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Finding Work-Life Balance

By Deidre Hayes and Madison Herman

• At home chef
• Good backwards driver
• Want to be Roadtripper
• Arizonian For Life
• Nature Appreciator
• Amateur Astronomer
• Dinosaur Enthusiast
• Adventurer at Heart
• Boilermaker from Indiana
• Lover of Thunderstorms

Trauma Stewardship

An Everyday Guide to Caring for Self While Caring for Others By Laura van Dernoot Lipsky and Connie Burk “Still, [van Dernoot Lipsky] writes, people who are working to help those who suffer...must somehow reconcile their own joy

• the authentic wonder and

delight in life - with the irrefutable fact of suffering in the world”

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The Trauma Toll

“We all carry within us our places of exile, our crimes, our ravages. Our task is not to unleash them on the world; it is to transform them in ourselves”

• Albert Camus, philosopher and author

The mind, body, & soul consequences of experiencing and witnessing trauma in our individual, professional, community, and global lives “I know the world is bruised and bleeding, and though it is important not to ignore its pain, it is also critical to refuse to succumb to its malevolence. “

• Toni Morrison, author

Trauma Exposure Responses *

Dissociation Feeling Persecuted Guilt Fear Anger and Cynicism Unable to Empathize/Feeling numb Addiction Grandiosity Feeling Helpless and Hopeless Sense that you can never do enough Hypervigilance Diminished Creativity Inability to Embrace Complexity Minimizing Exhaustion/Physical Ailments Inability to listen/Avoidance *As described by Laura van Dernoot Lipsky in Trauma Stewardship

Temperature Check: Where are you at?

10: Burning bright; wood pile ready 5: Flickering; could go either way 0: Burned out; no sparks; ashes

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How does this apply to our work? How does this apply outside of the work?

What did we do?

What was the response?

• Monthly staff support group focuses on Trauma Stewardship Principles.
• The group was requested when COVID changed life as we knew it.
• We hold a weekly staff check in as a way to connect with peers.
• Individuals bought the book and are developing their own daily practice to care for self.
• We had a foundation to lean into as the globe experienced and witnessed trauma

collectively.

• We are getting it together.

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Feedback and Reflections

“I realized I was taking on my job as my identity. [Trauma Stewardship] helped me prioritize.” “It is my weekly gas tank fill up.” “[Trauma Stewardship] gives me the energy to remember ‘this is why you’re here, you can keep going, you got this”.” “It helped me move energy through and not sit in negativity” “As a leader, it helped me know how to support staff.” “The connection has been what is filling my cup.” “It is helping me to gain wisdom to gain healthy habits early on.”

Resources

TRAUMA STEWARDSHIP INSTITUTE WEBSITE: https://traumastewardship.com/ TED TALK: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uOzDGrcvmus BOOK:https://www.amazon.com/Trauma-Stewardship-Everyday-Caring-

Others/dp/157675944X/ref=sr_1_1?crid=47GAQMQLQ9G3&dchild=1&keywords=trauma+stewardship+by+laura+van +dernoot+lipsky&qid=1598379534&sprefix=trauma+ste%2Caps%2C248&sr=8-1

Sources

Lipsky, Laura van Dernoot. “Home.” Edited by Julie McCann and Karen Cook, The Trauma Stewardship Institute, 10

• Aug. 2020, traumastewardship.com

Lipsky, Laura van Dernoot, and Connie Burk. Trauma Stewardship: An Everyday Guide to Caring for Self While Caring for Others. Berrett-Koehler Publishers, 2009. Lipsky, Laura Van Dernoot. Age of Overwhelm. Berrett-Koehler Publishers, 2018. Quotes: Albert Camus, The Rebel: An Essay on Man in Revolt, trans. Anthony Bower (New York: Vintage Books, 1956) Tony Morrison, “No Place for Self-Pity, No room for Fear,” Nation, March 23, 2015, https://www.thenation.com/article/no-place-self-pity-no-room-fear/. Lipsky, Laura Van Dernoot. Age of Overwhelm. Berrett-Koehler Publishers, 2018.

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