Building Resilience through Self-Care Tays Junior High Counseling Department MRS. ROBINSON MRS. DENNISON MRS. LOYD 8TH GRADE COUNSELOR 6TH GRADE COUNSELOR 7TH GRADE COUNSELOR
What does it mean to build resilience? ❖ Resilience (or resiliency) is our ability to adapt and bounce back when things don't go as planned. Resilient people don't wallow or dwell on failures; they acknowledge the situation, learn from ❖ their mistakes, and then move forward ❖ Resilient people have a positive image of the future . That is, they maintain a positive outlook, and envision brighter days ahead. Resilient people have solid goals , and a desire to achieve those goals . ❖ Resilient people are empathetic and compassionate , however, they don't waste time worrying what ❖ others think of them. They maintain healthy relationships, but don't bow to peer pressure. Resilient people never think of themselves as victims – they focus their time and energy on changing ❖ the things that they have control over. https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/resilience.htm
Resilience Is Self-Care: Kids Can Learn How to Manage Stress As much as we might want to protect children ★ Encourage your child to from uncomfortable emotions, the truth is that everyone feels lousy sometimes, and that’s OK. respect their feelings (even uncomfortable ones) One way to help kids be resilient is to help them ★ accept and reflect on their feelings, instead of fighting them. https://www.connecticutchildrens.org/coronavirus/resilience-is-self-care-kids-can-learn-how-to-manage-stress/
Practice putting emotions into words or art Even with a younger child, you can build ★ Taking time to talk, write or just think about self-reflection skills by observing them and asking questions. If they seem to be enjoying an activity, how they’re feeling is a way for children you might say, “What was that like for you? Did (and adults, too) to step back from that make you happy?” If they seem stressed – something that may seem overwhelming. for example, with a new game or distance learning assignment – you can gently point that By noticing their emotions and reactions, out, and talk about it. your child can even gain back a little bit of control. It’s a healthy way to process Journals, drawing, music and art are powerful difficult events like the coronavirus ★ tools for self-reflection. See what works for your pandemic. child. Then help them talk about what they create. https://www.connecticutchildrens.org/coronavirus/resilience-is-self-care-kids-can-learn-how-to-manage-stress/
Help your child notice signs of stress With a little bit of Ask them to pay attention to where they feel stress in their body. Does their ★ throat or stomach hurt? Do they feel hot or tight anywhere? By bringing guidance, your child awareness to what’s happening in their body, they’ll feel more in control. can learn to recognize ★ Remind them that these feelings will pass. their early signs of stress, and use these When the time is right, talk about what may have created the stress. Was there ★ a lot of noise or commotion? Did they just finish a video chat with lots of as a reminder to classmates? Were they working on a difficult homework assignment? practice self-care. ★ Even though stress is unpleasant, talk to your child about how it might be showing them something important: Next time they feel this way, do they need to take a break, have some alone-time, or ask for help? https://www.connecticutchildrens.org/coronavirus/resilience-is-self-care-kids-can-learn-how-to-manage-stress/
Identify coping strategies that your child can use to manage stress ★ Pay attention to what your child already does to recharge their battery. Do they love to blast their favorite music and have a dance party, dive into a book, play When your child is video games, get out into nature, exercise, make art? These activities are all coping strategies. feeling sad or anxious, what’s a go-to activity ★ If your child needs help finding an activity, show them what you do to relax. If you like yoga, find an online class to try together. If you like hip hop, teach that can bring them them some moves. Guide them through five minutes of deep breathing. Whatever brings you a sense of calm and joy may do the same for your child – comfort? and you’ll be role modeling self-care. Family activities count as coping strategies, like cooking a meal together, ★ planning family game nights, getting outside or working on household projects. https://www.connecticutchildrens.org/coronavirus/resilience-is-self-care-kids-can-learn-how-to-manage-stress/
Why is it important to teach kids self-care? ❖ Self care is just as important as academics for growing, developing kids. When taught correctly, self care will help kids identify their physical needs and begin to take care of them, before emotions can ever get in the way. ❖ Our lives are becoming even more busy and complicated by screens and social media ❖ Every child and family unit is different. While there’s no exact formula for self care for you or your child, it’s important to start having conversations now about the best ways your child can take care of their mental and physical health. If you’re able to help them create those habits now, they’ll be more inclined to stick with those habits when they’re adults . ❖ Remember the lessons will always start with you. If you can model to your children that you take good care of yourself and you take time for yourself (self-care), they are more likely to follow suit. https://www.communityaccessnetwork.org/how-to-teach-your-children-about-self-care/#:~:text=Self%20care%20is%20just%20as%20impo rtant%20as%20academics,before%20emotions%20can%20ever%20get%20in%20the%20way.
Self-Care is.... Self-care is being willing & committed to recharge your soul and find your center — “To Be Grounded” at the place of: Unshakable peace and stability, where you can weather the storms of life. ❖ Being intentional in our self-care practice is the greatest act of LOVE we can give to ❖ ourselves. Adopted from Katy ISD District Trauma Training
Self-Care is.... Self-Care is not... ● Stressful ● Deliberate: you plan it ● Selfish ● Refills our cup, not empty it ● Depletes Mental ● Something you enjoy Energy ● If you don’t see it as self-care, ● A Luxury don’t do it ● Something that everyone needs to practice Adopted from Katy ISD District Trauma Training
Adopted from Katy ISD District Trauma Training
What is mindfulness? Nonjudgmental awareness of the present moment . It’s the process of calmly focusing your attention while passively acknowledging YOUR OWN: Being able to control our own thoughts, feelings, and actions, instead of letting them control you; it is putting your mind where you want it to be. thoughts ★ emotions ★ physical sensations ★ Adopted from Katy ISD District Trauma Training
Mindfulness 1. Be Still -Take 3 minutes to sit still and be comfortable. 2. Stop thinking - which is why we focus on breathing, a body part or an object to help us focus on what we are doing for the present moment, not the future or past. Breathing - releases serotonin - happy feeling and increases oxygen in the 3. brain. Adopted from Katy ISD District Trauma Training
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Self-Care is NOT Selfish Much like an airplane mask, you must first take care of yourself before you can properly take care of others. These practices are essential not only for yourself, but they are also essential for your children to learn at a young age so they can bounce back when faced with adversity.
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