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10/5/2020 Finding Work-Life Balance By Deidre Hayes and Madison Herman 1 ● At home chef ● Amateur Astronomer ● Good backwards driver ● Dinosaur Enthusiast ● Want to be Roadtripper ● Adventurer at Heart ● Arizonian For Life ● Boilermaker from Indiana ● Nature Appreciator ● Lover of Thunderstorms 2 Trauma Stewardship An Everyday Guide to Caring for Self While Caring for Others By Laura van Dernoot Lipsky and Connie Burk “Still, [van Dernoot Lipsky] writes, people who are working to help those who suffer...must somehow reconcile their own joy - the authentic wonder and delight in life - with the irrefutable fact of suffering in the world” 3 1

10/5/2020 The Trauma Toll The mind, body, & soul consequences of experiencing and witnessing trauma in our individual, professional, community, and global lives “ We all carry within us our places of exile, our crimes, our ravages. Our task is not to unleash them on the world; it is to transform them in ourselves ” - Albert Camus, philosopher and author “I know the world is bruised and bleeding, and though it is important not to ignore its pain, it is also critical to refuse to succumb to its malevolence. “ - Toni Morrison, author 4 Trauma Exposure Responses * Dissociation Feeling Helpless and Hopeless Feeling Persecuted Sense that you can never do enough Guilt Hypervigilance Fear Diminished Creativity Anger and Cynicism Inability to Embrace Complexity Unable to Empathize/Feeling numb Minimizing Addiction Exhaustion/Physical Ailments Grandiosity Inability to listen/Avoidance *As described by Laura van Dernoot Lipsky in Trauma Stewardship 5 Temperature Check: Where are you at? 10: Burning bright; wood pile ready 5: Flickering; could go either way 0: Burned out; no sparks; ashes 6 2

10/5/2020 How does this apply outside of the work? How does this apply to our work? 7 What did we do? 8 What was the response? ● Monthly staff support group focuses on Trauma Stewardship Principles. ● The group was requested when COVID changed life as we knew it. ● We hold a weekly staff check in as a way to connect with peers. ● Individuals bought the book and are developing their own daily practice to care for self. ● We had a foundation to lean into as the globe experienced and witnessed trauma collectively. ● We are getting it together. 9 3

10/5/2020 “I realized I was taking on my job as my identity. [Trauma Stewardship] helped me prioritize.” “[Trauma Stewardship] gives me the energy to remember ‘this is why you’re here, you can keep going, you got this”.” Feedback and Reflections “As a leader, it helped me know how to support staff.” “It is helping me to gain wisdom to gain healthy habits early on.” “It helped me move energy through and not sit in negativity” “The connection has been what is filling my cup.” “It is my weekly gas tank fill up.” 10 Resources TRAUMA STEWARDSHIP INSTITUTE WEBSITE: https://traumastewardship.com/ TED TALK: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uOzDGrcvmus BOOK: https://www.amazon.com/Trauma-Stewardship-Everyday-Caring- Others/dp/157675944X/ref=sr_1_1?crid=47GAQMQLQ9G3&dchild=1&keywords=trauma+stewardship+by+laura+van +dernoot+lipsky&qid=1598379534&sprefix=trauma+ste%2Caps%2C248&sr=8-1 11 Sources Lipsky, Laura van Dernoot. “Home.” Edited by Julie McCann and Karen Cook, The Trauma Stewardship Institute , 10 Aug. 2020, traumastewardship.com Lipsky, Laura van Dernoot, and Connie Burk. Trauma Stewardship: An Everyday Guide to Caring for Self While Caring for Others . Berrett-Koehler Publishers, 2009. Lipsky, Laura Van Dernoot. Age of Overwhelm . Berrett-Koehler Publishers, 2018. Quotes: Albert Camus, The Rebel: An Essay on Man in Revolt , trans. Anthony Bower (New York: Vintage Books, 1956) Tony Morrison, “No Place for Self-Pity, No room for Fear,” Nation , March 23, 2015, https://www.thenation.com/article/no-place-self-pity-no-room-fear/. Lipsky, Laura Van Dernoot. Age of Overwhelm . Berrett-Koehler Publishers, 2018. 12 4