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Mindful Self- Compassion & The Coaching Process One Heart Coaching, LLC Outline of Presentation 1. What is Self-Compassion 2. What Self-Compassion is Not 3. Physiology of Self-Compassion 4. Yin & Yang of Self-Compassion 5. Presence

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Mindful Self- Compassion

& The Coaching Process

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Outline of Presentation

1. What is Self-Compassion
2. What Self-Compassion is Not
3. Physiology of Self-Compassion
4. Yin & Yang of Self-Compassion
5. Presence & Mindfulness
6. Self-Compassion and Goals
7. Letting Go Of Resistance
8. Compassion & Coaching Process

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What is Self-Compassion

 Mindfulness  Self Kindness  Common Humanity

“Loving Connected Presence”

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STAGES OF SELF-COMPASSION

(Doubts about the ability to be self- compassionate? Good sign! Making progress!)

STRIVING
DISILLUSIONMENT
RADICAL ACCEPTANCE

(Refinement of Intention) “COMPASSIONATE DISORDER”

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HEART CONNECT

WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE?

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NOW

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What Self-Compassion Is Not

▪ Pity Party ▪ For Wimps ▪ Selfish ▪ Lazy ▪ Making excuses ▪ Goal to be Achieved ▪ Accepted by Society In General

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The Physiology Of Self- Compassion

 Inner Critic: Reptilian Brain (Fight ,

Flight, Freeze) & Amygdala

 Threat to Self Image  Evolutionary process to

Mammalian Care System (Oxytocin activated & Endorphins)

 Presence & integration of brain*  Gentle Touch  SoothingVoice  * Dan Siegel M.D. Aware: The

Science & Practice of Presence

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Physiology (continued)

Stress Response: Inner Stress Self-Compassion Fight Self-Criticism Self- Kindness Flight Isolation Common Humanity Freeze Rumination Mindfulness & Presence “Our task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that have been built against it ” RUMI

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The Yin & Yang Of Self-Compassion

Yin: “Being with” ourselves in a compassionate way Comforting- Self-Compassion Break! Soothing- Soothing Touch Validating- Labeling Emotions

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Yang of Self-Compassion

Yang- “Acting” In the World Protecting- Fierce Compassion Feeling the Soles Of Feet With Equanimity Providing- Fulfil our Emotional Needs Meeting Unmet Needs Motivating- Finding Your Compassionate Voice Living with a Vow Compassionate Letter to Self

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Presence & Mindfulness

Foundation For Self-Compassion: Becoming Curious & Friendly with the Present Moment. Sense Perceptions Inner Body No Adequate Definition of Mindfulness- Non Conceptual: Bridge into Non judgmental awareness in the Present Moment with Radical Acceptance. Gateway To “Being”

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Mindfulness & Goals

Goals: Big Part Of Life Benefits: Determine Direction Increase Motivation Build Self-Efficacy Enhance Focus Pitfalls: An excess focus on goals can have a paradoxical effect: Rather than getting closer to the goal, we find ourselves moving away from it.

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Focus attention in the Now

GOAL RELATED PITFALLS:

NOW Future

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Less attention in the Now

2. GOAL-RELATED PITFALLS

Now Future

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Shadow- Fear & Worry

2. GOAL-RELATED PITFALLS

A lot of attention for goals means that we spend a great amount

f time in our head:

thinking.

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Fear and Worry

Neutral/positive thoughts:

✓“what is on my to-do list?” ✓“if I manage to…I can…” ✓“when shall I finish…?”

2. GOAL-RELATED PITFALLS

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Shadow- Fear and Worry

Negative thoughts:

✓“What if I don’t succeed?” ✓“I am not sure if everything will work out fine.” ✓“I cannot permit myself to fail.”

2. GOAL-RELATED PITFALLS

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NON-ALIGNMENT

2. GOAL-RELATED PITFALLS

Many goals are set because we believe that achieving them will make us happier

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The Future that Never Arrives

▪ overestimating the anticipated impact of future events (impact bias) ▪ we get used to what we achieve (hedonic adaption) ▪ short-lived happiness

2. GOAL-RELATED PITFALLS

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INTEGRATION

▪ undivided attention for the action in this moment ▪ less frustrated by gap between now and goal ▪ less distracted by (negative) thoughts

.MINDFULNESS & GOALS

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LETTING GO OF RESISTANCE (This shouldn’t be happening)

▪ FEAR = False Expectations Appearing Real ▪ fear = the thought we are not going to have something we think we need ▪ you can never win from fearful thoughts

Backdraft- old pain that may arise when we give ourselves self-compassion. When we open the door to our heart- the fresh air of compassion comes in and the old pain and Fear is likely to come out. (This is Expected & The Beginning of Healing.)

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LETTING GO OF RESISTANCE

▪ fear = a thought about the future = no reality/truth ▪ recognize fear and turn back to the present moment

MINDFULNESS & GOALS

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More Gratitude

▪ pay attention to what is VS always looking ahead ▪ satisfaction in the now VS goal attainment satisfaction ▪ more attention for the way to the goal: easier to see what life has to offer

. MINDFULNESS & GOALS

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MINDFUL SELF-COMPASSION PRESENCE LOVING KINDNESS COMMON HUMANITY

ONENESS

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Self-Compassion & Coaching Process

Integrating and naming practice Requests Accountability

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Thank You!

 References:  Kristin Neff Ph.D. & Christopher

Germer Ph.D, The Mindful Self- Compassion Workbook

 Contact Information:

One Heart Coaching, LLC George Marino, CPC (212) 714-3561 george@oneheartcoach.com www.oneheartcoach.com

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