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Hurt in the Body & by Triggers. Healed by Needs Met.

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LESSON SIX: HEALED BY NEEDS MET

Being made in God’s image is a multi-sensory experience! He designed us to see, smell, taste, hear and touch. He also designed our bodies to compensate if

• ne sense is missing.

LESSON SIX: HEALED BY NEEDS MET

Meet Mandy Harvey

Deaf at 19 years old. Has perfect pitch and memory recall. She also has an overdeveloped sense of touch.

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Understanding Sensory Processing, Dr. Karyn Purvis

LESSON SIX: HEALED BY NEEDS MET

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

Sensory Needs

Typically, as a baby, we experience the world through the five external senses:

TOUCH SIGHT TASTE SMELL SOUND

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Sensory Needs

In addition to the external senses, our internal senses include the following: 1. Vestibular - awareness of where your body is in space 2. Proprioceptive - awareness of pressure

• r heaviness

3. Tactile - awareness of textures and touch

LESSON SIX: HEALED BY NEEDS MET

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

The developing brain begins to interpret and process the senses with POSITIVE or NEGATIVE MEMORIES.

LESSON SIX: HEALED BY NEEDS MET

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Sensory Needs

Wonky Sensory Registration – Brain becomes confused Early deprivation of vital sensory input will have lasting effects. Does this child demonstrate any of the following sensory responses?

Resists being touched or held Ignores loud noises Unable to tolerate common textures Not bothered by bumps and bruises Covers eyes & ears frequently Do not notice when name is called Touch everything Misjudges distance Seeks intense movement/rocking/climbing Reduced fine or gross motor skills Speaks in booming voice Enjoys nodding, twirling, being upside down

LESSON SIX: HEALED BY NEEDS MET

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

Sensory Needs

Be the Detective - Meet the Needs In order to better understand the children and teens in our ministry, we must tune into their behaviors and tendencies.

LESSON SIX: HEALED BY NEEDS MET

A Sensory World, Dr. Carol Kranowitz & Dr. Karyn Purvis

LESSON SIX: HEALED BY NEEDS MET

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

TRIGGERS

What is a trigger? A trigger is a stress reaction.

• Sight
• Sound
• Smell
• Touch
• Experience

LESSON SIX: HEALED BY NEEDS MET

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

“If it’s hysterical, it’s historical.”

FIGHT FLIGHT FREEZE FAINT

LESSON SIX: HEALED BY NEEDS MET

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

TRIGGERS

Triggers vs. Behavioral Issue The difference is the child’s capacity to regulate their body and emotions and manage their actions.

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TRIGGERS

When triggered… Emphasize safety Help him or her to regulate again Focus on your response

LESSON SIX: HEALED BY NEEDS MET

Emphasizing felt safety and helping a child or teen calm down should always be the first response to being triggered.

• Take deep breaths
• Be aware of physical demeanor, facial expression
• Be aware of tone of voice
• Soften EVERYTHING at that moment.

HOW CAN I HELP

First, Control OUR Responses

LESSON SIX: HEALED BY NEEDS MET

Calmly listen and when there is a chance, say phrases like: “You’re okay” “You’re safe” “I want to help” “Let’s take a few deep breaths together” “I want to meet your needs, let’s figure this out together”

HOW CAN I HELP

Become a Helper: Help a Child Regulate

LESSON SIX: HEALED BY NEEDS MET

Invite parents to share with Sunday School teachers and youth workers the sensory needs or possible triggering events for children.

HOW CAN I HELP

Provide a Sensory-Rich Environment & Healthy Snack Be a Partner with Parents

LESSON SIX: HEALED BY NEEDS MET

On the autism spectrum Medical & developmental conditions Mental health conditions Visit KEYMINISTRY.org to learn more.

HOW CAN I HELP

Sensory Processing Disorders can be found

HEALEDBYNEEDSMET Break…Q & A

Understanding Their World - Adoption

LESSON SEVEN: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: ADOPTION

For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love he predestined us for adoption to sonship through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will — to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves.

Ephesians 1:3-6 (NIV)

LESSON SEVEN: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: ADOPTION

Children Who Have Been Adopted How would you feel if you finished a puzzle, but four pieces were missing? This is how many children and adults who have been adopted feel. The reality is, a finalized legal adoption does not erase a child’s past, nor does it fill in the missing pieces.

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

CHILDREN AND PARENTS

7 Issues from Adoptees and the Seven Core Issues of Adoption, Roszia & Silverstein

LESSON SEVEN: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: ADOPTION

“Loss, the first issue, is like the hub of a large

• wheel. Without loss there would be no

adoptions… For adopted persons, loss in adoption is not a single event, but rather a series of ongoing losses.”

