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NW Ministries Conference Motivating Unmotivated Teens If you could? START BY KNOWING THEIR GOAL Dont extinguish the flame Is the future bright or scary? QUESTION 1 WHATS THE BIG PICTURE QUESTION 1 - WHATS THE BIG PICTURE MAJOR

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Motivating Unmotivated Teens

NW Ministries Conference

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If you could?

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START BY KNOWING THEIR

GOAL

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Don’t extinguish the flame

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Is the future bright or scary?

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WHAT’S THE BIG PICTURE

QUESTION 1

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QUESTION 1 - WHAT’S THE BIG PICTURE

MAJOR BLOCKS?

▸ Ability ▸ Physical issues ▸ Mental/Emotional ▸ Relationships ▸ Personal Safety ▸ Addictions

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WHAT’S WORKING?

QUESTION 2

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SCORE

Search for positive outliers

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QUESTION 2 - WHAT’S WORKING?

POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY

▸ Why did they succeed that time? ▸ Focus on what is working to create

action and momentum.

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TEACHABLE MOMENTS

Consequences Affirmation

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AFFIRMATIONS

  • Goal: Encourage

repeating behaviors

  • Use descriptive phrases

rather than “empty” phrases like “good job”.

  • Focus on process versus

the end product

  • Say what you saw
  • Talk less, ask more
  • External to Internal
  • Avoid labels.
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WHO ARE YOU DEALING WITH?

Foolish Wise

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WHAT DO THEY LACK?

QUESTION 3

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OUR PROBLEM

➤ Our kids don’t think there is a

problem.

➤ They lack an emotional trigger

that initiates change

➤ They may lack abilities to

make the change

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BJ Fogg - Stanford Persuasive Tech Lab

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IS THERE A GAP?

QUESTION 4

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Advising Silent Listening Questioning Paraphrasing Supporting Analyzing Evaluating You Are Capable You Need Me Empathizing

LEVELS OF COMMUNICATION

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“MOTIVATING YOUR INTELLIGENT BUT UNMOTIVATED TEENAGER” BY DENNIS BUMGARNER

QUESTIONS FOR EXPLORATION

▸ Is there anything about how your life is going that

concerns you?

▸ What makes you think you might need to change? ▸ Has your current situation caused you problems? ▸ If you were to decide not to change things regarding

school, what would happen?

▸ What would, for you, be the upside of doing better?

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  • CONT. QUESTIONS FOR EXPLORATION

▸ If you decide to change, what makes you think you could? ▸ What does it take in the way of education to be an

_______?

▸ Do you have a plan to improve performance? ▸ Are you currently using your plan or are you waiting to put

it into place?

“MOTIVATING YOUR INTELLIGENT BUT UNMOTIVATED TEENAGER” BY DENNIS BUMGARNER

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  • CONT. QUESTIONS FOR EXPLORATION

▸ How will you know when the time is right to work your

plan?

▸ Is there a time when it would be too late? ▸ Is there a time when you might have to decide to change

your goal? What would tell you that?

▸ Do you feel you are on track toward your goal?

“MOTIVATING YOUR INTELLIGENT BUT UNMOTIVATED TEENAGER” BY DENNIS BUMGARNER

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QUESTION 5 - WHO IS IN CHARGE?

DON’T MOTIVATE LONG TERM

▸ Threats ▸ Lectures ▸ Inspirational speeches ▸ Punishment ▸ Rewards ▸ Comparisons

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EXECUTIVE FUNCTION

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QUESTION 6 - HOW CAN I HELP?

GIFTS YOU CAN BRING

▸ Context ▸ Predictability ▸ Create social dependencies ▸ Focus on what, not how ▸ Freedom to fail ▸ Recognition of progress

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Don’t Only Focus on Behavior

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Power of Lists

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Chore/Flow Charts

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Don’t go too far into the future

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Enforce Good Self-Care

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2-3 Goals at a Time

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Stay Connected

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Guarded and Task Oriented Open and People Oriented Indirect and Slower Paced Direct and Faster Paced

Natural Strengths - structured, accurate, systematic Motivation - Work Challenge - Perfectionism Natural Strengths - decisive action, goal-oriented

Motivation - Power

Challenge - Hard Headed Natural Strengths - easy-going, patient, good listener Motivation - Relationships Challenge - Overthinking Natural Strengths - fun-loving and optimistic Motivation - Fun Challenge - Optimism

Adapted from”LeadingFrom Your Strengths Profile – Ministry Insights.” Ministry Insights.Web 23 Dec.2014
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Before

Worst Case “Tomorrow” Temptation: Procrastinate Vaccine: Start

Middle

This will never work “Uncertainty” It is such a long way Temptation: Quit Vaccine: Move

End

Doubt It isn’t “perfect” Temptation: Never Celebrate Vaccine: Review goals, turn in, Celebrate

OVERCOMING RESISTANCE

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NEXT STEP

▸ Email Follow-up ▸ NWMincon to 44222 ▸ Sign-up sheet ▸ projectpatch.org/

nwmincon

▸ chuck@projectpatch.org

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CONNECT

www.projectpatch.org Facebook.com/projectpatch @projectpatch & @chuckhagele 360-690-8495 TodaysFamilyExperience.com

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