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Developing a Resilient Child through Effective Communication Coronado Unified's Educationally Related Mental Health Services (ERMHS) Social Worker Carlee Chiate, LCSW and Case Manager Sophia Frost, LMFT, BCBA Effective Communication in Five

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Developing a Resilient Child through Effective Communication

Coronado Unified's Educationally Related Mental Health Services (ERMHS) Social Worker Carlee Chiate, LCSW and Case Manager Sophia Frost, LMFT, BCBA Effective Communication in Five Steps Step 1 Keep it Positive

4:1 ratio
Have frequent, positive interactions
Use verbal and non-verbal communication
Praise your child for good behavior: immediately, specifically, sincerely
Validate good behavior

Notes __________________________ _ _ _______________________________ How Step 1 develops resiliency: By modeling positive interactions, children learn to focus on positive things in their lives Step 2 Be an active listener

Listen politely
Make eye contact
Get down to their level (physically and developmentally)
Avoid why questions, replace with I statements
Pay attention
Listen

Notes __________________________ _ _ _______________________________ How Step 2 develops resiliency: Active listening skills are essential for healthy relationships on all levels (friends, peers, teachers)

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Step 3 Communicate expectations clearly

Mandatory expectations: Define task, what to do, when to do it, how often
Discretionary expectations: Child can make choices
Supervise-don’

t punish, follow through until the job is done

Praise progress
Be consistent across caretakers

Notes __________________________ _ _ _______________________________ How Step 3 develops resiliency: Develops and promotes framework for how society works Step 4 Avoiding conflict

Give choices
Ignore
Stay neutral
Take time to cool down
Recognize when to give space
Avoid situations that frustrate your child
Pick your battles

Notes __________________________ _ _ _______________________________ How Step 4 develops resiliency: Models effective conflict resolution strategies, teaches your child to advocate for him/herself

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Step 5 Keep communication open

Avoid conversation stoppers
Instead of “End of discussion”
Say “Let’

s talk about this later” Instead of “Because I said so…” Say “When…,then…” Instead of “No running” Say “Inside, we walk, outside, you may run. ”

Put it back on them and buy time
Say yes more often than no

How Step 5 develops resiliency: Promotes compliance and cooperation and helps to maintain a more positive environment for growth and development Notes __________________________ _ _ _______________________________ In conclusion:

Make sure your child knows he/she is loved
Handling mistakes - acknowledge, apologize, move on -- and use it as a
teaching opportunity!
Use “101 Way to Praise Kids” often

Notes __________________________ _ _______________________________ Record interactions with your child for a 15-minute window by placing a tally in the appropriate box -- goal is 4 praise statements to 1 request/demand Requests/Demands Praise Statements

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Resources:

Dr. Glenn I. Latham, The Power of Positive Parenting

http:/ /ocw.usu.edu/FamilyConsumer__Human_Development/oer-power-of- positive-parenting/ Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk and How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk Thomas W . Phelan, 1-2-3 Magic Parenting Book parentmagic.com Gregory Bodenhamer, Parent in Control Child Development Institute Parenting Today http:/ /childdevelopmentinfo.com/parenting/communication/shtml