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Chocolate, Flowers, & Klonopin

Top 5: Women Are Amazing!

• 5. We smell better than men
• 4. We live longer than men
• 3. We can produce a new organ!
• 2. We can produce milk!
• 1. We can produce people!

The Chocolate – Choices

• The steps:

– Know yourself – Know yourself in connection

Do You Know Yourself?

What’s important to you?

Know Yourself in Connection

• Jean Baker Miller
• Towards a New Psychology of

Women

• All development, even in men,
• ccurs within relationships
• Women thrive in this context. Unless….. they

are forced to

The Flowers - Relationships

• The steps

– Identify relationships that are important to you and those that aren’t. – Become aware of relationships you didn’t know affected you. – Use Discursive Psychology to help you!

Relational-Cultural Theory of Women

• “… women stay with, build on, and develop in

a context of connections with others. Indeed, women’s sense of self becomes very much

• rganized around being

able to make and then to maintain affiliations and relationships.”

– Jean Baker Miller, M.D.

Take Action Within Healthy Relationships

• Healthy relationships lead to:

– empowerment to act – vitality, self-worth – the desire to have more connection – and greater knowledge of self & others

• Disconnected relationships lead to:

– decreased energy and self worth – destructive conflict – a diminished desire to connect

The Cycle:

Messages from Society

What is language… really?

Your Public Identity

• Public Identity =

identity is constructed through actions and words.

• “Who we are to each
• ther.”
• Discursive psychology:

when we talk, we tell each other who we are.

Who’s responsible for your language?

• Partly society

– Society tells us what’s acceptable to talk about

Society’s Role?

I go a million miles an

• hour. So I conserve

energy everywhere else I can.

We all have to do 10 things at once. Perfectly.

Cars

The Cycle:

Messages from Society

Stress Stress Stress

Who’s responsible for your language, cont’d?

• Partly us

– When we talk, we add to the conversation.

The Cycle:

Messages from Society

Stress Stress Stress

How we talk and act

• Samantha is very happy with her life. She is

married with two children. Her husband shares the housework and childcare duties. She works part-time and her schedule is

• flexible. Her boss is very understanding and

she gets along well with her coworkers. What do you think of Samantha?

What do you think about her life?

The Risks:

• 1. Don’t think I’m irresponsible
• 2. Don’t leave me out!
• She’s a liar!
• Fantasyworld!
• Must be nice!
• Lucky!
• Well, the other shoe’s about

to drop!

• That’s not realistic!

Ginger

• Ginger: I do. I I have to have my sleep and I

know that about myself? Um, there is a point that when I am up too long, that my stomach starts hurting and I start feeling ill and if I don't go to sleep, I'm going to be a wreck pretty quick. It happens pretty quick, so I do get enough sleep. That's a huge in my life, but I'm not lazy. I mean, I'm up by four forty-five. Well, I don't take naps and I don't sleep on the weekend and stuff, so

Making Changes: Breaking the Cycle:

Messages from Society

Stress Stress Stress

How we talk and act

The bottom line? The language risk!

The Klonopin - Biology

• The steps

– Know your genes – Know your body

Is Different Bad?

Know Your Genes!

Serotonin Hormones

Know Your Body!

You can make a difference

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