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SELF-KNOWLEDGE AND COMMUNICATION You formed me in my inmost being. You knit me in my mothers womb. I praise you, because I am wonderfully made. Wonderful are all your works! My very self you know. PSALM 139:13-14 WHO AM I?

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SELF-KNOWLEDGE AND COMMUNICATION

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PSALM 139:13-14

“You formed me in my inmost being. You knit me in my mother’s womb. I praise you, because I am wonderfully made. Wonderful are all your works! My very self you know.”

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WHO AM I?

NATURE NURTURE TRUE SELF

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WHO AM I?

1. NATURE:

Temperament Theory ▪ Natural Dispositions ▪ Four Temperaments ▪ Long tradition within the Catholic Church

2. NURTURE
3. TRUE SELF

CHOLERIC MELANCHOLIC SANGUINE PHLEGMATIC

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TEMPERAMENT INVENTORY

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KEY POINTS TO REMEMBER:

THERE ARE STRENGTHS AND

SUSCEPTIBLITIES FOR EACH TEMPERAMENT.

UNDERSTANDING AND APPRECIATING

DIFFERENCES CAN BUILD INTIMACY

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WHO AM I?

1. NATURE
2. NURTURE: The

influences of our environment , especially

ur FAMILY OF

ORIGIN on our development of self.

3. TRUE SELF

ATTACHMENT STYLE SENSE OF SELF WORTH SENSE OF ROLES AND EXPECTATIONS CHARACTER FORMATION IMAGE OF GOD EXPERIENCE AND EXPRESSION OF EMOTION HOW WE RELATE TO OTHERS HOW WE INTERPRET THINGS HOW WE DEFEND OURSELVES HOW WE UNDERSTAND THE MEANING OF LOVE HOW WE FIND MEANING IN LIFE

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WHO AM I?

1. NATURE
2. NURTURE
3. TRUE SELF: The

beautiful idea of you in the Mind of God Virtue = Habitual and firm disposition to do the good. Become all that God created you to be through the Life of Virtue

Prudence Justice Fortitude Temperance FAITH HOPE LOVE

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“Though made of body and soul, man is one…For by his interior qualities he outstrips the whole sum of mere things. He plunges into the depths of reality whenever he enters into his own heart; God, who probes the heart, awaits him there; there he discerns his proper destiny beneath the eyes of God.”

Gaudium et Spes, no. 14

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PART TWO: COMMUNICATION

Our Relationship Needs Some TLC Skills for Building a Solid Marriage

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DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS OF COMMUNICATION

Escalation
Withdrawal
Criticism
Sarcasm
Defensiveness
Not Listening
Vicious Cycles
Blaming
Provoking
Using Absolutes

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EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

Learned Skill Requires:

1. Intention
2. Effort
3. Practice

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TLC

STEP 1: Effective

Talking

STEP 2: Effective

Listening

STEP 3: Effective

Checking

EXAMPLE:

1. Husband Talks
2. Wife Listens
3. Wife Checks

SWITCH:

1. Wife Talks
2. Husband Listens
3. Husband Checks

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STEP 1 EFFECTIVE TALKING

1. Make a

complaint, not a criticism

2. Begin with

an underlying positive

3. Avoid

generalizations 4. Communicate in “Bite-Size” chunks

5. Use “I”

statements

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STEP 2 EFFECTIVE LISTENING

1. Listen to

understand

2. Be

Empathetic 3. Understanding is not agreement

“If we’re paying $150 a month for cell phones, I figure you’ll pay more attention to what I’m saying!”

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1. Articulate understanding
2. Ask your spouse if you understand him/her correctly
3. Be open to correction
4. Get clarification if you do not understand
5. Remember to switch roles!

STEP 3 EFFECTIVE CHECKING

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OBSERVE TLC IN ACTION !

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7 PRINCIPLES OF EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

1. Listen and express yourself effectively
2. Be curious rather than judgmental.
3. Be thoughtfully responsive rather than

emotionally reactive.

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7 PRINCIPLES OF EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

4. Be aware that your interpretation does not

necessarily reflect your spouse’s intent.

5. Be aware pf interactive patterns in your

relationship.

6. Be aware of timing!
7. Persevere!