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The YOPD Care Partner: A Balancing Act Elaine Book, MSW, RSW Pacific Parkinsons Research Centre UBC Movement Disorder Clinic November, 2019 Plan for tonight. 2 Ideas for managing the balancing act Dealing with loss

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The YOPD Care Partner: A Balancing Act

Elaine Book, MSW, RSW Pacific Parkinson’s Research Centre UBC Movement Disorder Clinic November, 2019

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Plan for tonight….

 Ideas for managing the balancing act  Dealing with loss  Strategies for wellness

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The Balancing Act

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Ideas… suggestions… tips

  • Combine activities when possible
  • Delegate, delegate, delegate
  • Re-evaluate your priorities
  • Revise expectations of family life

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Ideas…suggestions…tips

  • Know when to ask for help
  • Communicate

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Ideas…suggestions…tips

 Endless love All you need is love Love me tender

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Date night  Focus on what is still there  Reciprocity opportunities  Show appreciations

 I think I love you Love love me do Silly love songs

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Loss

Loss  The experience of parting with an object or person or change in a relationship that one values  Minor or major depending on the perception of the loss Grief  The normal package of emotions that accompany the loss Anticipatory grief  When a loss or further losses are expected over a long period of time

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Loss as a care partner

 Expectations  Independence  Privacy  Financial security  Loss of shared roles and responsibilities  Social life/hobbies  Career

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Strategies for dealing with loss

 Recognize what is happening  Journal  Set goals  Stay healthy  Create a psychological family  Create something new  Reflection  Mindfulness  Work together

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Strategies for your wellness!

Find support Gain knowledge

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Strategies for your wellness

Taking care of yourself….  what does that look like for you?

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Strategies for wellness!

  • Say ”no” to ”I should”
  • Live in the present
  • Release those hard emotions
  • Explore the concept of Radical Acceptance
  • Every worry needs a plan!

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Strategies for wellness!

4 steps to cultivating resilience

  • Get rid of negativity
  • Learn to compartmentalize
  • Live in 24 hour increments
  • Feel gratitude

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Pearls of wisdom

 Create “what if” plans  Accept rather than fight PD  24 hour rule  “I’ve had to drop my idea of the perfect family life I used to

  • imagine. Now that I’ve learned how to live with PD, there are

very few times when the challenges seem insurmountable.

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Some final thoughts…

 No rules!  Accept a new reality  You are a spouse, a parent and a care partner but try not to lose yourself in all those roles  Self care is not a luxury…  JOLT just one little thing to reframe a situation

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Some final thoughts…

Regina Brett’s list of lessons life has taught her…

 When in doubt, take the next small step  Burn the candles, use the nice dishes, wear fancy lingerie!  Don’t save things for a special occasion…today is special  Over prepare and then go with the flow  Trust your strength in the current and it will be easier

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Self-reflection exercise

 What is working?  What am I doing well now?  What are some areas that I would like to work on? What positive action can I take in that area?  Is there something in my life that I could use some help with? If so, are there people (personal contacts and professional) that I could ask for help?  What I am grateful for?

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Strengths exercise

Acceptance Empathy Humor Maturity Appreciation Enthusiasm Ingenuity Negotiation Responsible Calm Fierceness Intergrity Observant Self-control Commitment Flexible Intelligent Optimism Sensitive confidence Forgiveness insightful patience spiritual courage generosity joyful prudent spontaneous curiosity gentleness judgement reliable tolerant detachment gratitude kindness respectful trustworthy dignity honesty leadership perspective vigilant

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Want to read more…

 ”Radical Acceptance: Awakening the love that heals fear and shame within us” by Tara Brach  “Glad No Matter What: Transforming Loss and Change into Gift and Opportunity” by Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy  “The art of coping in good times and bad” by Linda Edgar  “Caring and Coping” and the “Care Map” by Parkinson’s Foundation, www.parkinson.org  www.familycaregiversbc.ca  www.caregiver.org  Living with loss as companion, article in Huffington Post by Edie Weinstein  https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/turning-straw-gold/201401/not-do- list-caregivers-the-chronically-ill

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Questions…comments…