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

LOSS

7 Issues from Adoptees and the Seven Core Issues of Adoption, Roszia & Silverstein

LESSON SEVEN: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: ADOPTION

“Adopted persons attempt to decipher what they did or did not do that led to the losses...they (adopted persons) might become sensitive to the slightest hint of rejection, disapproval, or dismissal causing them either to avoid situations where they might be rejected or even to provoke rejection in order to prove their

• wn negative self-perceptions.”

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

REJECTION

7 Issues from Adoptees and the Seven Core Issues of Adoption, Roszia & Silverstein

LESSON SEVEN: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: ADOPTION

“They may believe there is something intrinsically wrong with them or their actions that cause the losses to occur. Adopted persons feel guilty for what they did (or didn’t do) that cause the adoption.”

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

GUILT & SHAME

7 Issues from Adoptees and the Seven Core Issues of Adoption, Roszia & Silverstein

LESSON SEVEN: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: ADOPTION

The losses in adoption are sometimes difficult to mourn in a society where adoption is seen as a problem-solving event filled with joy...Grief washes over adopted persons in stages or waves, particularly at times of other loss or developmental transitions.

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GRIEF

7 Issues from Adoptees and the Seven Core Issues of Adoption, Roszia & Silverstein

LESSON SEVEN: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: ADOPTION

“Identity is defined both by what one is and by what one is not. Adoptees, born in one family, lose an identity and then borrow one from the adopting family. Adopted children frequently wonder who they really are and where they belong.”

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

IDENTITY

7 Issues from Adoptees and the Seven Core Issues of Adoption, Roszia & Silverstein

LESSON SEVEN: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: ADOPTION

“Adopted persons have reported that they are aware of holding back part of themselves in relationships, always cautious and watchful.”

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

INTIMACY & RELATIONSHIPS

7 Issues from Adoptees and the Seven Core Issues of Adoption, Roszia & Silverstein

LESSON SEVEN: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: ADOPTION

“Adopted persons are keenly aware that they were not party to the actions and decisions that led up to the adoption. They had no control over the loss of their birth family or even in the choice

• f the adoptive family.”

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

CONTROL ISSUES

7 Issues from Adoptees and the Seven Core Issues of Adoption, Roszia & Silverstein

LESSON SEVEN: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: ADOPTION

7 issues are consistent challenges among children experiencing adoption

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1.

loss

2.

rejection

3.

guilt/shame

4.

grief

5.

identity

6.

intimacy/relationships

7.

control

LESSON SEVEN: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: ADOPTION

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

• Who am I?
• Am I good enough?
• Am I lovable?
• Do I belong? (With bio family, adoptive

family, no family, within friendships)

• Where do I fit in? (Racial identity, relational

identity)

• Will this family abandon me?

Common questions are consistent challenges among children experiencing adoption

LESSON SEVEN: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: ADOPTION

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

Common questions faced by adoptive parents:

Parents who have Adopted

• Will my child love me?
• Will I be a good parent?
• Will this child leave me one day?
• Will I ever understand this child and their hurts?
• Am I getting this child the right kind of help?
• Will I love this child the way I have loved others?

LESSON SEVEN: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: ADOPTION

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

Emotional duress for those who hear about or have exposure to the impact

• f someone else’s trauma.

Secondary Traumatic Stress

• Extreme state of tension or preoccupation with the suffering of those being

helped.

• The lessening of compassion over time (apathy) due to the frequency of needs.

Compassion Fatigue

LESSON SEVEN: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: ADOPTION

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

Some reasons that lead birth parents to choose adoption may include the following

Birth Parents

1.

Lack of support, both financially & family to help

2.

To avoid imminent Child Welfare involvement (homeless, addiction, etc.)

3.

Reasons that led to pregnancy, such as rape, date rape situation, or in child welfare

4.

Already having children and not knowing how they will make ends meet

LESSON SEVEN: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: ADOPTION

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

What about those who don’t choose this, but it is the plan?

Birth Parents

1.

What led them to this place?

2.

Often have a child welfare history themselves.

3.

It could be you or I. None of us are exempt from what led to this place.

4.

Still a person that deserves love and belonging as well.

LESSON SEVEN: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: ADOPTION

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

Adoption Disruption is when the placement of the child in a home is disrupted, or “fails” prior to finalization.

Disruptions & Dissolutions

Adoption Dissolution is when the legal relationship between child and adoptive parent is severed after finalization.

LESSON SEVEN: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: ADOPTION

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

• Child related factors: older age at removal and placement, higher incidence of

maltreatment (physical, sexual, & emotional abuse), emotional and behavioral challenges, higher number of overall placements, and unresolved emotions about birth parents.

