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F inding K ind:

A Do c ume nta ry a nd Disc ussio n Ab o ut Girl o n Girl Bullying

AUDRE Y E RVI N, PH.D. WWW.ERVI NCOUNSE L I NG.COM

• Dr. Audre y E

rvin is a lic e nse d psyc ho lo g ist who c o mple te d a Ph.D. c o unse ling psyc ho lo g y a t the Unive rsity o f Me mphis a nd a po std o c to ra l fe llo wship a t the Unive rsity o f De la wa re whe re she spe c ia lize d in dive rsity issue s a nd mindfulne ss-b a se d inte rve ntio ns in the ra py. He r c linic a l a nd re se a rc h a re a s fo c us o n multic ultura lism with a pa rtic ula r e mpha sis o n g e nd e r ide ntity, se xua l o rie nta tio n, ra c ia l ide ntity a nd inte rna tio na l issue s. She ha s pre se nte d he r wo rk a t nume ro us na tio na l a nd inte rna tio na l c o nfe re nc e s inc luding the Ame ric a n Psyc ho lo g ic a l Asso c ia tio n, the Asso c ia tio n fo r Wo me n in Psyc ho lo g y, a nd the Pe nnsylva nia Psyc ho lo g ic a l Asso c ia tio n. She wa s the na tio na l spo ke spe rso n fo r the Asso c ia tio n fo r Wo me n in Psyc ho lo g y a nd c o nc urre ntly se rve d a s a me mb e r o f the imple me nta tio n c o lle c tive . She se rve s o n the Co mmitte e o n Multic ultura lism fo r the Pe nnsylva nia Psyc ho lo g ic a l Asso c ia tio n. She se rve d a s sta ff psyc ho lo g ist fo r the Ma y 2012 a nd summe r 2009 vo ya g e s a b o a rd Se me ste r At Se a , a c o mpa ra tive inte rna tio na l stud y a b ro a d pro g ra m tha t jo urne ye d to Ce ntra l Ame ric a , So uth Ame ric a , E uro pe a nd No rth Afric a . She o wns E rvin Co unse ling & Co nsulting , L L C., is the a c a de mic pro g ra m dire c to r o f the g ra dua te c o unse ling psyc ho lo g y pro g ra m a t De la wa re Va lle y Unive rsity in Do yle sto wn, PA, a nd is a na tio na lly c e rtifie d Sto p T he Ha te tra ine r. Dr. E rvin is a n a vid pub lic spe a ke r who pre se nts na tio na lly a nd inte rna tio na lly o n c o mpe te nt multic ultura l pra c tic e s in b usine ss, o rg a niza tio ns a nd e duc a tio n.

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Gro und Rule s

 Re spe c t/ Mindfulne ss of Othe r s 

L a ng ua g e

 Se lf- R e fle c tion 

T ry to b e a wa re o f yo ur pe rso na l re a c tio ns

 Know Your L imits and Boundarie s 

Only d isc lo se wha t is o ka y fo r yo u

 Sitting with T

• ugh E

motions  Ho w d o yo u kno w whe n yo u a re fe e ling d e fe nsive ?  It’ s no t the e mo tio na l re spo nse b ut wha t yo u d o with it tha t ma tte rs

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Gro und Rule s

 He a te d Ar g uing is Not the Inte nt 

L iste n to o the rs pe rspe c tive s & ide a s e ve n if yo u disa g re e

 Don’t Shut Some one Down 

(a nd b e a wa re whe n yo u fe e l shut do wn)

 Amne sty 

T he rig ht to “sc re w up” in a n a tte mpt to unde rsta nd yo urse lf, yo ur c lie nts, yo ur re a c tio ns a nd the la rg e r wo rld

Gro und Rule s

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Be Ope n to Giving a nd Re c e iving Corre c tive F e e dba c k

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Pe rsona l Awa re ne ss

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I a m sha ring to o muc h o r to o little ?  T he rig ht to “le t it be .”

