & Disclosure

Building Awareness

2

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Think Before You Speak

Empathy & Disclosure

Trouble spots:

Cause: choice / preference / lifestyle Slang: “That’s so gay.” Terms: homosexual / fag / dyke Heteronormativity: boyfriend / girlfriend / “opposite gender” Assuming a gender (with pronouns, etc.)

www.itspronouncedmetrosexual.com

I want to say “gay!” I want to say “gay!”

yes! yes! yes yes! yes! yes! yes! yes! yes! no no no no no no no no no no yes! yes/no yes! yes! yes yes! yes! yes! yes! yes! yes/no yes! no no no no no no no no no no yes!

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Religion & Identity

Empathy & Disclosure

Every person has an inherent dignity because he

• r she is created in God's image.

Respect for the God-given dignity of all persons means the recognition of human rights and responsibilities. Like all gifts from God, the power and freedom of sexuality can be channeled toward good or evil. The Christian community should offer its homosexual sisters and brothers understanding and pastoral care.

Empathy & Disclosure

— “Always Our Children: A Statement of the Bishops’ Committee on Marriage and Family” (1997)

“Homosexual orientation is experienced as a given, not as something freely chosen. By itself, therefore, a homosexual orientation cannot be considered sinful, for morality presumes the freedom to choose.”

Empathy & Disclosure

—Pope Francis, in his April 2017 TED Talk

“Let us help each other, all together, to remember that the other is not a statistic

• r a number. The other has a face. The

‘you’ is always a real presence, a person to take care of.”

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By the Numbers

Empathy & Disclosure

52% of Gen Zs identify as something other than exclusively heterosexual [source: JWT Intelligence 2016] 35% percent of millennials age 21 to 34 identify as non-heterosexual [JWT Intelligence 2016] Nearly twice as likely to identify as lgbtq+ compared to

• lder generations [GLAAD 2017]

3× more likely to feel unsafe at school [Trevor Project] 2–3× more likely to skip school [YRBS 2015] 4× times more likely to attempt suicide [Trevor Project]

17% of lgbtq+ students in schools with a gsa (like Prism) 33% of lgbtq+ students in schools without a gsa [School Social Work Journal. 37 (2):

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Challenges for Students

Empathy & Disclosure

Policies: protection & empathy Safety: physical & social Curriculum: representation & acceptance

Identity: complex development process Mental Health Condition: 3× more likely Body Image: eating disorders more common

Campus & Classes Identity & Mental Health

Providers: affirming & competent Substance Abuse: 2–3× more likely Sex Ed: Less likely to learn their needs

Sex, Drugs & Medicine

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Coming Out

Empathy & Disclosure

You only come out once You’re either out or you aren’t People who are out are more mature Everyone needs to come out There is a sequence of steps everyone takes in coming out Coming out in a continuous process Most people are out in some aspect of life, but not all Not everyone feels the need to come out Not everyone is safe to come out Some people come out to a priest first, some to a significant other, some to a sibling, some to a stranger on the internet.

Myths Facts

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Coming Out

Empathy & Disclosure

Coming out requires at least two people People of color come out later than white lgbtq+ people LGBTQ+ people know they are different from childhood Coming out is all-or-nothing and irreversible A person generally has to self-disclose first People of color come out on average around the same time (or earlier) than white lgbtq+ people Some lgbtq+ people know at very young ages, but

• thers don’t realize it for much longer

Many people initially come out as one identity (or about only one aspect), but later come out as another

Myths (cont’d) Facts (cont’d)

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The Identity-Development Process

From Vivienne Cass (1979), Journal of Homosexuality, 4 (3), 219-235.

Empathy & Disclosure

Identity Confusion

“Why am I different from others?” Realization that one might be gay (causes confusion); focus on behaviors; low self- esteem; thoughts of "just a phase"

Identity Comparison

“So what am I, then?” Ability to express feelings as same-sex; unwillingness to identify self as gay

Identity Tolerance

“I guess I’m gay, but that’s shameful.” Acknowledgment that one is probably gay; negative thoughts regarding homosexuality

Identity Pride

“I’m gay & you must be okay with it!” Identification of how past experiences were affected by identity; anger at past homophobia

Identity Acceptance

“I am gay, and that’s okay.” Abstract logic leads to labeling oneself as gay; acceptance progresses gradually

Identity Synthesis

“There’s more to me than being gay.” Integration of various personal identities; reduced anger as one considers context; shift to existential questioning

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Coming Out: A Guide for Allies

Empathy & Disclosure

Respect confidentiality. Be supportive. Don’t put words in their mouth. Keep the lines of communication open.

The Coming-Out Experience

Empathy & Disclosure

A Whole-Group Activity

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Stretch Break (≤10 min)

Empathy & Disclosure

Part

• Scenarios & Opportunities

Building Skills

3

(I’m asking for a friend.)

Scenarios & Opportunities

• 1. What bathroom does a transgender

person use?

• 2. How do lesbians have sex?
• 3. Are all transgender people gay?
• 4. Is bisexuality real?
• 5. Why is there a lgbtq+ community,

but not a straight community?

• 6. Why are gay men more promiscuous?
• 7. Don’t all these labels actually make it

worse not better?

• 8. In a gay relationship, who is the man?
• 9. Can I ask someone how they identify?
• 10. Is a man who dates a transgender

woman actually gay?

Scenarios

Scenarios & Opportunities

Small-Group Activity

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Start-Stop-Continue

Scenarios & Opportunities

Individual Activity

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Community Resources

Scenarios & Opportunities

GLSEN (glsen.org) National LGBT Task Force (ngltf.org) The Trevor Project (thetrevorproject.org) It Gets Better Project (itgetsbetter.org) Human Rights Campaign (hrc.org) METRO Inclusive Health (metrotampabay.org) Gay Catholics of Tampa Bay (gaycatholicstampabay.com) Crisis Center of Tampa Bay (crisiscenter.com; 2-1-1) PFLAG Tampa Bay (pflagtampa.org) Pasco Pride (pascoprideproud.org)

Online In Tampa Bay

Safe Zone / LGBTQ+ Allies (website TBD) Department of Theology Father Michael Cooper 352-588-8356 Counseling Services DeChantal Hall Title IX Services Beverley DiGicobbe, 352-588-7429 Prism Meetings & Members prism@saintleo.edu / @PrismSaintLeo

At Saint Leo University

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Safe Zone & LGBTQ+ Ally Contract

Scenarios & Opportunities

Completely voluntary. If you aren’t 100% comfortable, please do not sign. Instead, perhaps:

Stack with your packet and recycle it Leave on table for us to re-use Come back again when you want more to think about

It’s a commitment to be kind, not perfect. Placards provided after signing. Please post visibly— preferably near name plate outside office/dorm door. Today’s training applies for four years; after that, take refresher course to re-certify & get updated placard. A contract copy is in your packet for your reference.

Safe Zone

Ally for the lgbtq+ community of Saint Leo

Thank You.

Provided by Prism of Saint Leo University Presenter: Chris Friend Student Panelist: Joseph Perrotta