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Allan Vyhnalek 4024721771; avyhnalek2@unl.edu Austin Duerfeldt 4028733166; aduerfeldt@unl.edu I WANT A CANDY BAR TO I WANT A NEW CAR ART AND SKILL OF NEGOTIATION Allan Vyhnalek and Austin Duerfeldt, Extension Educators

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Allan Vyhnalek 402‐472‐1771; avyhnalek2@unl.edu Austin Duerfeldt 402‐873‐3166; aduerfeldt@unl.edu 1

Allan Vyhnalek and Austin Duerfeldt, Extension Educators

“I WANT A CANDY BAR” TO “I WANT A NEW CAR” ART AND SKILL OF NEGOTIATION

HOW OFTEN DO WE NEGOTIATE?

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PART OF OUR EVERY DAY LIFE - BUSINESS

Pasture Rental Rate Tractor Leasing Livestock Purchases Custom Work

WHAT IS NEGOTIATION?

A back and forth process designed to reach an agreement when you and the

  • ther party have both shared and opposed issues.
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Before Negotiation – think about the Listening!

Communication is the key to Negotiation The key to communication is LISTENING

COMMUNICATE

  • Listening is the Key!
  • (Practice) Make partner repeat what they thought you said

– to be sure that they heard you, or that you said what you wanted to

  • Subject is: (you pick)
  • Make sure that you understand the other person’s point of

view (seek first to understand, then to be understood)

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ACTIVE LISTENING IS KEY

Active Listening Demonstration Use clarifying questions Listen for common ground – parts of the issue where you agree Your turn – audience participation

ACTIVE LISTENING IS KEY

Avoid Distractions Use Positive Body Gestures Listen for Feelings Request Clarification Avoid Prejudice Probe for information Summarize Key Points

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GROUP OF THREE – ACTIVE LISTENING

Roles:

  • 1. Active Listener

a) Pick a non-political topic that you have a strong opinion about. i.e. Vaccination for children should be a parents choice b) Use active listening skills to clarify and understand the speaker

  • 2. Speaker

a) Take the opposite stance for to the topic the chosen by the

  • listener. i.e. All children should be vaccinated

b) Be passionate about the stance.

  • 3. Moderator

a) Observe the interaction. Pause and correct the situation when the active listener is not actively listening

5 min. round

SET VISION AND GOALS – PARENTS NEED TO AGREE FIRST

  • Spend plenty of time establishing the ‘goal’ or vision
  • Suggest up to 80% of the time with the vision/future –
  • r what this will look like
  • Envision the Future! (Mark and Nancy story)
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IT IS NOT ABOUT THE NAIL! PLEASE NEGOTIATE THIS!

Work in pairs

  • One wants to sell a widget
  • One wants to buy a widget

On a piece of paper record the deal, amount; or record no deal Next slide – only for sellers Buyers – look away – or close your eyes

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Sellers

You are trying to sell the widget for about $20

Next slide for buyers – only – look away or close your eyes

Buyers

You want to buy the widget for about $15

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NEGOTIATE – YOU HAVE 60 SECONDS!

Record the deal – or record “no deal”

WHY NEGOTIATIONS FAIL

  • 1. We assume to know everything
  • Self-fulfilling prophecy
  • All they care about is money
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WHY NEGOTIATIONS FAIL

  • 2. Lack of training in other ways
  • How did you learn to negotiate?

WHY NEGOTIATIONS FAIL

  • 3. Lack of Awareness
  • How does your body language come across?
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WHY NEGOTIATIONS FAIL

  • 4. We get trapped by Ego, Emotion, and Escalation
  • How did you lean to negotiate?

WHY NEGOTIATIONS FAIL

  • 5. We limit ourselves by cultural norms
  • That is just how it’s done
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KEYS TO NEGOTIATION SUCCESS

3 keys! Prepare, Prepare, Prepare

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PREPARATION

  • Know your BATNA – Best Alternative to No Agreement
  • Know your ZOPA – Zone of possible agreement
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NEGOTIATION AND THE FAMILY - CONTINUED

Try working on these areas to defuse emotions within Negotiations

  • Appreciation
  • All people want is to be appreciated (are they being listened to?)
  • Affiliation
  • Are parties being treated as adversaries – or as colleagues (family)?
  • Autonomy
  • Are you free to make the decisions, or are you being blocked?
  • Status
  • Are you being treated as inferior, or given full recognition?
  • Role
  • Are you fulfilled with the role that you have?

Communications – continued

OBSTACLES TO PROPER APPRECIATION

  • 1. Failure to understand the other party’s point of view
  • Are we really listening?
  • 2. Be careful not to criticize the merit of what the other party says
  • Don’t just listen to criticize what the other party is saying
  • 3. Fail to communicate any merit we see in their position
  • Find merit, and appreciate that
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BUILD AFFILIATION – TURN AN ADVERSARY IN TO A COLLEAGUE

  • Improve your structural connection – what are commonalities?
  • Huskers, same music, same church, same civic group, weather
  • Connect at a personal level
  • Talk don’t just e-mail or text
  • Meet in person instead of by phone
  • Ask about the other person’s family, grandkids, etc.
  • Guard against being persuaded – or pressured from feeling guilty
  • Be sure to check your ‘logical’ brain to be sure that the deal is OK

RESPECT AUTONOMY

  • Sometimes autonomy is blocked – without even knowing it
  • Usually goes back to poor communications
  • Expand your autonomy – even if you don’t have the ‘power’ –
  • Make recommendations
  • Invent options
  • Recommend joint brain-storming
  • If the other party is willing

Autonomy has to be a two way street – lined with respect and good communications

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ACKNOWLEDGE STATUS

How we treat people effects self esteem and influence Do not compete over status – competing yields negative emotions Treat all with respect Be aware of social status Be courteous to everyone

CHOOSE A FULFILLING ROLE

A fulfilling role has three qualities:

  • 1. A clear purpose
  • 2. It is personally meaningful
  • 3. It is not a pretense
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NEGOTIATION PREPARATION – BEST PRACTICES

Prepare!

  • Remember that good negotiation is not about ‘winning’
  • Need to create more value that 100%
  • How can we create value? Give that thought..
  • Put yourself into the other person’s shoes – what are they thinking?
  • What is their BATNA or ZOPA?

GOALS FOR NEGOTIATION IN FAMILY ISSUES

  • Avoid zero-sum negotiation
  • Cr

Crea eate m more val value! e!

  • Examples:
  • Ecuador/Peru dispute
  • Selling and buying widgets
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NEGOTIATION EXERCISE, FINDING VALUE Arm Wrestling Demonstration

Rules:

  • 1. Need to win as many times as you can in 10 seconds
  • 2. You don’t care how many times Allan wins

Traditional Bargaining Model

Commitment (extreme position) Final Offer Last Offer Final Last Offer Split the Difference Compromise Commitment (extreme position) Final Offer Last Offer Final Last Offer

Threat to walk Threat to walk

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7 Elements for Negotiation Success

  • Interests
  • Relationship
  • Criteria
  • Alternatives
  • Communication
  • Commitment
  • Options

The Circle of Value – HNI Negotiation Method

Interest Options Criteria Commitment BATNA

Communication

Relationship

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NEGOTIATION – DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE

  • Reframe
  • Move their position to interests
  • Move their position to options
  • Move their position to criteria
  • Name the Game
  • Inquire for purpose
  • Negotiate the rules
  • Change the Players
  • Ask for new people or for additional people to be brought in

NEGOTIATION

Not about personal winning! How do you create value for all parties? Think out of the box!