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It Takes Time: Investing for Positive Change Cindy Nardini, MS, LPC Selena Elmore, Client Presented at 2015 Louisiana Counseling Association Annual Conference Objectives Importance & Power of the Client Counselor Relationship The

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It Takes Time:

Investing for Positive Change

Cindy Nardini, MS, LPC Selena Elmore, Client

Presented at 2015 Louisiana Counseling Association Annual Conference

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Objectives

  • Importance & Power of the Client Counselor

Relationship

  • The Process of Positive Change
  • Role of Empathy
  • Spiritual Approach
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Importance and Power of the Client-Counselor Relationship

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  • Theoretical approach of the therapist
  • Educational training of the therapist – Ph.D.,

LPC, LMFT, LCSW

  • Specific interventions used
  • Client’s background and presenting issues

What is it that leads to the best

  • utcomes for clients?
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It is the client-counselor relationship that

empowers everything else we do. Carl Rogers, Journal of Consulting Psychology, 1957 Jeffrey Kottler, On Being a Therapist A.O. Horvath, Journal or Consulting Clinical

  • Psychology. 61, 1993

Michael Lambert, Psychotherapy. 38 (4), 2001

None of the above!

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  • goal consensus between counselor and client
  • collaboration on counseling-related tasks
  • emotional bonding

Therapeutic alliance – a relational factor in counseling that includes 3 dimensions:

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The Process of Positive Change

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  • It takes time
  • Awareness of why it takes so long
  • Trust the process
  • Have faith in your client

Positive Change

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A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to squeeze its body through the tiny hole. Then it stopped, as if it couldn't go further. So the man decided to help the

  • butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and

snipped off the remaining bits of

  • cocoon. The butterfly emerged easily

but it had a swollen body and shriveled wings. The man continued to watch it, expecting that any minute the wings would enlarge and expand enough to support the body. Neither happened! In fact the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around. It was never able to fly. What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand: The restricting cocoon and the struggle required by the butterfly to get through the opening was a way of forcing the fluid from the body into the wings so that it would be ready for flight once that was achieved. Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives. Going through life with no obstacles would cripple us. We will not be as strong as we could have been and we would never fly.

The Story of the Butterfly

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Using both hands, put your thumb up on one hand, and your pinky up on the other hand. Then have the pinky and thumb switch places.

Continue to switch. It’s harder to do than you might think, but guess what? So is experiencing

  • empathy. It takes practice. It’s hard work, sometimes, but in the end, it’s worth it.

Experiential Activity

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Role of Empathy

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Brene’ Brown - The Power of Empathy

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Empathy

  • Webster defines empathy as: The action of

understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or the present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated directly.

  • It is the ability to accurately understand and sensitively

respond to the experience of another living being.

  • It is the sharing and recognizing the emotions and

experiences of another person.

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What does empathy do for the client?

  • Unlocks vulnerability
  • Gives validation
  • Exposes shame
  • Builds self-esteem
  • Develops trust
  • Builds courage
  • Cultivates worthiness
  • Encourages connection
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Empathy

Unlocks vulnerability Offers validation Exposes shame Builds Self- confidence Develops trust Builds courage Cultivates worthiness Encourages connection
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Unlocks Vulnerability

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Empathy

Unlocks vulnerability Offers validation Exposes shame Builds Self- confidence Develops trust Builds courage Cultivates worthiness Encourages connection
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Offers Validation

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Empathy

Unlocks vulnerability Offers validation Exposes shame Builds Self- confidence Develops trust Builds courage Cultivates worthiness Encourages connection
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Exposes Shame

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Empathy

Unlocks vulnerability Offers validation Exposes shame Builds Self- confidence Develops trust Builds courage Cultivates worthiness Encourages connection
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Builds Self-Confidence

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Empathy

Unlocks vulnerability Offers validation Exposes shame Builds Self- confidence Develops trust Builds courage Cultivates worthiness Encourages connection
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Develops Trust

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Empathy

Unlocks vulnerability Offers validation Exposes shame Builds Self- confidence Develops trust Builds courage Cultivates worthiness Encourages connection
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Builds Courage

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Empathy

Unlocks vulnerability Offers validation Exposes shame Builds Self- confidence Develops trust Builds courage Cultivates worthiness Encourages connection
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Cultivates Worthiness

