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Sunday, September 24, 2017 Intro and Chapter 2: Grace

Review last week: This is a principal book, not a practical book Ownership Parenting vs. Ambassadorial Parenting Problems of Parenting p.17-20

Identity, Work, Success, Reputation Chapter 1 CALLING Principle: Nothing is more important in your life than being one of God’s tools to form a human soul.

Many of today’s parents have the wrong values. (pp.25-27) What does God value? PARENTS! What is our calling according to Deuteronomy 6:4-9 & 6:20-23? “You could argue that the chief reason God put parents in children’s lives is so that they would know Him.” (30)

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What’s the problem with many parents in parenting?

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God’s GRACE really makes a difference, even and especially in parenting! God’s Present Grace

• Many understand past grace and future grace,

but they do not understand present grace.

• What is present Grace?
• It is what GOD is doing through you right this

very minute.

• How HE is accomplishing what He wants done in

the life of your children through you right now. (Like participating in this very parenting class. That’s God’s present grace.) p.34

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Why does God do it this way? (p.35-36)

God does it this way … so that in our search for help, we would find the Helper, which is Him.

Why does God (and children) not desire “able” parents? (p.36)

At tables - What do you think about this statement?

“If you walk down the hallway mad because your children need correction again, you’re mad because at the moment they need what every human being constantly needs: a parent’s care. But if you walk down that hallway confessing your need of the Father’s care, it is more likely that you will embrace the need of your children for the same care, and you’ll be tender as you give it.” (p.37)

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This is HUGE – God in you!

“Here is the single redemptive reality, right here, right now, that makes parenting possible: God in you! You read it right. The apostle Paul says that you don’t really understand who you are and what you’ve been given until you understand this amazing thing; that God knew our calling would be so huge and our weakness so deep that the only thing that would help us was Himself. So in an act of incredible grace, He has unbuttoned us and gotten inside of us.” (p.38)

God’s Grace Working In Us p.38-39

• God helps us see ourselves [as parents] accurately
• God’s grace let’s us be real
• God’s grace rescues you from you
• God’s grace grows and changes you as a parent
• God’s grace works to make you heart tender
• God’s grace liberates you from the prison of regret.

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God’s Grace Working In Us p.40

God’s Grace rescues you from you.

Our biggest problem is often … … US! God’s Grace Working In Us p.41

• God helps us see ourselves [as parents] accurately
• God’s grace let’s us be real
• God’s grace rescues you from you
• God’s grace grows and changes you as a parent

Sanctification

• God’s grace works to make you heart tender
• God’s grace liberates you from the prison of regret.

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God’s Grace Working In Us p.42-43

• God helps us see ourselves [as parents] accurately
• God’s grace let’s us be real
• God’s grace rescues you from you
• God’s grace grows and changes you as a parent
• God’s grace works to make you heart tender
• God’s grace liberates you from the prison of regret.

Hard Hearts and Tender Hearts p.42-43

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God’s Grace Working In Us p.43

• God helps us see ourselves [as parents] accurately
• God’s grace let’s us be real
• God’s grace rescues you from you
• God’s grace grows and changes you as a parent
• God’s grace works to make you heart tender
• God’s grace liberates you from the prison of regret.

God’s Grace Working In Us p.43

“God has called you to be a

• parent. How does He give

you what you need for this calling? He gives you what you need by giving you Himself, and giving you Himself, He showers His amazing, forgiveness, rescuing transforming, empowering, and wisdom-giving grace down on you.”

(p.43)

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ACTION ITEMS FOR YOU THIS WEEK Getting to the Heart of your Children

• 1. Ask your children, “What do you think is the most important

thing to me?” (Yes, you are asking your children to identify what they think is most important to you).

• 2. Ask your children if they feel safe to share anything with you?
• 3. Ask your children, “Is there anything you feel I should ask you

for forgiveness?”