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Presented by: Jody Angel-Trejo, Stephanni Renn, Jen Gerdes, & Katie Wright Nebraska Young Child Institute--Kearney , NE

What is Attachment?

We each have within us the “irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.”

• -Robert Frost

The Ultimate Desire of Every Child

Pick ME, Choose ME, Love ME

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=st2jamNWcJM

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• Through the relationship with parents and others,

infants and toddlers learn what to expect of others.

• Nurturing, stable and consistent environments are

essential to a young child’s mental health and neural development.

• The state of the adults’ emotional well being

profoundly impacts the quality of the relationship

The Parent- Child Relationship We can handle struggle, as long as we have access to secure attachment and connection.

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We are Hardwired for Relationship

• Based on attachment theory
• Relationships are central
• Understanding the child’s needs
• Understanding our own disruptions
• “Being With” each other, ourselves, and our children

Circle of Security- Parenting

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Promoting Healthy Attachment: The Circle of Security™

A Tour of the Circle

• -We require connection.
• -When it is ruptured, it needs to be

repaired.

• -When it is, on a consistent basis, we

feel secure.

• -When it’s not, we feel insecure and

disorganized.

Chapter 1: Welcome to Circle of Security-Parenting Chapter 2: Exploring Our Children’s Needs All the Way Around the Circle Chapter 3: “Being With” On the Circle Chapter 4: “Being With” Infants On the Circle Chapter 5: The Path to Security Chapter 6: Exploring Our Struggles Chapter 7: Rupture & Repair in Relationships Chapter 8: Summary & Celebration Understanding Your Child’s Needs for Secure Attachment Understanding Your Own Struggles that Get in the Way

What Do Participants Learn?

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What Do Participants Learn?

• Strategies to strengthen the parent-child relationship
• How to be present with children during the best and

toughest of times

• Understand how procedural memory impacts their

parenting

• How to recognize a child’s needs and make sense of

his or her behaviors

• How to meet the child’s needs by being bigger,

stronger, wiser and kind "Being-With" and Shark Music

What COS-P is and What it Isn’t

 A reflective model, not a prescriptive model  An opportunity for the participant to reflect on his/her

• wn childhood experiences and how they impact

his/her parenting behaviors  An opportunity to experience “Being With”  Based on a model of “good enough” parenting

you are imperfect and wired for struggle but you are worthy of love and belonging…..

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Example from COS-P DVD What are the

• utcomes?

Resources & More Information

http://necosp.org

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“Every child on this planet needs to have one simple reality confirmed: I matter and I matter absolutely to someone”

• -Kent Hoffman

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FIND OUT MORE!

Contact your local Circle of Security Registered Parent Educator to learn more about Circle of Security™-Parenting classes in your area.

Materials developed by Nebraska Children and Families Foundation. NebraskaChildren.org

PA R E N T I N G PA R E N T I N G

The world’s best job is also the hardest.

Join parents just like you who want to learn a simple way to strengthen their parent-child relationship. To find a COS-P Facilitator or a schedule of upcoming classes please visit www.necosp.org. State Contact: Jen Gerdes Nebraska Children & Families Foundation jgerdes@nebraskachildren.org 402-476-7661

Building stronger relationships for your child’s long-term success Circle of Security™-Parenting is an 8-week parenting program based on years

• f research about how to build a strong relationship with your children. It is

designed to help you learn how to respond to your child’s needs in a way that enhances your connection with him, which often leads to changes in the child’s behavior. Circle of Security™-Parenting helps parents give their children a feeling of security and confjdence so they can explore, learn, grow and build positive relationships; all essential skills for life-long success. Be bigger, stronger, wiser and kind Through the Circle of Security™-Parenting program, you’ll start to see that your child’s need for attention is actually a need for connection with you. You’ll learn how to be bigger, stronger, wiser and kind so you can both set limits and still take the time to understand your child’s emotional world. The results? Parents who complete the class say they have happier, more positive relationships with their children and their children are more understanding of

• ther’s emotions and have stronger self-esteem.

“I would tell all parents who would have the opportunity to experience this training to take this, embrace this, practice it, live by it, and not only your children will benefjt but you will come away feeling empowered as a parent.”

PA R E N T I N G

All parents wish children came with instructions. It often feels like we’re just making it up as we go along, never sure if we’re getting it right.

You’re not alone. We’ve all felt that way. When your child’s behavior has you confused and frustrated, it’s not uncommon to wonder what’s wrong with him…or what’s wrong with you. We fjnd

• urselves asking, “Why would she behave this way?”, “Is there something wrong

with him?” or “Why doesn’t she like me?”