4/27/2014 1
John Gilbert, MS, CES, CCP, RHC, RD
360-202-0725 john.gilbert@ifioc.com
Effectively Engaging in Change
Something about yourself that you: Want to change Need to change Should change Have been thinking about changing
…but haven’t changed yet
Something you have ambivalence about
Discussion Topic
Thomas Gordon’s 12 Roadblocks
- 1. Ordering, directing
- 2. Warning, threatening
- 3. Giving advice, making suggestions,
providing solutions
- 4. Persuading with logic, arguing,
lecturing
- 5. Moralizing, preaching
- 6. Judging, criticizing, blaming
- 7. Agreeing, approving, praising
- 8. Shaming, ridiculing, name calling
- 9. Interpreting, analyzing
- 10. Reasoning, sympathizing
- 11. Questioning, probing
- 12. Withdrawing, distracting, humoring,
changing the subject
Thomas Gordon’s 12 Roadblocks
Ambivalence
Resistance vs.
Clinical Frustrations
“I tell them and tell them what to do, but they won’t do it.”
“It’s my job just to give them the facts, and that’s all I can do.”
“These people lead very difficult lives, and I understand why they eat to relieve stress.” “I’m not a counselor; I manage people’s eating habits since that’s my expertise.”
“Some of my patients are in complete denial.” “My hands are tied if they are not even willing to try.”