Pro g ra m De sc riptio n

Finding Kind is a d o c ume nta ry tha t e xplo re s ho w g irls a re so c ia lize d to se e e a c h o the r a s c o mpe tito rs inste a d o f a llie s. T he film hig hlig hts the d e trime nta l psyc ho lo g ic a l c o nse q ue nc e s o f g irl-o n-g irl b ullying . Dr. Aud re y E rvin, who is in the film, will fa c ilita te a d isc ussio n a b o ut c a use s, stra te g ie s a nd suppo rt fo r fe ma le b ullying .

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Ob je c tive s

 Disc uss the doc ume ntar y F inding Kind  De c onstruc t the narrative s of dive rse girls from the film who have be e n bullie d by othe r girls  E xplain how fe male ge nde r soc ialization e nc ourage s girls to se e e ac h othe r as c ompe titors inste ad of allie s  De sc ribe the de trime ntal psyc hologic al c onse que nc e s of girl on girl bullying in the US  De ve lop an ac tion plan to proac tive ly e mpowe r young girls to foste r re silie nc y

Outline

 5:00 Introduc tions & Obje c tive s  5:15 Ge nde r Soc ia liza tion a nd the Psyc holog ic a l Conse que nc e s  5:45-7:00 F ilm  7:00 Bre a k  7:15 Re a c tions to F ilm  7:30 Ac tion Pla n to E mpowe r Re silie nc y  7:45 Wra p Up a nd Se ssion F e e dba c k

Ba sic T e rms

Bio lo g ic a l Se x/ Se x Assig ne d At Birth Ge nd e r is So c ia lly Co nstruc te d

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Bio lo g ic a l Se x/ Se x Assig ne d At Birth

 Ba se d o n c hro mo so me s  Ana to my (T

e ste s, Ova rie s)

American Psychological Association. (2015). Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Transgender and Gender Nonconforming People.

Ge nde r Ide ntity

 A pe rso n’ s d e e ply‐fe lt, inhe re nt

se nse o f b e ing ma sc uline , fe minine

• r a n a lte rna tive g e nd e r (e .g .,

g e nd e rq ue e r, g e nd e r no nc o nfo rming , g e nd e r ne utra l) tha t ma y o r ma y no t c o rre spo nd to a pe rso n’ s se x a ssig ne d a t b irth.

 Ba se d o n so c ia lly c o nstruc te d &

c ultura lly spe c ific e xpe c ta tio ns

American Psychological Association. (2015). Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Transgender and Gender Nonconforming People.

Ge nde r So c ia liza tio n

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he pro c e ss o f le a rning the no rms, rule s a nd e xpe c ta tio ns a b o ut wha t it me a ns to b e a g irl o r b o y (o r o the r g e nd e rs)

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Ge nde r a s Diffe re nc e : Na ming the Myth!

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One se t o f c ha ra c te ristic s, a b ilitie s, a nd inte re sts b e lo ng to o ne g e nd e r a nd a no the r se t b e lo ng s to the “o ppo site ” g e nd e r

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T he Assumption: Gro up A a nd B d o no t ha ve

the sa me c ha ra c te ristic s in c o mmo n a nd this is biolog ic a l in na ture

Ge nde r a s Diffe re nc e F e ma le

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Ca ring

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Nurturing

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E mpa the tic

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E mo tio na l

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Pa ssive

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L ike s pre tty dre sse s

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L

• ve s sto rie s, da nc ing , a nd

se wing

Ma le

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Stro ng

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Do mina nt

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Asse rtive

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Hype rse xua l

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L ike s to b uild thing s

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Are pro vide rs

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L ike s fo o tb a ll, c a rs, a nd wre stling

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So Wha t a re the Ac tua l Diffe re nc e s Be twe e n Ma le s a nd F e ma le s?

