Confidence at Work Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil. PS. 23:4
Introductions Barriers to my Name being confident & Role Something I’m Learning good at Hopes and Aims
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Whether you believe you can or whether you believe you can’t, you are probably right. Henry Ford
Interviewer to Chris de Burgh … “and to what do you owe your overnight success?” Chris de Burgh to interviewer … “30 years of long, hard work”
“If you don’t know where you are going you are almost certainly bound to end up somewhere else.” Mark Twain
Clarify what you want from work and life
“All the world’s a stage, And all the men and women merely players: They have their exits and their entrances: And one man in his time plays many parts .” William Shakespeare
MY ROLES MOTHER “WIFE” VOLUNTEER EMPLOYEE TRUSTEE DAUGHTER FRIEND MANAGER TRAINER SISTER COACH AUNTIE
“All the world’s a stage, And all the men and women merely players: They have their exits and their entrances: And one man in his time plays many parts .” William Shakespeare Consider the roles YOU play on the world’s stage.
Decide what’s important to you
Set some goals: • S • M • A • R • T
Goals should be : • Specific • Measurable • Achievable • Relevant • Timebound
Would the really smart goal please stand up • Spend more time with the kids • Read the kids a bedtime story every night • Make the kids a priority everyday • Place more importance on the kids
Roles Values PERSONAL VISION Goals
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This next song’s about our desperate struggle to please and chronic craving for approval. I really, really hope you like it
Where does it come from?
Dr Morris Rosenberg Self-esteem is a positive or negative orientation toward oneself; an overall evaluation of one's worth or value
Self Esteem Childhood development Positive or negative reinforcement of messages Founded in reality Self worth not egotism
Susan Harter 5 Domains of Self Esteem • Scholastic competence • Athletic competence • Physical appearance • Peer acceptance • Behavioural conduct
This next song’s about our desperate struggle to please and chronic craving for approval. I really, really hope you like it As well as “chronic craving for approval”, what are the signs of low self esteem?
Building our Self Esteem Small groups work Considering where it comes from and how it manifests, make a list of the things we can do to develop our self esteem?
MY ROLES MOTHER “WIFE” VOLUNTEER EMPLOYEE TRUSTEE DAUGHTER FRIEND MANAGER TRAINER SISTER COACH AUNTIE
MY ROLES MOTHER “WIFE” VOLUNTEER EMPLOYEE TRUSTEE DAUGHTER FRIEND MANAGER TRAINER SISTER COACH AUNTIE My Inner Critic
MY ROLES MOTHER “WIFE” VOLUNTEER EMPLOYEE TRUSTEE DAUGHTER FRIEND MANAGER TRAINER SISTER COACH AUNTIE My Inner Coach
Accentuate the Positive • I’m no good at this • I’ll never be able to do that • I feel bad about what I did/said • I missed an opportunity again • Oh no it’s …. • I must, I have to, I should ….
From Inner Critic to Inner Coach Step 1:Figure out what you want to accomplish Step 2: Set yourself up to meet your goal Step 3: Remove obstacles and problem solve Step 4: Reward your success. Dr. Irina Kerzhnerman
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Feedback in Negative • Factors in negative feedback What’s present, what happens, what’s said, how is it said etc • Impact on Individual Overt and covert
The JoHari Window Known to self Not known to self ARENA BLIND SPOT Known to others Not known UNKNOWN FACADE to others
What can we do to make feedback a more positive and useful experience?
3 factors affecting your image Predicament Preconception Pretence
3 areas where you can portray a positive image Verbal cues Non Verbal cues and behaviour Demonstrative actions
If you always do what you’ve always done, You will always get what you always got
Thank you for choosing DSC for your training. We will e-mail an Evaluation Form and welcome your feedback and comments Any further questions, support needs, training or coaching needs, please call or e-mail me: Cathy Shimmin, Senior Training Consultant & Performance Coach cshimmin@dsc.org.uk 07967 027304
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