Email: Joy@inspirejoy.org Page 1 Connected Parenting in The Digital Age Supporting My Child Joy Ong Senior Counsellor & Family Therapist Senior Clinical Play Therapist Master in Counselling (AUS) Child Centered Play Therapy (CCPT) (AUS) Cert. Satir Transformational Systemic Therapy (CA) Choice Theory, Reality Therapy Certified (USA) Certified Gambling Addiction Counsellor (USA) Certified Smoking Cessation Consultant (SIN) Applied Suicide Intervention Certified (CA) f InspireJoy e joy@inspirejoy.org
Email: Joy@inspirejoy.org Page 2 InspireJoy f Download videos and resources at: InspireJoy Child’s Brain Development
Email: Joy@inspirejoy.org Page 3 Child’s Brain Development • Curiosity Puberty • • Transitions Identity • • Autonomy Undeveloped frontal • cortex • Poor decision making Impulsivity • What Happens In The Brain Endorphins Dopamine Adrenaline
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Email: Joy@inspirejoy.org Page 5 Useful Parental Guidelines (Royal College of Paediatrics and Child Health) • Is your child's screen time under control? • Does screen use interfere with what you want to do with your child? • Does screen use interfere with your child’s sleep? • Are you able to control snacking during screen time? Cyber Addiction
Email: Joy@inspirejoy.org Page 6 Gaming Disorder • June 2018 - World Health Organisation (WHO) • Published in 11th edition of the International Classification of Diseases (ICD) Gaming Disorder • Pattern of gaming behaviour - digital gaming or video gaming • Characterised by: impaired control over gaming, increased priority given to gaming over other activities to the extent that gaming takes precedence over other interests • Continuation and escalation of gaming despite the occurrence of negative consequences
Email: Joy@inspirejoy.org Page 7 Addiction To Mobile Devices • A need to use the phone more and more often in order to achieve the same desired effect • Persistent failed attempts to use phone less often • Preoccupation with smartphone use • Turns to cell phone when experiencing unwanted feelings such as anxiety or depression • Excessive use characterised by loss of sense of time • Has put a relationship or job at risk due to excessive cell phone use • Tolerance ◦ Need for newest phone, more applications, or increased use • Withdrawal , when phone or network is unreachable ◦ Anger. ◦ Tension. ◦ Depression. ◦ Irritability. ◦ Restlessness. Screening Questions - Parents Can Screen For Addiction In the past 6-12 months, 1. Have you felt lost control over gaming e.g. you tried to play video games for shorter durations of times but have been unsuccessful? 2. Have you ever skipped tasks or avoided going out in order to play games? If they answer “ YES ” to both questions, we will have to consider professional help.
Email: Joy@inspirejoy.org Page 8 Useful Parenting Strategies To Prevent Addiction 1. Be a good role model and limit your time in front of a screen to no more than two hours per day, too. If children sees us following our own rules and being active, then they’ll be more likely to follow our example. 2. Set firm limits for using screen and stick to them. For example, no video games on school nights or no electronic devices an hour before bedtime. 3. Avoid using electronic devices as a reward or punishment. This makes their screens seem even more important. Useful Parenting Strategies To Prevent Addiction 4. Create ‘No-Screen Zones’ - Dining Table Turn off electronic devices during dinner. Make use of the time together to talk about the day. Dinner time is one of the best parent-child bonding moments. 5. Create ‘No-Screen Zones’ - Bedrooms Don’t allow screen devices in bedroom as it will be hard to monitor and it will affect sleep. Move all televisions, computers, tablets, etc. into the family room.
Email: Joy@inspirejoy.org Page 9 Useful Parenting Strategies To Prevent Addiction 6. Spend time to sit with child to talk about the online dangers and ways to keep safe. E.g. How violent games affect the brain / safety online 7. Designate one or more days per week as “Screen- Free” days , where physical activity, reading and quality time are prioritised. 8. Get active when family do spend time in front of the TV screen. Do simple stretches and get children to move around. Posi%ve Parent-Child Communica%on
Email: Joy@inspirejoy.org Page 10 Make time for your child. They need you to be fully present. Children yearn for acceptance. Your child needs to feel that she is being loved for who she is.
Email: Joy@inspirejoy.org Page 11 Over-rescuing disables child’s ability to problem-solve and a ff ects her self esteem. Children need to learn how to bounce back stronger from failures.
Email: Joy@inspirejoy.org Page 12 It is important for our child to let healthy coping strategies. Managing Stress Healthy Coping Without Gadgets
Email: Joy@inspirejoy.org Page 13 Useful Parent-Child Relaxation Techniques 1. Meditate Research shows that even a few minutes of practice can greatly ease anxiety. 2. Breathe Deeply Take a 5-minute break and help your child to focus on her breathing. 3. Sleep Enough Research shows that children get angsty and moody when there is a lack of sleep. In addition, their concentration levels drop significantly. Useful Parent-Child Relaxation Techniques 4. Reach Out Children want to talk to someone and share what is going on with people they trust. 5. Tune In To Your Body Teach your child to mentally scan their bodies to get a sense of how stress affects it each day. 6. Apply Heat Place a warm heat wrap around your child’s neck and shoulders for 10 minutes. Close their eyes and allow body to relax. Massage tensed areas.
Email: Joy@inspirejoy.org Page 14 Useful Parent-Child Relaxation Techniques 7. Laugh Out Loud! Watch something funny or chat with your child. Laughing lowers the body’s stress hormones. 8. Up The Music! Listening to soothing music can lower blood pressure, heart rate and anxiety. 9. Get Moving Exercising eases depression and anxiety, giving your child’s brain a boost of feel-good chemicals. Useful Parent-Child Relaxation Techniques 10.Be Grateful Positive psychology research shows that being grateful cancels out child’s negative thoughts and worries, promoting good mental health. Three Things That I Feel Grateful For Today: 1. __________________________________________ 2. __________________________________________ 3. __________________________________________
Email: Joy@inspirejoy.org Page 15 Ensure that your child sleeps at least 7-8 hours per day. Sleeping well is very important for a growing child
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