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Empathy

Unlocks vulnerability Offers validation Exposes shame Builds Self- confidence Develops trust Builds courage Cultivates worthiness Encourages connection
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Encourages Connection

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Spiritual Approach

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  • Life is meant to be shared
  • The Bible calls shared experience fellowship.
  • In real fellowship people experience:
  • Authenticity: 1 John 1:7-8; James 5:16a
  • Mutuality: Romans 1:12; Romans 14:19
  • Sympathy/empathy: Colossians 3:12;

Galatians 6:2

  • Mercy: 2 Corinthians 2:7; Colossians 3:13
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  • James 3:18
  • It takes both God’s power and our efforts to produce a

loving community.

  • Cultivating community takes:
  • Honesty: Proverbs 24:26; Proverbs 28:23
  • Humility: 1Peter 5:5; Philippians 2:3-4
  • Courtesy: Romans 15:2; Titus 3:2
  • Confidentiality: Proverbs 16:28
  • Frequency: Hebrews 10:25; Acts 2:46

Cultivating Community

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  • It takes time. No shortcuts. Ecclesiastes 3:1
  • You can only work on what you understand at

the moment. Philippians 1:6; Colossians 3:10

  • Growth is gradual. 2 Corinthians 3:18

The Process of Positive Change/Spiritual Maturity

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  • We are slow learners.
  • We have a lot to unlearn. Romans 13:12
  • We are afraid to face the truth about ourselves.
  • Growth is often painful and scary.
  • Habits take time to develop. 1 Timothy 4:15

Why does it take so long?

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  • Believe God is working in your life even when

you don’t feel it.

  • Keep a notebook or journal of lessons learned.

Hebrews 2:1

  • Be patient with God and yourself. James 1:4
  • Don’t get discouraged. Hebrews 2:3

Don’t get in a hurry. Trust the process.

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Q&A

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References

Brown, Brené. (2010). The Power of Vulnerability. Retrieved from http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability TED Talk. Brown, Brené. (2012). Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. New York: Gotham Books. Horvath, A.O. Journal or Consulting Clinical Psychology. 61, 1993 Kottler, Jeffrey. On Being a Therapist Lambert, Michael. Psychotherapy. 38 (4), 2001 Rogers, Carl. Journal of Consulting Psychology, 1957 The RSA. (2013, December 10). RSA Shorts – The Power of

  • Vulnerability. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw

Warren, Rick. The Purpose Driven Life. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2002

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Cindy Nardini, MS, LPC

Cindy L. Nardini, M.S., LPC is in private practice in Alexandria, LA. She is one of the owner/operators
  • f Life Solutions of Alexandria, Inc. a small outpatient counseling/psychotherapy center that consists
  • f four other LPCs/LMFTs. Cindy received her Masters of Science in Clinical Psychology from
Northwestern State University in 1986. She worked at Central Louisiana State Hospital on the Adolescent and Children’s Unit and RiverNorth Psychiatric Hospital before going into private
  • practice. She has been very involved in LCA – serving as Public Relations Committee Chair;
Secretary, President-Elect, and President of LMHCA; President of LCA, and Government Relations Co-Chair. Cindy is currently serving LCA as GR Chair. She resides in Pineville, Louisiana and is active in her church and community. Cindy is married and has three young adult children and 1 granddaughter (with the 2nd one on the way!). Email: cnardini@juno.com

Selena Elmore, Client

Selena Elmore moved from Patterson, LA to Pineville, LA to attend Louisiana College in 1992. She won a scholarship to pursue a degree in Elementary Education. She attended LSUA in 2003 as a pre- med student with aspirations to attend medical school. Life happened and she didn’t get to complete either of those degrees. She loves being creative and decided to start a business called Polka Dot Designs, primarily making jewelry, children’s clothes and hair bows. Today, her business has a new name, Selena Creates, and has expanded it’s product line to include graphic design, invitations, and custom items such as t-shirts, onesies, and decals. She resides in Pineville, LA and attends Emmanuel Baptist Church and is a member of the sanctuary choir and the Emmanuel Ringers handbell choir. In the evenings, her day is complete when she sits down in her comfy chair with a crochet hook and skein of yarn in hand and her four-legged child, her kitty named Shelby, in her lap. She is currently crocheting hats for the homeless to help them stay warm this winter. Email: sme@bellsouth.net