• Parent related factors: having no prior relationship to the child prior to placement as
• pposed to a foster parent or relative, inconsistencies between expectations and reality,

and highly educated adoptive mothers.

• Agency related factors: insufficient disclosure of information about the child, high staff

turnover, inexperienced staff, inadequate preparation and support for the adoptive parents.

Why Does Disruption or Dissolution Happen?

Child Welfare Information Gateway: Adoption Disruption and Dissolution

LESSON SEVEN: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: ADOPTION

HOW CAN I HELP

Create a Healthy Adoption Culture, Dr. Karyn Purvis

LESSON SEVEN: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: ADOPTION

• Do we have a healing culture in our church where it is ok to express and

process a full range of emotions?

• Do we have a forgiving culture, where it’s ok for children and teens to

misbehave and find grace?

• Do we have an equipping culture, where we actively seek and

encourage God’s giftings and character in all people-including children and teens, people with disabilities or those with hardships? Next Steps: Creating a Healthy Adoption/Foster Church Culture

HOW CAN I HELP

LESSON SEVEN: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: ADOPTION

• What relational structures are in place so that families feel encouraged

and supported?

• Do we know how the current foster and adoptive families in our church

feel about our church?

• Are they accepted, supported and loved or are there elements of

judgement and loneliness to be uncovered? Next Steps: Creating a Healthy Adoption/Foster Church Culture

HOW CAN I HELP

LESSON SEVEN: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: ADOPTION

Resources from AKB Foster/Adopt Parent Survey Foster/Adoption Language

HOW CAN I HELP

Use Accurate Foster & Adoption Language

HOW CAN I HELP

LESSON SEVEN: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: ADOPTION

Honor Confidentiality

HOW CAN I HELP

Support Parents with Compassion

Parents Night Out & Wrap Around Ministry America’s Kids Belong offers free resources to show you how to offer these at

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Adjust Expectations

Understanding Their World – Foster Care

LESSON EIGHT: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: FOSTER CARE

Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep

• neself from being polluted by the world.

James 1:27

LESSON EIGHT: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: FOSTER CARE

Jason Johnson, What does James 1:27 really mean?

LESSON EIGHT: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: FOSTER CARE

At America’s Kids Belong, we do not believe all families are called or commanded to enter into foster care or adoption. However, we are all called to CARE about God’s children impacted by foster care and adoption.

LESSON EIGHT: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: FOSTER CARE

• Number entered foster care in FY2017:

269,690

• Number served by foster care in FY2017:

690,548

• Number waiting to be adopted in FY2017:

123,437

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

LESSON EIGHT: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: FOSTER CARE

Reunification

NEXT STEPS

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Reunify with Parents or Primary Caretakers 56% 242,800 Adoption 27% 114,406 Case plan not established yet 5% 19,481 Emancipation 4% 17,147 Guardianship 4% 15,265 Live with Other Relatives 3% 12,141 Long Term Foster Care 2% 9,012

AFCARS Report

LESSON EIGHT: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: FOSTER CARE

NEXT STEPS

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

• If biological family was truly doing all that they can to be healthy and

improve their home environment, could I be supportive of reunification?

• If the court decided it was time for reunification and the home standards

did not meet my personal standards, how might I respond?

• Am I willing to love a child/children with all that I am even if they leave

my home after 3 months, 6 months, or 1 year? Level of openness to reunification questions anyone considering foster parenting needs to ask themselves:

LESSON EIGHT: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: FOSTER CARE

NEXT STEPS

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

• Neglect

62%

• Drug Abuse (parent)

36%

• Caretaker Inability to Cope

14%

• Physical Abuse

12%

• Housing

10%

• Child Behavior Problem

9%

• Parent Incarceration

7%

• Alcohol Abuse (Parent)

5%

• Abandonment

5%

• Sexual Abuse

4% 10 reasons for removal

LESSON EIGHT: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: FOSTER CARE

NEXT STEPS

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

Separated Siblings Realize that biological siblings are often separated from one another in foster care. Parentified Where sibling gives himself or herself the authority and responsibility for other sibling(s) beyond their ability

LESSON EIGHT: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: FOSTER CARE

NEXT STEPS

BUILDING OUR UNDERSTANDING

Retainment of Foster Parents Nationally, as many as 50% of foster parents quit after the first year. One report from the National Foster Parent Association showed that “struggles dealing with stress” and “difficulty processing grief and loss” were among the top reasons given.

LESSON EIGHT: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: FOSTER CARE

• Walking in Humility and Grace
• Celebrate Reunification while Recognizing Losses
• Volunteer: CASA, local group homes, mentoring
• Host Family Visits
• Support Foster Parents
• Become a Foster Family

HOW CAN I HELP

LESSON EIGHT: UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD: FOSTER CARE

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