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PRESENTATION WILL BEGIN SHORTLY WERE YOU BULLIED? 25-35 % are bullied Currie et al., 2012; Espelage & Swearer, 2003; Vaillancourt, Trinh, et al., 2010).; Cassidy, 2009; Dulmus, Sowers, & Theriot, 2006; Kes- sel Schneider,

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PRESENTATION WILL BEGIN SHORTLY

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WERE YOU BULLIED?

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SLIDE 3 Currie et al., 2012; Espelage & Swearer, 2003; Vaillancourt, Trinh, et al., 2010).; Cassidy, 2009; Dulmus, Sowers, & Theriot, 2006; Kes- sel Schneider, O’Donnell, Stueve, & Coulter, 2012; Nansel et al., 2001; Perkins, Craig, & Perkins, 2011; Peskin, Tortolero, & Markham, 2006; Zablotsky, B., Bradshaw, C. P., Anderson, C. M., & Law, P. (2014).

25-35% are bullied

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ODDS OF BEING TARGETED

Currie et al., 2012; Espelage & Swearer, 2003; Vaillancourt, Trinh, et al., 2010).; Cassidy, 2009; Dulmus, Sowers, & Theriot, 2006; Kes- sel Schneider, O’Donnell, Stueve, & Coulter, 2012; Nansel et al., 2001; Perkins, Craig, & Perkins, 2011; Peskin, Tortolero, & Markham, 2006; Zablotsky, B., Bradshaw, C. P., Anderson, C. M., & Law, P. (2014).

Kids on Average Friendless Autistic Traits Autistic + Friendless

1.6x 4x 5.6x

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ODDS OF BEING THE BULLY

Farrington, D., & Baldry, A. (2010). Individual risk factors for school bullying. Journal of aggression, conflict and peace research, 2(1), 4-16.Currie et al., 2012; Espelage & Swearer, 2003; Vaillancourt, Trinh, et al., 2010).; Cassidy, 2009; Dulmus, Sowers, & Theriot, 2006; Kes- sel Schneider, O’Donnell, Stueve, & Coulter, 2012; Nansel et al., 2001; Perkins, Craig, & Perkins, 2011; Peskin, Tortolero, & Markham, 2006; Zablotsky, B., Bradshaw, C. P., Anderson, C. M., & Law, P. (2014).

Kids on Average Hyperactive Autistic Low IQ Home issues Violent

2.5x 2x

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OUR AGENDA FOR TODAY

INTRODUCTION THE DISEASE THE REMEDY THE CURE

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THE DISEASE

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FOUR FORMS OF BULLYING

PHYSICAL VERBAL SOCIAL CYBER

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FOUR FORMS OF BULLYING

PHYSICAL VERBAL SOCIAL CYBER

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BULLYING HAS EVOLVED

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WHO?

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THREE TYPES OF BULLIES

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THE CRAB

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THE SHARK

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THE CODFISH

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WHY?

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THE TWO THINGS BULLIES GAIN

POWER RELIEF

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THEIR GAIN = YOUR LOSS

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Head Heart Hands

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IT MAKES YOU FEEL ALONE

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KEY POINTS

  • 1. Bullying has evolved
  • 2. Not all bullies are the same
  • 3. Bullying changes people
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OUR AGENDA FOR TODAY

INTRODUCTION THE DISEASE THE REMEDY THE CURE

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HOW TO HEAL

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Head

1.Trace it back to memories

  • 2. Seek evidence for and against
  • 3. Experimental challenge
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Heart

  • 1. Become aware
  • 2. Understand why
  • 3. Give the gift of forgiveness
Flanagan, K. S., Hoek, K. K. V., Ranter, J. M., & Reich, H. A. (2012). The potential of forgiveness as a response for coping with negative peer experiences. Journal of Adolescence, 35(5), 1215-1223.
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Hands

  • 1. Take care of your body
  • 2. Take care of your mind
  • 3. Take care of your relationships
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Head Heart Hands

THERAPY!

