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9/12/2010 Boys Adrift CTC 9/12/2010 1 CTC 9/12/2010 2 Young adults more likely Boys Adrift to live with parents In 2001, 57% of young men and women aged 20 to CYNTHIA SCHIELD, 24 were living with their parents; In 1981, the proportion

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SLIDE 1

Boys Adrift 9/12/2010 2010-Schield-Cynthia-CTC-Slides.pdf 1

CTC 9/12/2010 1

CYNTHIA SCHIELD,

Stanford University

  • U. Calif. Office of the President, Retired

CTC Board Member

Sept 12, 2010 2010-Schield-Cynthia-CTC-Slides.pdf

Boys Adrift

CTC 9/12/2010 2

Young adults more likely to live with parents

In 2001, 57% of young men and women aged 20 to 24 were living with their parents; In 1981, the proportion was only 41%. Generally speaking, young adults who live with their parents are much more likely to be single, to attend school full time and to have lower income than young adults who are not living with their parents2. www.statcan.gc.ca/studies-etudes/11-008/feature-caracteristique/5018786-eng.pdf CTC 9/12/2010 3

More College Grads Living at Home

According to Monster's 2009 Annual Entry-Level Job Outlook,
  • about 40 percent of 2008 grads still live with their
parents
  • 42 percent of the 2006 graduates surveyed said
they're still living at home www.newyorklife.com/nyl/v/index.jsp? contentId=13762&vgnextoid=d0bd47bb939d2210a2b3019d221024301cacRCRD CTC 9/12/2010 4

The Problem

.

CTC 9/12/2010 5

The Problem

Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men.

Something scary is happening to boys today. From kindergarten to college, American boys are, on average, less resilient and less ambitious than they were a mere twenty years ago. The gender gap in college attendance and graduation rates has widened dramatically. CTC 9/12/2010 6

Statistics Fully one-third of men ages 22-34 are still living at home with their parents - about a 100 percent increase in the past twenty years. Boys nationwide are increasingly dropping out of school; fewer are going to college.

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Boys Adrift 9/12/2010 2010-Schield-Cynthia-CTC-Slides.pdf 2

CTC 9/12/2010 7

Boys vs. Girls Why?

Boys are four to six times more likely than girls to commit suicide.1 Boys are four to ten times more likely to be diagnosed with a serious emotional disorder. 1 One out of every four males in America has an arrest record. 2 Among the recent epidemic of high-profile school killings, all but one incident was perpetrated by boys. 1 Pollack, William. Real Boys, Henry Holt: New York, 1998. 2 Donziger, Stephen, editor. The Real War on Crime. HarperPrennial 1996. CTC 9/12/2010 8

.

.

CTC 9/12/2010 9

Failure to Launch The Matt McConaughey character is funny and smart and good-looking, but completely unmotivated, still living at his parents’ home. His desperate parents hire Sarah Jessica Parker to date their grown, live-at-home son in hopes that he will leave the nest.

CTC 9/12/2010 10

10% of parents with kids 28-34 have them living at home

Percentage of Canadian parents who have a child living at home: Age of child
  • 64%: 20 to 21
  • 47%: 22 to 23
  • 34%: 24 to 25
  • 22%: 26 to 27
  • 11%: 28 to 29
  • 13%: 30 to 31
  • 11%: 32 to 34
www.statcan.gc.ca/studies-etudes/11-008/feature-caracteristique/5018786-eng.pdf Problem Area CTC 9/12/2010 11

Young Men Living At Home Are More Violent ScienceDaily (July 20, 2009) — Young men who stay at home with their parents are more violent than those who live independently, according to new research at Queen Mary, University of London.

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/07/090 720102019.htm CTC 9/12/2010 12

Men living with mom: What are they like in relationships?

  • Emotionally unavailable; they dodge commitment.
  • Behave like ‘Recycled Teenagers’ – overgrown kids
ducking responsibility: Mom cooks, washes, pays bills.
  • Have exceptionally large egos. They don’t live in
reality; they are disconnected from who they really are.
  • Always have problems that prevent them from
making the leap. Sometimes they make them up.
  • Tightfisted – Living at home has financial benefit;
they convince themselves relationships are expensive.
  • Permanent daters – They’re just trying on shoes:
reminding themselves that they’re not big babies because they still live at home with their mothers. http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/men-that-live-with-their-mothers/
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Boys Adrift 9/12/2010 2010-Schield-Cynthia-CTC-Slides.pdf 3

CTC 9/12/2010 13

The Book

Five driving factors:

  • video games
  • teaching methods
  • prescription drugs
  • environmental toxins
  • devaluation of

masculinity

CTC 9/12/2010 14
  • 1. Teaching Methods

.