(As Do c ume nte d T hro ug h Re se a rc h)

 No Diffe re nc e :

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I nte llig e nc e

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Me mo ry

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Co g nitive style s

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Cre a tivity

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T e mpe ra me nt

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E mpa thy

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Nurtura nc e

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Altruism

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Mo ra lity

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Asse rtive ne ss

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Se xua l re spo nsive ne ss 

L arge Diffe re nc e s:

 He ig ht  T

hro wing dista nc e

 F

a c ia l e xpre ssive ne ss

Ge nde r So c ia liza tio n: T he E mo tio na l Co nse q ue nc e s

 Pa ssive o r nurturing  Ca re ta ke r  T

a ke n a dva nta g e o f

 L

• w se lf-e ste e m

 Miss o ppo rtunitie s  Mo re like ly to suffe r

fro m de pre ssio n a nd e a ting diso rde rs

 Be a “sturdy o a k”-do n’ t

sho w e mo tio ns

 Be the b re a dwinne r  Suc c e ss, po we r, a nd

c o mpe titio n

 Re stric tive e mo tio na lity  Re stric tive a ffe c tio na te

b e ha vio r b e twe e n me n

 De va lue the fe minine

Anger is the only emotion “okay” for men and the only emotion NOT okay for women

Females Males

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Inte rna lizing the Oppre ssio n: Co mmo n Me dia T he me s

 Girls a re se xual obje c ts to

b e use d

 De huma nize d, e xo tic ,

a nima listic

 F

e ma le E mpo we rme nt: Po we r=Se xua liza tio n  A g irls worth is re la te d to he r appe aranc e

 Yo u must b e thin & se xy

(b ut no t a who re )

 Se xua liza tio n o f yo ung g irls

• T

he infantilization o f wo ma n

• Girls ne e d to b e ta ke n c a re o f (a nd

sho wn who is the b o ss)

• Me n a re b re a dwinne rs; g irls do

do me stic wo rk

• A g irl’ s powe rc o me s fro m affiliation

with a man

• A g irl ne e ds a ma n fo r ha ppine ss
• Othe r wo me n a re “c a tty b itc he s”

(who a re c o mpe titio n)

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F e ma le Bullying : I nte rna lizing the Oppre ssio n

 Are g irls inhe re ntly b a d ? Or

d o e s the pro b le m lie in the syste m?

 Ge nd e r so c ia liza tio n a nd

pa tria rc ha l no rms pit g irls a g a inst g irls.

 Pe o ple o f a ll g e nd e rs

inte rna lize “the rule s” a nd a c t the m o ut.

F

inding K ind: I ndie flix Re a c tio ns to the F ilm?

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Wha t struc k yo u a b o ut the film?

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Ho w d o e s g e nd e r so c ia liza tio n impa c t yo ung g irls e xpe rie nc e s?

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Why d o e s g irl o n g irl b ullying unfo ld ?

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Wha t a re the psyc ho lo g ic a l implic a tio ns?

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Wha t a re stra te g ie s to e mpo we r g irls a nd yo ung wo me n?

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Wha t a re the implic a tio ns fo r wo rking with yo ung g irls in c o unse ling ?

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Wha t a re the implic a tio ns fo r inte rve ning o n syste mic le ve ls?

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T he K ind Ca mpa ig n

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K I ND CAMPAI GN I S AN I NT E RNAT I ONAL L Y RE COGNI ZE D NONPROF I T ORGANI ZAT I ON T HAT BRI NGS AWARENE SS AND HE AL I NG T O T HE NE GAT I VE AND L AST I NG E F F E CT S OF GI RL

• AG AI

NST

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RL BUL L YI NG T HROUGH T HE I R GL OBAL MOVE ME NT , DOCUME NT ARY F I L M, I N-SCHOOL ASSE MBL I E S AND E DUCAT I ONAL CURRI CUL UMS.

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Creating An Action Plan to Empower Girls

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