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HOW TO DEAL

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IF YOU ARE BEING TARGETED

Game plan Respond Team up

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IF YOU ARE BEING TARGETED

Have a game plan

Safety Supports Strategy

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IF YOU ARE BEING TARGETED

Respond

1.Be the Sponge

  • 2. Collect Evidence
  • 3. Strategic Retreat
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IF YOU ARE BEING TARGETED

Team Up

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Game plan Respond Team up

IF YOU ARE BEING TARGETED

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PARENTS AND PROFESSIONALS

ASK GIVE CONTROL COLLABORATE

Holt, M. K., Kaufman Kantor, G., & Finkelhor, D. (2008). Parent/child concordance about bullying involvement and family characteristics related to bullying and peer victimization. Journal of School Violence, 8(1), 42-63. Borowsky, I. W., Taliaferro, L. A., & McMorris, B. J. (2013). Suicidal thinking and behavior among youth involved in verbal and social bullying: Risk and protective factors. Journal of adolescent health, 53(1), S4-S12.
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BYSTANDERS

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THREE WAYS TO INTERVENE

DIRECT CONFRONTATION INVITATION FOR CONNECTION DO NOTHING

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PROS

  • May escalate situation
  • You may become a target
  • Bully’s hurt is increased

CONS

DIRECT CONFRONTATION

  • Immediate aid
  • Disruption
  • Target is supported
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PROS

  • Target may not accept
  • Bully may pursue

CONS

INVITATION TO CONNECTION

  • Nonconfrontational
  • Indirect disruption
  • Target is safe
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TRY TO DO BOTH

DIRECT CONFRONTATION INVITATION FOR CONNECTION

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KEY POINTS

  • 1. Healing is possible
  • 2. Have a plan, prioritize safety
  • 3. Don’t be a codfish
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THE CURE

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AN EYE FOR AN EYE MAKES THE WHOLE WORLD BLIND

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THE PROBLEM

Harms

Bully Target

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THE DISEASE

Suffering Loss Abuse Neglect

Harms

Bully Target

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  • Parental kindness and connectedness
  • Quality friendships
  • Sibling support

Attachment

  • Prosocial friends
  • Low reactivity and criticism of others
  • Family engagement in prosocial activity

Modeling

  • Treatment for emotional and behavioral issues
  • Coping strategies
  • Support for school interventions

Intervention

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Attachment Modeling Intervention

LOVE and KINDNESS

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COMMIT to LOVE and KINDNESS

THE CURE

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SLIDE 48 Hymel, S., & Swearer, S. M. (2015). Four decades of research on school bullying: An introduction. American Psychologist, 70(4), 293.

“In conclusion, there is no conclusion to what children who are bullied live with. They take it home with them at night. It lives inside them and eats away at them. It never ends. So neither should our struggle to end it.”

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THIS IS OUR MISSION

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Q&A

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DO VIDEO GAMES CREATE BULLIES?

  • No - but early exposure (ages 8 and under) to violent videogames has been

found to be related to decreased prosocial behaviors

  • Coyne, S. M., Warburton, W. A., Essig, L. W., & Stockdale, L. A. (2018). Violent video games, externalizing behavior, and prosocial
behavior: A five-year longitudinal study during adolescence. Developmental psychology, 54(10), 1868.
  • No link between actual bullying/violence IRL and videogames
  • Markey, P. M., Markey, C. N., & French, J. E. (2015). Violent video games and real-world violence: Rhetoric versus
  • data. Psychology of Popular Media Culture, 4(4), 277.
  • Some increased risk for aggressive thoughts in boys (but not girls…?)
  • Verheijen, G. P., Burk, W. J., Stoltz, S. E., van den Berg, Y. H., & Cillessen, A. H. (2018). Friendly fire: Longitudinal effects of
exposure to violent video games on aggressive behavior in adolescent friendship dyads. Aggressive behavior, 44(3), 257-267.