CTC 9/12/2010 15
  • 2. Video Games

.

CTC 9/12/2010 16
  • 3. Prescription Drugs

.

CTC 9/12/2010 17
  • 4. Environmental Toxins

.

CTC 9/12/2010 18
  • 5. Devaluating masculinity

.

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Boys Adrift 9/12/2010 2010-Schield-Cynthia-CTC-Slides.pdf 4

CTC 9/12/2010 19

Sax has five causes for “Boys Adrift”

  • 1. Video games
  • 2. Teaching methods/expectations
  • 3. Prescription drugs
  • 4. Environmental toxins
  • 5. Devaluation of masculinity
CTC 9/12/2010 20

Here are five more!

???

CTC 9/12/2010 21
  • A. No Problem

.

CTC 9/12/2010 22
  • B. Military: End of Draft

.

CTC 9/12/2010 23
  • C. Government Safety Net

.

CTC 9/12/2010 24
  • D. Sex Substitutes …

.

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SLIDE 5

Boys Adrift 9/12/2010 2010-Schield-Cynthia-CTC-Slides.pdf 5

CTC 9/12/2010 25
  • E. Female Competition
. CTC 9/12/2010 26

Background #1

. Percentage of US Civilian Labor Force who are ... 25 35 45 55 65 75 1945 1955 1965 1975 1985 1995 2005 Percent MEN WOMEN CTC 9/12/2010 27

Background #1

. Percentage of each Gender who are in the Civilian Labor Force 20% 30% 40% 50% 60% 70% 80% 90% 1945 1955 1965 1975 1985 1995 2005 Percent Percentage of Women who work Percentage of Men who work CTC 9/12/2010 28

So, what causes “Boys Adrift”?

  • 1. Video games
  • 2. Teaching methods/expectations
  • 3. Prescription drugs
  • 4. Environmental toxins
  • 5. Devaluation of masculinity
  • A. No Problem
  • B. Military: End of Draft
  • C. Government safety net (Men not needed)
  • D. Sex substitutes
  • E. Female Competition
CTC 9/12/2010 29

My Personal Vote: Women!!!

.
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SLIDE 6 CTC 9/12/2010

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CYNTHIA SCHIELD,

Stanford University

  • U. Calif. Office of the President, Retired

CTC Board Member

Sept 12, 2010 2010-Schield-Cynthia-CTC-Slides.pdf

Boys Adrift

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SLIDE 7 CTC 9/12/2010

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Young adults more likely to live with parents

In 2001, 57% of young men and women aged 20 to 24 were living with their parents; In 1981, the proportion was only 41%. Generally speaking, young adults who live with their parents are much more likely to be single, to attend school full time and to have lower income than young adults who are not living with their parents2.

www.statcan.gc.ca/studies-etudes/11-008/feature-caracteristique/5018786-eng.pdf

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SLIDE 8 CTC 9/12/2010

3

More College Grads Living at Home

According to Monster's 2009 Annual Entry-Level Job Outlook,

  • about 40 percent of 2008 grads still live with their

parents

  • 42 percent of the 2006 graduates surveyed said

they're still living at home

www.newyorklife.com/nyl/v/index.jsp? contentId=13762&vgnextoid=d0bd47bb939d2210a2b3019d221024301cacRCRD

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SLIDE 9 CTC 9/12/2010

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The Problem

.

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SLIDE 10 CTC 9/12/2010

5

The Problem

Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men.

Something scary is happening to boys today. From kindergarten to college, American boys are, on average, less resilient and less ambitious than they were a mere twenty years ago. The gender gap in college attendance and graduation rates has widened dramatically.

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SLIDE 11 CTC 9/12/2010

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Statistics Fully one-third of men ages 22-34 are still living at home with their parents - about a 100 percent increase in the past twenty years. Boys nationwide are increasingly dropping out of school; fewer are going to college.

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SLIDE 12 CTC 9/12/2010

7

Boys vs. Girls Why?

Boys are four to six times more likely than girls to commit suicide.1 Boys are four to ten times more likely to be diagnosed with a serious emotional disorder. 1 One out of every four males in America has an arrest record. 2 Among the recent epidemic of high-profile school killings, all but one incident was perpetrated by boys.

