PREPARING KIDS FOR REALITY LIFE READY KIDS
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KEY POINT THINGS THAT MAKE US FEEL SAFE ACTUALLY MAY MAKE OUR KIDS MORE VULNERABLE.
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THERE IS A BIG DIFFERENCE GOOD KIDS VS. GREAT ADULTS
LAUNCH PROCESS Motivation External Internal Responsible Parent Teach Coach & Discipline & Mentor Child Not Responsible Age Birth “Adult”
F a i l e d L a u n c h Parent Responsible Child Not Responsible Birth Age “Adult”
F a i l e d L a u n c h Responsible Parent Child Not Responsible Birth Age “Adult”
IMBALANCE CAUSES FRUSTRATION
MOVING FULCRUM CREATES IMPACT
FAMILY AS A FULCRUM Life Thriving Dysfunctional Family Family
WHEN FAMILY HURTS Lower Impact More Struggle Life Dysfunctional Family
WHEN FAMILY HELPS Life Higher Impact Less Wasted Energy Thriving Family
FAMILY AS A FULCRUM Life Thriving Dysfunctional Family Family Strength of Parent Relationship
FUTURE DESTROYER PERFECTIONISM
FUTURE DESTROYERS - PERFECTIONISM “Perfectionism causes conflicts with your family, it takes up all your free time, it squeezes the enjoyment out of all your activities. To perfectionists, nothing is ever perfect, so they are never fully satisfied” Strassburger
FUTURE DESTROYER PEOPLE PLEASING
BEST - Learn from other person’s mistake
Listen to Advice from the Wise Second Best
Most Painful Personal Experience
PROCESS FOR BECOMING LIFE READY ‣ Caught ‣ Taught ‣ Practiced
WHAT EMPLOYERS WANT ‣ Critical Thinking/Problem Solving ‣ Critical Thinking/Problem Solving ‣ Teamwork ‣ Teamwork ‣ Professionalism/Work Ethic ‣ Professionalism/Work Ethic ‣ Oral/Written Communication ‣ Oral/Written Communication ‣ Information Technology ‣ Information Technology Application Application ‣ Leadership ‣ Leadership ‣ Career Management ‣ Career Management National Association of Colleges and Employers (NACE) 2015 Survey
MAKING DECISIONS DECISIVE NOT IMPULSIVE ‣ Narrow Framing ‣ The Confirmation Bias ‣ Short-term emotion ‣ Overconfidence Decisive: How to Make Better Choices in Life and Work by Chip & Dan Heath
MAKING DECISIONS HOW TO MAKE BETTER DECISIONS ‣ Widen Your Options ‣ Reality-test Your Assumptions ‣ Attain Distance Before Deciding ‣ Prepare to be wrong Photo: Mateusz Stachowski
HOW TO WIN WINNING WELL ▸ Keep Perspective ▸ Celebrate, but don’t gloat ▸ Winning brings responsibility ▸ Have “class” ▸ Every sport is a team sport. John R. Tusis, “There’s such a thin line between winning and losing.”
WIN FROM LOSING LOSING WITHOUT BEING A LOSER ‣ Tell stories of real champions ‣ Celebrate growth, not just achievement ‣ Give them a chance to fail ‣ Don’t be a “Polly Anna” about failure
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