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Connected Parenting in The Digital Age
 Supporting My Child Joy Ong

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Child’s Brain Development

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• Curiosity

• Puberty

• Transitions

• Identity
• Autonomy

• Undeveloped frontal

cortex


• Poor decision making
• Impulsivity

Child’s Brain Development What Happens In The Brain

Dopamine Adrenaline Endorphins

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Connected Parenting

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Useful Parental Guidelines


(Royal College of Paediatrics and Child Health)

• Is your child's screen time under control?
• Does screen use interfere with what you want

to do with your child?

• Does screen use interfere with your child’s

sleep?

• Are you able to control snacking during screen

time?

Cyber Addiction

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Gaming Disorder

• June 2018 - World Health Organisation (WHO)

• Published in 11th edition of the International

Classification of Diseases (ICD)

Gaming Disorder

• Pattern of gaming behaviour - digital gaming or

video gaming


• Characterised by: impaired control over

gaming, increased priority given to gaming

• ver other activities to the extent that gaming

takes precedence over other interests


• Continuation and escalation of gaming despite

the occurrence of negative consequences

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Addiction To Mobile Devices

• A need to use the phone more and more often in order to achieve

the same desired effect

• Persistent failed attempts to use phone less often
• Preoccupation with smartphone use
• Turns to cell phone when experiencing unwanted feelings such as

anxiety or depression

• Excessive use characterised by loss of sense of time
• Has put a relationship or job at risk due to excessive cell phone use
• Tolerance
• Need for newest phone, more applications, or increased use
• Withdrawal, when phone or network is unreachable
• Anger.
• Tension.
• Depression.
• Irritability.
• Restlessness.

In the past 6-12 months, 


• 1. Have you felt lost control over gaming 


e.g. you tried to play video games for shorter durations of times but have been unsuccessful? 


• 2. Have you ever skipped tasks or avoided

going out in order to play games?
 If they answer “YES” to both questions, 
 we will have to consider professional help.


Screening Questions - 
 Parents Can Screen For Addiction

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Useful Parenting Strategies To Prevent Addiction

1.Be a good role model and limit your time in front of a screen to no more than two hours per day, too. If children sees us following our own rules and being active, then they’ll be more likely to follow our example.
 2.Set firm limits for using screen and stick to them. 
 For example, no video games on school nights or no electronic devices an hour before bedtime.
 3.Avoid using electronic devices as a reward or

• punishment. This makes their screens seem even

more important.

4.Create ‘No-Screen Zones’ - Dining Table
 Turn off electronic devices during dinner. Make use

• f the time together to talk about the day. Dinner

time is one of the best parent-child bonding moments.
 5.Create ‘No-Screen Zones’ - Bedrooms
 Don’t allow screen devices in bedroom as it will be hard to monitor and it will affect sleep. Move all televisions, computers, tablets, etc. into the family room.

Useful Parenting Strategies To Prevent Addiction

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6.Spend time to sit with child to talk about the online dangers and ways to keep safe.
 E.g. How violent games affect the brain / safety online
 7.Designate one or more days per week as “Screen- Free” days, where physical activity, reading and quality time are prioritised.
 8.Get active when family do spend time in front of the TV screen. Do simple stretches and get children to move around.

Useful Parenting Strategies To Prevent Addiction

Posi%ve Parent-Child Communica%on

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Make time for your child. They need you to be fully present.

Children yearn for acceptance. Your child needs to feel that she is being loved for who she is.

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Over-rescuing disables child’s ability to problem-solve and affects her self esteem. Children need to learn how to bounce back stronger from failures.

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It is important for our child to let healthy coping strategies.

Managing Stress
 Healthy Coping Without Gadgets

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• 1. Meditate


Research shows that even a few minutes of practice can greatly ease anxiety.

• 2. Breathe Deeply


Take a 5-minute break and help your child to focus

• n her breathing.
• 3. Sleep Enough


Research shows that children get angsty and moody when there is a lack of sleep. In addition, their concentration levels drop significantly.

Useful Parent-Child 
 Relaxation Techniques

• 4. Reach Out


Children want to talk to someone and share what is going on with people they trust.

• 5. Tune In To Your Body


Teach your child to mentally scan their bodies to get a sense of how stress affects it each day.

• 6. Apply Heat


Place a warm heat wrap around your child’s neck and shoulders for 10 minutes. Close their eyes and allow body to relax. Massage tensed areas.

Useful Parent-Child 
 Relaxation Techniques

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• 7. Laugh Out Loud!


Watch something funny or chat with your child. Laughing lowers the body’s stress hormones.

• 8. Up The Music!


Listening to soothing music can lower blood pressure, heart rate and anxiety.

• 9. Get Moving


Exercising eases depression and anxiety, giving your child’s brain a boost of feel-good chemicals.

Useful Parent-Child 
 Relaxation Techniques

10.Be Grateful
 Positive psychology research shows that being grateful cancels out child’s negative thoughts and worries, promoting good mental health.
 
 Three Things That I Feel Grateful For Today:
 


• 1. __________________________________________


• 2. __________________________________________


• 3. __________________________________________

Useful Parent-Child 
 Relaxation Techniques

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Ensure that your child sleeps at least 7-8 hours per day. Sleeping well is very important for a growing child

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Sleep

• 1. Quantity of Sleep
• 2. Quality of Sleep

Helpful Parental Control Apps and Tools

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Apple Screen Time
 (Parental Filter) Apple Screen Time
 (Parental Filter)

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Google Family Link
 (Parental Filter) Google Family Link
 (Parental Filter)

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Google Family Link
 (Parental Filter) FamilyTime
 (Parental Filter)

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Youtube
 (Parental Filter) Youtube
 (Parental Filter)

Scroll down to the bottom of the page and click the Safety button

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Kiddle
 (Safe Browser) KidRex
 (Safe Browser)

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KidzSearch
 (Safe Browser)

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