1 Pollack, William. Real Boys, Henry Holt: New York, 1998. 2 Donziger, Stephen, editor. The Real War on Crime. HarperPrennial 1996.

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SLIDE 13 CTC 9/12/2010

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.

.

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SLIDE 14 CTC 9/12/2010

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Failure to Launch The Matt McConaughey character is funny and smart and good-looking, but completely unmotivated, still living at his parents’ home. His desperate parents hire Sarah Jessica Parker to date their grown, live-at-home son in hopes that he will leave the nest.

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SLIDE 15 CTC 9/12/2010

10

10% of parents with kids 28-34 have them living at home

Percentage of Canadian parents who have a child living at home: Age of child

  • 64%: 20 to 21
  • 47%: 22 to 23
  • 34%: 24 to 25
  • 22%: 26 to 27
  • 11%: 28 to 29
  • 13%: 30 to 31
  • 11%: 32 to 34

www.statcan.gc.ca/studies-etudes/11-008/feature-caracteristique/5018786-eng.pdf

Problem Area

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SLIDE 16 CTC 9/12/2010

11

Young Men Living At Home Are More Violent ScienceDaily (July 20, 2009) — Young men who stay at home with their parents are more violent than those who live independently, according to new research at Queen Mary, University of London.

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/07/090 720102019.htm

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SLIDE 17 CTC 9/12/2010

12

Men living with mom: What are they like in relationships?

  • Emotionally unavailable; they dodge commitment.
  • Behave like ‘Recycled Teenagers’ – overgrown kids

ducking responsibility: Mom cooks, washes, pays bills.

  • Have exceptionally large egos. They don’t live in

reality; they are disconnected from who they really are.

  • Always have problems that prevent them from

making the leap. Sometimes they make them up.

  • Tightfisted – Living at home has financial benefit;

they convince themselves relationships are expensive.

  • Permanent daters – They’re just trying on shoes:

reminding themselves that they’re not big babies because they still live at home with their mothers.

http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/men-that-live-with-their-mothers/

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SLIDE 18 CTC 9/12/2010

13

The Book

Five driving factors:

  • video games
  • teaching methods
  • prescription drugs
  • environmental toxins
  • devaluation of

masculinity

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SLIDE 19 CTC 9/12/2010

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  • 1. Teaching Methods

.

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SLIDE 20 CTC 9/12/2010

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  • 2. Video Games

.

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SLIDE 21 CTC 9/12/2010

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  • 3. Prescription Drugs

.

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SLIDE 22 CTC 9/12/2010

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  • 4. Environmental Toxins

.

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SLIDE 23 CTC 9/12/2010

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  • 5. Devaluating masculinity

.

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SLIDE 24 CTC 9/12/2010

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Sax has five causes for “Boys Adrift”

  • 1. Video games
  • 2. Teaching methods/expectations
  • 3. Prescription drugs
  • 4. Environmental toxins
  • 5. Devaluation of masculinity
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SLIDE 25 CTC 9/12/2010

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Here are five more!

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SLIDE 26 CTC 9/12/2010

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  • A. No Problem

.

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SLIDE 27 CTC 9/12/2010

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  • B. Military: End of Draft

.

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SLIDE 28 CTC 9/12/2010

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  • C. Government Safety Net

.

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SLIDE 29 CTC 9/12/2010

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  • D. Sex Substitutes …

.

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SLIDE 30 CTC 9/12/2010

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  • E. Female Competition

.

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SLIDE 31 CTC 9/12/2010

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Background #1

.

Percentage of US Civilian Labor Force who are ...

25 35 45 55 65 75 1945 1955 1965 1975 1985 1995 2005 Percent

MEN WOMEN

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SLIDE 32 CTC 9/12/2010

27

Background #1

.

Percentage of each Gender who are in the Civilian Labor Force

20% 30% 40% 50% 60% 70% 80% 90% 1945 1955 1965 1975 1985 1995 2005 Percent

Percentage of Women who work Percentage of Men who work

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SLIDE 33 CTC 9/12/2010

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So, what causes “Boys Adrift”?

  • 1. Video games
  • 2. Teaching methods/expectations
  • 3. Prescription drugs
  • 4. Environmental toxins
  • 5. Devaluation of masculinity
  • A. No Problem
  • B. Military: End of Draft
  • C. Government safety net (Men not needed)
  • D. Sex substitutes
  • E. Female Competition
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SLIDE 34 CTC 9/12/2010

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My Personal Vote: Women!!!

.